The Influence of Upbringing on Romantic Choices
Description
A Few Thoughts on Conflict in Dating
Why Trying to "Be More Feminine or Masculine" is a Trap
"Not Good Enough"
Chasing After Instant Chemistry is Foolish
Does Longevity in the Past = Mature Dater Today?
Are You Really Prepared for a Relationship?
Guys Don’t Want to Date “One of The Guys”
Things I Have Learned About Dating
Fear in Dating and Relationships
Does the Person You're Dating Make You Smile
Marrige and Happiness
Is Your Resolution to Find Love in the New Year?
Disappearing Dates
Jen
Jen
May 16, 2013 at 4:37 pm | Permalink
Excellent article.
Re. September 23rd, there is more information about Bi Visibility Day on the september23.bi.org website and its associated twitter / facebook pages.
Tracey
Tracey
May 17, 2013 at 9:46 am | Permalink
My partner and I write books for women who are coming out as lesbian, bisexual or questioning. We also have an online support group, and since 2003 our group has supported over 5,000 women worldwide. I just wanted to write that this is an excellent article, and I am going to send a link to it to our support group members and also post it on our social networks. We have over 1,000 members in our group right now and around the same in our social network : )
May 28, 2013 at 10:07 am | Permalink
This is interesting. I’ve always thought of bi being part of the terms gay, homophobia, etc. So, when I’ve used them, I never intended to be exclusionary.
Words are a tricky thing. Even the most well intentioned people who think they are well informed can still say the wrong thing.
This specifically makes me think of a situation recently where my boyfriend asked someone he’d been talking to for a long time if they’d prefer to be referred to as ‘he’ or ‘she’ since my boyfriend was sincerely not sure and wanted to say the right thing. In this case, the person in question said that whenever possible the best thing would just be to actually use their name and avoid those words, but otherwise, either was fine. They were also just really happy they were asked rather than some assumption be made.
I find it interesting that the question asked was an “A or B” question, and the answer was something like “C and either A or B is also okay”. We think we’re well informed people, and then we realize we actually don’t even know enough to ask the completely correct question. There are so many different variations on identity. The important part is caring enough to ask, keeping an open mind, and trying not to make too many assumptions (and letting them go when you find out you did).
Why Trying to "Be More Feminine or Masculine" is a Trap
"Not Good Enough"
Chasing After Instant Chemistry is Foolish
Does Longevity in the Past = Mature Dater Today?
Are You Really Prepared for a Relationship?
Guys Don’t Want to Date “One of The Guys”
Things I Have Learned About Dating
Fear in Dating and Relationships
Does the Person You're Dating Make You Smile
Marrige and Happiness
Is Your Resolution to Find Love in the New Year?
Disappearing Dates
Jen
Jen
May 16, 2013 at 4:37 pm | Permalink
Excellent article.
Re. September 23rd, there is more information about Bi Visibility Day on the september23.bi.org website and its associated twitter / facebook pages.
Tracey
Tracey
May 17, 2013 at 9:46 am | Permalink
My partner and I write books for women who are coming out as lesbian, bisexual or questioning. We also have an online support group, and since 2003 our group has supported over 5,000 women worldwide. I just wanted to write that this is an excellent article, and I am going to send a link to it to our support group members and also post it on our social networks. We have over 1,000 members in our group right now and around the same in our social network : )
May 28, 2013 at 10:07 am | Permalink
This is interesting. I’ve always thought of bi being part of the terms gay, homophobia, etc. So, when I’ve used them, I never intended to be exclusionary.
Words are a tricky thing. Even the most well intentioned people who think they are well informed can still say the wrong thing.
This specifically makes me think of a situation recently where my boyfriend asked someone he’d been talking to for a long time if they’d prefer to be referred to as ‘he’ or ‘she’ since my boyfriend was sincerely not sure and wanted to say the right thing. In this case, the person in question said that whenever possible the best thing would just be to actually use their name and avoid those words, but otherwise, either was fine. They were also just really happy they were asked rather than some assumption be made.
I find it interesting that the question asked was an “A or B” question, and the answer was something like “C and either A or B is also okay”. We think we’re well informed people, and then we realize we actually don’t even know enough to ask the completely correct question. There are so many different variations on identity. The important part is caring enough to ask, keeping an open mind, and trying not to make too many assumptions (and letting them go when you find out you did).
Début de l'événement
26.12.2022
Fin de l'événement
26.12.2022