1.1# Des communs près de chez nous : témoignages
1.1# Des communs près de chez nous : témoignages
Séquence de la formation
- 1. Les communs sont parmi nous
Objectif d'apprentissage
Permettre aux apprenants de se faire une image de ce qu'est un commun (activités, visages…) Constituer une première liste de questions soulevées par les témoignages via un webinaire interactif et le forum, pour capitalisation et orientation d'autres sessions de formation mutuelle.
Contenus et interactions proposés aux participants
Témoignage et rencontre avec des structures organisées en communs (formes de commoning) :
- La section de commune de Mourex (Olivier Hymas et Gretchen Walters)
- Le tiers-lieu de La Myne à Villeurbane (Benjamin Chow-Petit et Sylvie Fredrikson)
- Framasoft (Angie Gaudion, Pouhiou)
Type d'activité
- Partage d'expériences
Durée estimée (en minutes)
30mn pour les trois capsules vidéos de témoignage + 60mn de webinaire débat avec les représentants de ces trois communs
Type de support
- Capsule vidéo produite pour le Mooc
- Webinaire interactif
Témoignages / intervenant-es pressenti-es
Exemples de structures organisées en communs (formes de commoning)
Optionnelles : forum, questions-réponses avec les personnes qui témoignent avec animation/modération par le responsable de l'activité.
Optionnelles : forum, questions-réponses avec les personnes qui témoignent avec animation/modération par le responsable de l'activité.
Contraintes techniques (tournages, interviews, déplacements, organisation de réunions…)
Il s'agit de 1) choisir trois communs sur des objets différents (par exemple : commun de la nature, commun matériel, commun immatériel...) 2) Interviewer et filmer des témoins dans leur environnement 3) Réaliser le montage pour une capsule qui ne dépasse pas 10 minutes par témoignage 4) Rassembler l'accès à des ressources ouvertes par ces témoins pour "aller plus loin" pour celles et ceux qui s'y intéressent. Il faut disposer d'un outil de forum avec une animation/modération dont l'objectif sera double : permettre la discussion directe avec les témoins et les responsables de l'activité + constituer une source d'inspiration pour la conception d'autres sessions du Mooc.
Coûts de production prévisionnels
- Le coût de la fabrication des capsules -> 18 heures de prise de vue/enregistrement + 12 heures de montage capsules (30*50 euros)+ 6 forfaits de de déplacement (6*250 euros) -> 3000 euros. Location de matériel : 500
1.2# Comment définir ce qu'est un commun ?
1.2# Comment définir ce qu'est un commun ?
Séquence de la formation
- 1. Les communs sont parmi nous
Objectif d'apprentissage
Proposer aux apprenants une première approche théorique de ce que sont les communs : une ressource, une construction sociale, une communauté, des règles de gouvernance autogérées…
Contenus et interactions proposés aux participants
Trois capsules vidéos permettant un décryptage conceptuel des témoignages découverts lors de l'activité précédente, suivies d'un webinaire interactif avec les trois intervenant-es
Type d'activité
- Apport théorique
Durée estimée (en minutes)
30mn pour les 3 capsules vidéo + 60mn de webinaire interactif
Type de support
- Capsule vidéo produite pour le Mooc
Témoignages / intervenant-es pressenti-es
- Alise Meuris (ingénieure paysagiste, co-animatrice du groupe de travail sur les communs de la nature)
- Simon Sarazin (contributeur de communs, fondateur du tiers-lieu "La Coroutine" à Lille)
- Valérie Peugeot (chercheuse à Orange Lab, spécialiste des communs numériques)
Contraintes techniques (tournages, interviews, déplacements, organisation de réunions…)
Interviewer et filmer les trois intervenants puis monter pour chacun une capsule de 10mn
Trouver une date de webinaire où ils puissent être présent-es
Trouver une date de webinaire où ils puissent être présent-es
Coûts de production prévisionnels
-> à compléter
1.3# Qu'est-ce qui fait "commun" ?
1.3# Qu'est-ce qui fait "commun" ?
Séquence de la formation
- 1. Les communs sont parmi nous
Objectif d'apprentissage
Il s'agit de réfléchir avec les témoins mobilisés pour la première activité de ce mooc, sur ce qui fait "commun" dans les trois cas. Le résultat est un document partagé initié pendant une séance de travail interactive et complété en asynchrone par les participants.
Contenus et interactions proposés aux participants
Les animateurs de l'activité préparent une session d'intelligence collective consistant à ouvrir la discussion sur un certain nombre de points levés par les témoins (pendant le reportage) et les participants sur le forum. Par exemple : qu'est-ce qui explique le bon fonctionnement ? les moments difficiles ? Quelles approches économiques ? Quelles approches de gouvernance ? en tentant de noter ce qui est similaire de ce qui est différent d'un témoignage à l'autre avec les éléments principaux d'explication de ces différences.
Type d'activité
- Co-construction
Type de support
- Webinaire interactif
- Travail asynchrone sur le Wiki
Témoignages / intervenant-es pressenti-es
- Section de communes de Mourex
- La Myne à Villeurbane
- Framasoft
Contraintes techniques (tournages, interviews, déplacements, organisation de réunions…)
Animation d'une co-écriture en asynchrone, type animation de communauté + intelligence collective -> un RV de celles et ceux qui se sont inscrit.e.s dans cette approfondissement.
Coûts de production prévisionnels
Animation, rédaction des documents co-construits -> Document de synthèse de la session 1. 20-30h de travail par une personne maîtrisant bien les techniques d'intelligence collective pour permettre cette co-construction -> 1500-2750 euros.
2.1# Faire ensemble et partager les connaissances -Alain propose -> De la ressource à protéger au bien commun : la "mise en communs" par un collectif
2.1# Faire ensemble et partager les connaissances -Alain propose -> De la ressource à protéger au bien commun : la "mise en communs" par un collectif
Séquence de la formation
- 2.Les communs : une construction sociale et culturelle autour d'une ressource et de connaissances partagées
Objectif d'apprentissage
Donner à comprendre par l'exemple qu'avant d'être une ressource, un "bien commun", les communs sont avant tout l'objet dune construction sociale, d'une dynamique de personnes qui décident de faire ensemble et de partager les connaissances.
Contenus et interactions proposés aux participants
Le témoignage des acteurs d'un verger collectif en lutte contre l'urbanisation, d'une coopérative d'habitants au sein d'un éco-quartier ainsi que de l'encyclopédie participtative Wikipedia, permettra aux apprenant-es de mesurer et qualifier la réalité des communs en tant que construction sociale.
Type d'activité
- Partage d'expériences
Durée estimée (en minutes)
30mn pour les témoignages + 45mn pour le webinaire interactif
Type de support
- Capsule vidéo produite pour le Mooc
- Webinaire interactif
Témoignages / intervenant-es pressenti-es
- Les murs à pêches à Montreuil (Frédéric Sultan)
- Abricoop coopérative d'habitants à Toulouse (Thomas Bertet)
- Wikipedia (Florence Devouard)
Coûts de production prévisionnels
Filmage, montage, production des séquences vidéos : (chiffrer)
Préparation,animation webinaire, production des contenus échangés (documents, captures vidéos montées, .. ) : (chiffrer)
Préparation,animation webinaire, production des contenus échangés (documents, captures vidéos montées, .. ) : (chiffrer)
2.2# Les communs sociaux, culturels et de la connaissance : apport théorique
2.2# Les communs sociaux, culturels et de la connaissance : apport théorique
Séquence de la formation
- 2.Les communs : une construction sociale et culturelle autour d'une ressource et de connaissances partagées
Objectif d'apprentissage
Il s'agit de voir à quel point les connaissances partagées sont essentielles pour les processus de mise en communs quel que soit l'objet mis en commun. Deux auteurs sont invités à clarifier ce rôle essentiel à partir de leurs études et publications.
Contenus et interactions proposés aux participants
Une capsule vidéo de chaque auteur sur le sujet, les références intéressantes sur le sujet partagées et un webinaire permettant d'aller plus loin pour examiner comment faire en pratique pour cette mise en partage efficace des connaissances nécessaires à la mise en communs et à la bonne santé de l'objet mis en communs.
Type d'activité
- Apport théorique
Type de support
- Capsule vidéo produite pour le Mooc
- Webinaire interactif
Témoignages / intervenant-es pressenti-es
Hervé Defalvard
Hervé Le Crosnier
Hervé Le Crosnier
Contraintes techniques (tournages, interviews, déplacements, organisation de réunions…)
Interviews à distance, réunion préparatoire au webinaire, debriefs à organiser. Capacités de capture des webinaires et de la prise de note du webinaire.
Coûts de production prévisionnels
Filmage, montage, production des 2 vidéos : à chiffrer
Préparation, animation et production des documents issus de la capture et de la documentation (bloc note) du Webinaire.
Préparation, animation et production des documents issus de la capture et de la documentation (bloc note) du Webinaire.
2.3# Faire société en commun
2.3# Faire société en commun
Séquence de la formation
- 2.Les communs : une construction sociale et culturelle autour d'une ressource et de connaissances partagées
Objectif d'apprentissage
Comprendre par la mise en situation pourquoi et comment le développement des ressources (matérielles et imatérielles) partagées et gérées en commun permettrait de refonder notre rapport à l'intérêt général, à l'implication citoyenne et à la démocratie.
Contenus et interactions proposés aux participants
Cette activité pourrait être organisée sous la forme d'ateliers participatifs d'une durée de 90 minutes, composés chacun d'une vingtaine de participant-es (rencontres physiques en local si possible ou à distance pour les participant-es isolé-es). Sur la base d'exemples concrets apportés ou connus des participant-es, les animateurs/trices proposent un format d'intelligence collective de type "accélérateur de projet". Un wébinaire de "rendu" des ateliers permettra de documenter les travaux et de capitaliser dans le Mooc les connaissances produites.
Type d'activité
- Partage d'expériences
- Co-construction
Durée estimée (en minutes)
90 minutes
Type de support
- Réunion participative en visio
- Travail asynchrone sur le Wiki
Contraintes techniques (tournages, interviews, déplacements, organisation de réunions…)
Organisation d'une série de réunions décentralisées à animer localement. Le wébinaire sert à synthétiser et produire des contenus sur le sujet.
Coûts de production prévisionnels
Location de salles ? Animations locales. Capture vidéo des ateliers locaux, montage et production d'une capsule de rendu d'atelier x le nombre d'ateliers -> à chiffrer
3.1# L'économie dans les communs : exemples concrets
3.1# L'économie dans les communs : exemples concrets
Séquence de la formation
- 3. Les communs : un autre rapport à l’économie
Objectif d'apprentissage
[Alain : Découvrir les différents modèles économiques des communs témoins, identifier les différences essentielles avec l'économie de marché, comprendre les mécanismes de réciprocité économique mais aussi d'articulation avec les modes marchands] Donner à comprendre aux participant-es comment des communs peuvent faire fonctionner un modèle économique, répondre à des besoins par l'échange et la réciprocité en mode non-monétaire, mais aussi en vendant des biens ou des services permetant de rétribuer des commoneurs en mode marchand…
Contenus et interactions proposés aux participants
3 capsules vidéo présentant chacune une expérience mettant l'accent sur son fonctionnement économique, suivi d'un webinaire interactif avec des représentant-es de ces trois exemples (ou d'autres…)
Type d'activité
- Partage d'expériences
- Co-construction
Type de support
- Capsule vidéo produite pour le Mooc
- Webinaire interactif
Témoignages / intervenant-es pressenti-es
Un fablab opensource : Open Factory à Saint-Etienne (par exemple)
Une SCIC fabriquant des outils lowtech pourl'agriculture : L'Atelier Paysan (par exemple)
Un SEL ou un Réseau d'Echanges Réciproques de Savoirs : La coopérative des savoirs dans la Nièvre (par exemple)
Une SCIC fabriquant des outils lowtech pourl'agriculture : L'Atelier Paysan (par exemple)
Un SEL ou un Réseau d'Echanges Réciproques de Savoirs : La coopérative des savoirs dans la Nièvre (par exemple)
Contraintes techniques (tournages, interviews, déplacements, organisation de réunions…)
2 capsules d'enquête / terrains ; 1 capsule de synthèse des modèles économiques ; un Webinaire de mise en correspondance des réalités de terrain avec les modèles économiques identifiés.
Coûts de production prévisionnels
Filmage, montage, production : Chiffrer
Préparation, animation, post-production du webinaire
Préparation, animation, post-production du webinaire
3.2# Pratiques, Théories et leçons de l'économie des communs
3.2# Pratiques, Théories et leçons de l'économie des communs
Séquence de la formation
- 3. Les communs : un autre rapport à l’économie
Objectif d'apprentissage
[(Alain)Comprendre les différents mécanismes de réciprocité et d'économie non-monétaire, explorer les possibilités de les articuler à d'autres modèles économiques, étudier les cas témoins avec ces grilles de compréhension]Utiller les participant-es d'outils conceptuels simples, pour leur permettre d'appréhender les mécanimes de réciprocité et d'économie non-monétaire qui sous-tendent les modèles économiques inventés par les communs
Contenus et interactions proposés aux participants
Trois capsules vidéo de 10mn pour chacun des intervenants + une réunion participative en vidéo pour échanger sur les modèles économiques de communs représentés ou connus des participant-es
Type d'activité
- Apport théorique
- Co-construction
Type de support
- Capsule vidéo produite pour le Mooc
- Réunion participative en visio
- Travail asynchrone sur le Wiki
Témoignages / intervenant-es pressenti-es
Benjamin Coriat : L'économie des communs
Sébastien Broca : l'utopie du logiciel libre
Michel Bauwens : l'économie collaborative et de pair à pair (P2P)
[(Alain)ce ne sont pas des témoins, mais des théoriciens non ?]
Sébastien Broca : l'utopie du logiciel libre
Michel Bauwens : l'économie collaborative et de pair à pair (P2P)
[(Alain)ce ne sont pas des témoins, mais des théoriciens non ?]
Contraintes techniques (tournages, interviews, déplacements, organisation de réunions…)
1 capsule centrée sur les modèles économiques des témoins (pas les intervenants), une capsule théorique sur l'économie des communs, une capsule sur l'économie collaborative pair à pair, 1 réunion de travail co-opératif pour aligner au mieux les modèles économiques effectifs (témoins) et les modèles théoriques -> préparation en asynchrone animé par un "expert" avec un groupe de participants volontaire, réunion de travail coopératif de synthèse en visio.
Coûts de production prévisionnels
Fabrication des trois capsules, animation du groupe de travail (ressources, animation des outils de partage, facilitation du travail synchrone éventuel,...), animation et responsabilité de la production d'un rendu du travail coopératif. -> à chiffrer...
3.3# Co-construire un modèle économique pour les communs
3.3# Co-construire un modèle économique pour les communs
Séquence de la formation
- 3. Les communs : un autre rapport à l’économie
Objectif d'apprentissage
[Alain : Apprendre ensemble, sur une étude de cas, comment la gestion en communs d'une ressource commune peut avoir une robustesse économique fondée sur l'échange, la réciprocité, la juste rétribution du travail articulés avec des échanges marchands monétaires ou non]Comprendre comment une ressource produite, préservée et défendue en commun peut trouver son équilibre économique par l'échange, la réciprocité et la rétrubution, en associant des entrées marchandes, non-marchandes et non-monétaires.
Contenus et interactions proposés aux participants
Les participants sont invités à rejoindre un des ateliers participatifs d'une durée de 90 minutes, avec un maximum de 20 participant-es : rencontres physiques en local si possible ou à distance pour les participant-es isolé-es. Chaque atelier étudie un cas apporté ou proposé par des participant-es. Les animateurs/trices organisent les ateliers selon un format d'intelligence collective de type "accélérateur de projet". Un wébinaire commun de rendu d'ateliers clôt la session et permet de valoriser les travaux réalisés. Les experts comme les témoins sont sollicités pour donner des éclairages sur les cas.
Type d'activité
- Partage d'expériences
- Apport théorique
- Co-construction
Type de support
- Webinaire interactif
- Réunion participative en visio
- Travail asynchrone sur le Wiki
Témoignages / intervenant-es pressenti-es
Sans doute les intervenants de la série "économie", aussi bien les témoins que les experts.
Contraintes techniques (tournages, interviews, déplacements, organisation de réunions…)
Préparation, animation, rendu des ateliers. Préparation, animation, valorisation des travaux présentés pendant le wébinaire de rendu.
Coûts de production prévisionnels
- à chiffrer
4.1# La propriété et l'usage : exemples concrets
4.1# La propriété et l'usage : exemples concrets
Séquence de la formation
- 4. Les communs : une autre relation à la propriété
Objectif d'apprentissage
[Alain : Public, Privé et Communs. Découvrir comment la notion d'usage modifie la notion de propriété, qu'elle soit publique ou privée. À partir d'exemples concrets, il s'agira d'identifier comment les communs réussissent à introduire l'usage comme clé d'inclusion des parties prenantes d'un objet géré en communs. L'étude des cas permettra de concrétiser comment l'inclusion par l'usage partagé propose une alternative robuste aux modèles organisationnels et économiques dominants]Découvrir au travers d'exemples concrets que la distinction entre la propriété et l'usage constitue une clé majeure de compréhension de ce que sont les communs et comprendre à quel point cet autre rapport à la propriété constitue une puissante alternative aux modèles éonomiques dominants.
Contenus et interactions proposés aux participants
Trois capsules viédo de 10mn + un webinaire interactif avec les témoins.
Type d'activité
- Partage d'expériences
Type de support
- Capsule vidéo produite pour le Mooc
- Webinaire interactif
Témoignages / intervenant-es pressenti-es
Luc Moineville : l'exemple de la Foncière Terre de Liens
Gérard Barras : l'exemple de la Scop Ardelaine
Laurent Marseault : le logiciel YesWiki
Gérard Barras : l'exemple de la Scop Ardelaine
Laurent Marseault : le logiciel YesWiki
Contraintes techniques (tournages, interviews, déplacements, organisation de réunions…)
Filmage, montage, production des capsules vidéo.
Préparation, animation, production des contenus du wébinaire
Préparation, animation, production des contenus du wébinaire
Coûts de production prévisionnels
à chiffrer
4.2# La propriété et l'usage, apports conceptuels
4.2# La propriété et l'usage, apports conceptuels
Séquence de la formation
- 4. Les communs : une autre relation à la propriété
Objectif d'apprentissage
Découvrir comment le Droit devrait évoluer pour offrir un cadre juridique aux communs pour baliser la séparation de la propriété de l'usage et protéger les objets gérés en communs de l'aliénation et des enclosures
Contenus et interactions proposés aux participants
Pour les capsules :
C1 : la notion de faisceau de droits
C2 : la Loi instituant les Sociétés Coopératives d'Intérêt Collectif (SCIC)
C3 : la propriété intellectuelle et les licences libres
Un travail coopératif de synthèse est proposé pour illustrer comment un cadre juridique renouvelé permettrait aux Communs d'exister comme un mode organisation et économique à part entière.
Le travail coopératif mobilise des exemples de communs existant pour illustrer un "Avant" / "Après" d'une évolution juridique reconnaissant en droit les mécanismes des communs.
C1 : la notion de faisceau de droits
C2 : la Loi instituant les Sociétés Coopératives d'Intérêt Collectif (SCIC)
C3 : la propriété intellectuelle et les licences libres
Un travail coopératif de synthèse est proposé pour illustrer comment un cadre juridique renouvelé permettrait aux Communs d'exister comme un mode organisation et économique à part entière.
Le travail coopératif mobilise des exemples de communs existant pour illustrer un "Avant" / "Après" d'une évolution juridique reconnaissant en droit les mécanismes des communs.
Type d'activité
- Apport théorique
- Co-construction
Type de support
- Capsule vidéo produite pour le Mooc
- Webinaire interactif
- Réunion participative en visio
- Travail asynchrone sur le Wiki
Témoignages / intervenant-es pressenti-es
Fabienne Orsi : la notion de faisceau de droits
Alix Margado : la Loi instituant les Sociétés Coopératives d'Intérêt Collectif (SCIC)
Lionel Maurel : la propriété intellectuelle et les licences libres
Alix Margado : la Loi instituant les Sociétés Coopératives d'Intérêt Collectif (SCIC)
Lionel Maurel : la propriété intellectuelle et les licences libres
Contraintes techniques (tournages, interviews, déplacements, organisation de réunions…)
Capsules vidéo à filmer, monter, produire.
Préparation et Animation du travail coopératif, accompagnement du travail asynchrone, production des résultats via le webinaire (post-production des résultats)
Préparation et Animation du travail coopératif, accompagnement du travail asynchrone, production des résultats via le webinaire (post-production des résultats)
Coûts de production prévisionnels
à chiffrer
4.3# Comment recourir au Droit pour gérer un commun ?
4.3# Comment recourir au Droit pour gérer un commun ?
Séquence de la formation
- 4. Les communs : une autre relation à la propriété
Objectif d'apprentissage
Partager les acquis de l'expérience juridique des communs présents parmi les apprenant-es et imaginer ensemble des hypothèses juridiques pour améliorer leur protection
Contenus et interactions proposés aux participants
Ateliers de 20 personnes en intellgence collective (format accélérateur de projet)
Type d'activité
- Co-construction
Type de support
- Réunion participative en visio
- Travail asynchrone sur le Wiki
Témoignages / intervenant-es pressenti-es
Alima El Bajnouni : Laboratoire européen d'entraide juridique pour les communs
5.1# Prendre soin d'un commun : exemples vécus
5.1# Prendre soin d'un commun : exemples vécus
Séquence de la formation
- 5. Les communs : une ressource dont on « prend soin » collectivement
Objectif d'apprentissage
Découvrir par l'exemple comment une communauté se crée autour des usages d'une ressource d'intérêt commun (ressource construite ou naturelle), s'organise et se structure pour en prendre soin, c'est-à-dire la préserver, la renouveler et la développer si nécessaire.
Contenus et interactions proposés aux participants
Trois témoignages (capsules vidéo) puis un webinaire interactif avec les témoins.
Type d'activité
- Partage d'expériences
Durée estimée (en minutes)
30mn pour les trois capsules vidéo + 45mn de webinaire interactif
Type de support
- Capsule vidéo produite pour le Mooc
- Webinaire interactif
Témoignages / intervenant-es pressenti-es
L'exemple de la forêt usagère de La Teste de Buch : témoignage de Pierre Marzat, président du syndicat des propriétaires
L'exemple d'Open Street Map : témoignage de Louis-Julien de la Bouère
L'exemple du Village vertical, coopérative d'habitants à Villeurbanne : témoignage des habitant-es
L'exemple d'Open Street Map : témoignage de Louis-Julien de la Bouère
L'exemple du Village vertical, coopérative d'habitants à Villeurbanne : témoignage des habitant-es
Contraintes techniques (tournages, interviews, déplacements, organisation de réunions…)
Préparation, filmage, montage, production des capsules vidéo.
Préparation, animation, post-production du webinaire.
Préparation, animation, post-production du webinaire.
Coûts de production prévisionnels
à chiffrer
5.2# Gouvernance des communs
5.2# Gouvernance des communs
Séquence de la formation
- 5. Les communs : une ressource dont on « prend soin » collectivement
Objectif d'apprentissage
[Alain : Comprendre la spécificité des règles de gouvernance en communs ; découvrir la variété de ces règles selon les contextes et la nature des objets mis en communs ; identifier ce qui fait que ces règles ne relèvent pas uniquement des règles de la propriété publique ou privée]Découvrir les règles de gouvernance qui se mettent en place spontanément dès lors qu'une communauté se charge de préserver une ressource commune dont la propriété n'est ni publique ni privée.
Contenus et interactions proposés aux participants
Trois interventions d'experts (capsules vidéo) + une réflexion mise en commun (webinaire de synthèse et retours d'expériences)
Type d'activité
- Partage d'expériences
- Apport théorique
Durée estimée (en minutes)
3 capsules de 10mn + un webinaire interactif de 45mn
Type de support
- Capsule vidéo produite pour le Mooc
- Webinaire interactif
Témoignages / intervenant-es pressenti-es
Olivier Weinstein : la gouvernance des communs chez Elinor Ostrom
Nicolas Julien : la gouvernance de Wikipedia
Benoît Borrits : l'autogestion
Nicolas Julien : la gouvernance de Wikipedia
Benoît Borrits : l'autogestion
Contraintes techniques (tournages, interviews, déplacements, organisation de réunions…)
Préparation, tournage, montage, production des capsules avec les interviewés.
Préparation, animation du webinaire, post-production des contenus échangés.
Préparation, animation du webinaire, post-production des contenus échangés.
Coûts de production prévisionnels
à chiffrer
5.3# Co-construire la gouvernance d'un commun
5.3# Co-construire la gouvernance d'un commun
Séquence de la formation
- 5. Les communs : une ressource dont on « prend soin » collectivement
Objectif d'apprentissage
Réaliser une étude de différents cas de mise en place de gouvernance dans des situations différentes (nature de l'objet mis en communs, taille du collectif de parties prenantes, étendue du territoire concerné -- local, régional, national, mondial--)
Contenus et interactions proposés aux participants
Ateliers participatifs de 20 personnes et mise en commun lors d'un webinaire de conclusion. Les témoins communeurs du Mooc, les théoriciens mobilisés sont associés à ces ateliers à la manière de l'organisation d'un
Type d'activité
- Partage d'expériences
- Apport théorique
- Co-construction
Type de support
- Réunion participative en visio
- Travail asynchrone sur le Wiki
Témoignages / intervenant-es pressenti-es
Toute proportions gardées, c'est le principe d'un "conseil citoyen" qui pourrait être repris ici, sur plusieurs semaines, avec cette session "spéciale" puisqu'elle concerne la gouvernance, sans doute le point le plus difficile à établir alors qu'il est aussi le plus original par rapport aux autres modes de gestion de ressources partagées. L'animation de cette session est particulièrement importante pour faciliter le travail des participants à émettre des propositions concrètes sur les cas étudiés (cas choisis au cours du Mooc par les participants volontaires pour cette session de travail). Trois ou quatre réunions en présence/distance sont programmées et un wébinaire de rendu final permet de valoriser le travail produit. Sur une durée longue 1 à 2 mois. Ce travail produit pourra faire l'objet d'une publication dans les conditions choisies par les participant.e.s.
Contraintes techniques (tournages, interviews, déplacements, organisation de réunions…)
Organisation de réunion physiques et à distance.
Mobilisation des intervenants des différentes sessions précédentes du MOOC
Capitalisation du déroulement des réunions -> notes, enregistrements, synthèses
Organisation du webinaire ouvert à tous les participants du Mooc même s'ils n'ont pas choisi de travailler sur cette session.
Mobilisation des intervenants des différentes sessions précédentes du MOOC
Capitalisation du déroulement des réunions -> notes, enregistrements, synthèses
Organisation du webinaire ouvert à tous les participants du Mooc même s'ils n'ont pas choisi de travailler sur cette session.
Coûts de production prévisionnels
Chiffrer les coûts d'animation, de productions de documents, d'organisation pratique et technique, etc.
Cette session de clôture du Mooc devrait permettre d'évaluer l'efficacité du dispositif de manière indirecte : nb de personnes inscrites, fidélité des inscrits au plan de travail, disponibilité des intervenants,...
Cette session de clôture du Mooc devrait permettre d'évaluer l'efficacité du dispositif de manière indirecte : nb de personnes inscrites, fidélité des inscrits au plan de travail, disponibilité des intervenants,...
Alain MILLE
alpha/dominant men
alpha/dominant men
Description
When Do You Walk Away
It Is All Facebook’s Fault…
How To Be Single at Your 10 Year Reunion
Are One Night Stands Bad?
The Truth About Free Dating Sites
Writing Good Loveawake.com Emails
Taking it Slow vs Taking it Nowhere
26 Things I’ve Learned About Dating
Being Selfish in A Relationship
Signs of a Douchebag
Rules for a Skype Date
(So whenever a feminist tries to argue against women wanting alpha/dominant men by referring to studies where both women and men show preferences for kind men, throw this study in their face. Also can be used to argue against feminists who say that there is no difference in men and women’s attraction to kindness in their partners.)
on March 30, 2012 at 2:26 pm | Reply(R)Evoluzione.
Epic science comment. It looks like you’ve been reading Eric Barker.
on March 30, 2012 at 7:56 am | ReplyRex
When I ignore a girl after a few days, she starts acting really bitchy, and then clingy, saying things like “If you don’t want to see me just tell me. You can tell me, its cool”. Any ideas of a response?
I said just, “Nah, you’re cool”. But then she just started acting awkward.
on March 30, 2012 at 2:35 pm | ReplyHolden Caulfield
Bring da movies.
on March 30, 2012 at 11:36 am | ReplyAnonymous
Of course everyone here has seen the Huffington Post article by the 34 year old Natasha Scripture in New York who can’t find a good man (while trashing a 51 year old she was set up on a date with by a matchmaker for having had a slight speech impediment, for wearing bell bottom jeans on the date and for having a career as only a science textbook writer).
A lot of manosphere denizens are in the comment section which is already close to 1600 comments.
It Is All Facebook’s Fault…
How To Be Single at Your 10 Year Reunion
Are One Night Stands Bad?
The Truth About Free Dating Sites
Writing Good Loveawake.com Emails
Taking it Slow vs Taking it Nowhere
26 Things I’ve Learned About Dating
Being Selfish in A Relationship
Signs of a Douchebag
Rules for a Skype Date
(So whenever a feminist tries to argue against women wanting alpha/dominant men by referring to studies where both women and men show preferences for kind men, throw this study in their face. Also can be used to argue against feminists who say that there is no difference in men and women’s attraction to kindness in their partners.)
on March 30, 2012 at 2:26 pm | Reply(R)Evoluzione.
Epic science comment. It looks like you’ve been reading Eric Barker.
on March 30, 2012 at 7:56 am | ReplyRex
When I ignore a girl after a few days, she starts acting really bitchy, and then clingy, saying things like “If you don’t want to see me just tell me. You can tell me, its cool”. Any ideas of a response?
I said just, “Nah, you’re cool”. But then she just started acting awkward.
on March 30, 2012 at 2:35 pm | ReplyHolden Caulfield
Bring da movies.
on March 30, 2012 at 11:36 am | ReplyAnonymous
Of course everyone here has seen the Huffington Post article by the 34 year old Natasha Scripture in New York who can’t find a good man (while trashing a 51 year old she was set up on a date with by a matchmaker for having had a slight speech impediment, for wearing bell bottom jeans on the date and for having a career as only a science textbook writer).
A lot of manosphere denizens are in the comment section which is already close to 1600 comments.
Début de l'événement
22.01.2022
Fin de l'événement
22.01.2022
Anne Lechêne
Cases à cocher
- Apport théorique / pédagogique
Anne Lechêne
Adresse mail
anne.lechene@gmail.com
Adresse et/ou localisation du projet
Arbois
Lien Internet vers le site de l'expérience ou de l'intervenant-e
https://www.annelechene.fr/
Membre de l'équipe assurant le contact
Caroline Pruvost
Being Nice Doesn't Have to Kill Your Game: A Dating Survival Guide
Being Nice Doesn't Have to Kill Your Game: A Dating Survival Guide
Description
Dating Double Standards…And How They All Even Out
No Baby No! 7 Ways to Stall A Breakup
How To Break Up With Someone With Style And Grace
Five Things Guys Can Be Pretty Gay About
Four Reasons Why “Funny” Girls Finish Last
The Smart Guide To 21st Century Chivalry
What Friendship Means To Me
Girl! Forget a Sponsor. Date A Handyman!
Things I Learned While in NYC Dating Live Event
705miss t-lee April 28, 2011 at 12:02 pm
I’m really liking this new Liz. :)
Reply
706Yeah...So April 28, 2011 at 12:24 pm
Oh so it’s not just me? I was thinking I missed something during my 4-year (read: week) stint away.
Reply
707SmartFoxGirl April 28, 2011 at 12:48 pm
Kay? I’ve been peeping Liz. She’s becoming more and more goon-like everyday. wipes tear…it’s beautiful.
Reply
708Liz April 28, 2011 at 12:59 pm
I couldn’t have done it without you SFG!
rocks back and foaf like Miss Sofia
Cuz when I seent you, you showed me dat dey is a Goon Gawd!
Reply
709SmartFoxGirl April 28, 2011 at 2:13 pm
LMAO!!
Reply
710miss t-lee April 28, 2011 at 2:21 pm
ain’t it though??? It’s like sending your child off to kindergarten.
Reply
711Liz April 28, 2011 at 12:57 pm
LOL. Ahh. I was always like this! i just been locked up like Miss Sofia.
fills up plate like a newly free Miss Sofia
Too much racket goin on around here in dis blog, pass me them peas here!
Reply
No Baby No! 7 Ways to Stall A Breakup
How To Break Up With Someone With Style And Grace
Five Things Guys Can Be Pretty Gay About
Four Reasons Why “Funny” Girls Finish Last
The Smart Guide To 21st Century Chivalry
What Friendship Means To Me
Girl! Forget a Sponsor. Date A Handyman!
Things I Learned While in NYC Dating Live Event
705miss t-lee April 28, 2011 at 12:02 pm
I’m really liking this new Liz. :)
Reply
706Yeah...So April 28, 2011 at 12:24 pm
Oh so it’s not just me? I was thinking I missed something during my 4-year (read: week) stint away.
Reply
707SmartFoxGirl April 28, 2011 at 12:48 pm
Kay? I’ve been peeping Liz. She’s becoming more and more goon-like everyday. wipes tear…it’s beautiful.
Reply
708Liz April 28, 2011 at 12:59 pm
I couldn’t have done it without you SFG!
rocks back and foaf like Miss Sofia
Cuz when I seent you, you showed me dat dey is a Goon Gawd!
Reply
709SmartFoxGirl April 28, 2011 at 2:13 pm
LMAO!!
Reply
710miss t-lee April 28, 2011 at 2:21 pm
ain’t it though??? It’s like sending your child off to kindergarten.
Reply
711Liz April 28, 2011 at 12:57 pm
LOL. Ahh. I was always like this! i just been locked up like Miss Sofia.
fills up plate like a newly free Miss Sofia
Too much racket goin on around here in dis blog, pass me them peas here!
Reply
Début de l'événement
03.10.2022
Fin de l'événement
03.10.2022
Bernard BRUNET
Breaking Up with Grace: Online Dating Rules for the Perfect Goodbye
Breaking Up with Grace: Online Dating Rules for the Perfect Goodbye
Description
Paranoia and Relationships: How Far Is Too Far?
Love Without A Limit?!
I Got That White Girl: The Hampton Edition.
Behind the Macho Mask
Witty Wisdom For Dating Mating And Crime-Fighting
The Cruelest Things Women Consistently Do To Men
Dating Do’s And Dont’s For “Nice” Guys And Girls
Closure And The Big Owe.
The Most Overrated Things About New York City
But in all this wisdom naturally acquired, what about my newly discovered drunken English skills? Well, yesterday was midterms for me and I’m sorry to say but I failed. I did pretty well in pronunciation I think. No spit, no mumbling, not too many blanks looking for words. But the problem is this: I was so focused on it that I forgot the other half of the evaluation, content. I doubt that anyone has been impressed to know about killdeers, the Mono Lake or even how having Rock Band should be in the top 10 qualities for a guy. [...]
Drunken english 101 - midterm report | (Entre 2) Says:
January 16th, 2009 at 12:54 pm
[...] But in all this wisdom naturally acquired, what about my newly discovered drunken English skills? Well, yesterday was midterms for me and I’m sorry to say but I failed. I did pretty well in pronunciation I think. No spit, no mumbling, not too many blanks looking for words. But the problem is this: I was so focused on it that I forgot the other half of the evaluation, content. I doubt that anyone has been impressed to know about killdeers, the Mono Lake or even how having Rock Band should be in the top 10 qualities for a guy. [...]
hunter Says:
March 21st, 2009 at 1:59 am
“The Notebook” is a movie out of Hollywood where life is sometimes portrayed how it should be. Given, that, over 65% of the population is/or in need of therapy sessions, the average man cannot afford to be constantly arguing and making up. Most likely, he grew up hearing his parents complain/argue at each other(this is why he sits in therapy sessions) and the last thing he wants to do is come home and argue with the woman he is in love with. Men are strong physically, but a woman can be super strong on the inside.
Hurt your feelings? Are you sure you want a man/husband that hurts your feelings?..That may be fun for a little while…
hunter Says:
March 22nd, 2009 at 10:48 pm
There is a “notebook” type of man out there, it is just that, I think, in a much smaller pool of single men.
Paul Says:
August 21st, 2009 at 8:20 am
It’s a freaking movie people. Get out of your fantasy world and welcome yourselves back to reality. If you want that kind of love, become an actor/actress because you’re not going to find it in the real world. It’s scripted.
MidoriLei Says:
August 21st, 2009 at 8:39 am
Love Without A Limit?!
I Got That White Girl: The Hampton Edition.
Behind the Macho Mask
Witty Wisdom For Dating Mating And Crime-Fighting
The Cruelest Things Women Consistently Do To Men
Dating Do’s And Dont’s For “Nice” Guys And Girls
Closure And The Big Owe.
The Most Overrated Things About New York City
But in all this wisdom naturally acquired, what about my newly discovered drunken English skills? Well, yesterday was midterms for me and I’m sorry to say but I failed. I did pretty well in pronunciation I think. No spit, no mumbling, not too many blanks looking for words. But the problem is this: I was so focused on it that I forgot the other half of the evaluation, content. I doubt that anyone has been impressed to know about killdeers, the Mono Lake or even how having Rock Band should be in the top 10 qualities for a guy. [...]
Drunken english 101 - midterm report | (Entre 2) Says:
January 16th, 2009 at 12:54 pm
[...] But in all this wisdom naturally acquired, what about my newly discovered drunken English skills? Well, yesterday was midterms for me and I’m sorry to say but I failed. I did pretty well in pronunciation I think. No spit, no mumbling, not too many blanks looking for words. But the problem is this: I was so focused on it that I forgot the other half of the evaluation, content. I doubt that anyone has been impressed to know about killdeers, the Mono Lake or even how having Rock Band should be in the top 10 qualities for a guy. [...]
hunter Says:
March 21st, 2009 at 1:59 am
“The Notebook” is a movie out of Hollywood where life is sometimes portrayed how it should be. Given, that, over 65% of the population is/or in need of therapy sessions, the average man cannot afford to be constantly arguing and making up. Most likely, he grew up hearing his parents complain/argue at each other(this is why he sits in therapy sessions) and the last thing he wants to do is come home and argue with the woman he is in love with. Men are strong physically, but a woman can be super strong on the inside.
Hurt your feelings? Are you sure you want a man/husband that hurts your feelings?..That may be fun for a little while…
hunter Says:
March 22nd, 2009 at 10:48 pm
There is a “notebook” type of man out there, it is just that, I think, in a much smaller pool of single men.
Paul Says:
August 21st, 2009 at 8:20 am
It’s a freaking movie people. Get out of your fantasy world and welcome yourselves back to reality. If you want that kind of love, become an actor/actress because you’re not going to find it in the real world. It’s scripted.
MidoriLei Says:
August 21st, 2009 at 8:39 am
Début de l'événement
16.10.2022
Fin de l'événement
16.10.2022
Carte mentale
Carte mentale
Description
Travail collectif sur une carte mentale pour représenter le MOOC en trois dimensions
Début de l'événement
14.06.2023 - 16:00
Fin de l'événement
14.06.2023 - 19:30
Co-construction
Co-construction
Début de l'événement
18.07.2023 - 16:00
Fin de l'événement
18.07.2023 - 19:30
Communs de la terre
Communs de la terre
Titre affiché (optionnel)
Comment les communs animent la réappropriation de la terre vivante
Licence
Creative Commons
Groupe de cases à cocher
- Capsule vidéo produite pour le Mooc
- Film vidéo existant
- Webinaire interactif
- Réunion participative en visio
- Travail asynchrone sur le Wiki
Objectifs d'apprentissage
Découvrir le fonctionnement de communs de la terre dans ses différentes facettes : Historique et dynamique, modes de gouvernance, gestion des connaissances, articulation avec la culture, modèles économiques,modèle politique, ...
Type de mooc
C Mooc
Contenu et interactions proposées aux particpant-es
Ce thème pourrait faire l'objet de plusieurs sessions ...
Contraintes techniques et coûts estimé de fabrication
à venir
Communs numériques vs. Logiciels Libres, open source et services en lignes loyaux
Communs numériques vs. Logiciels Libres, open source et services en lignes loyaux
Titre affiché (optionnel)
Le logiciel libre un commun ? Pas si commun :-)
Licence
CC BY-SA
Groupe de cases à cocher
- Capsule vidéo produite pour le Mooc
- Réunion participative en visio
Type de mooc
C Mooc
Contenu et interactions proposées aux particpant-es
Vidéo et discussion (classe inversée à distance)
Comparing Dates to Ex’s
Comparing Dates to Ex’s
Description
An Ode to Emily
More Than Meets The Eyes
Should I Tell Her How I Feel?
The Play Date
Dogs, Cats, and the Art of Dating: Lessons from the Cab Ride
The Colorado Connection That Could Never Be
When Love Feels Like a DIY Project: The Fixer-Upper Dilemma
Why Men Marry Some Women and Not Others
Should You Settle?
Is There Hope For The Gender Gap?
Cheating is a Cop Out
The Dance of Second Chances
So what do you think about this one? Whenever you date someone new, do you find yourself comparing them to previous ex’s?
Me, I think it’s kind of inevitable and even, maybe, natural? It doesn’t have to be comparing the new girl to a specific ex, but perhaps specific traits of all your ex’s.
Maybe one of your ex’s used to always know the right thing to say when you’re down, and another used to love exploring just like you did, and a third used to surprise you with little thoughts & things when you least expected them. You know what I’m talking about. Those great little things that made those past relationships so much fun while you were in them.
But of course, they all ended for a reason. One of your ex’s always had something negative to say, another always seemed too busy or too aloof, and another was just too high maintenance.
All of these traits become benchmarks for your next relationship. Either consciously or unconsciously, they’ve molded your expectations and standards. They’ve become what you look for or what you avoid. In effect, they form your basis of comparison.
At least for me, that’s how it is. Seems to come kind of naturally and unconsciously too.
How about you? Do you find yourself comparing your dates to ex’s?
More Than Meets The Eyes
Should I Tell Her How I Feel?
The Play Date
Dogs, Cats, and the Art of Dating: Lessons from the Cab Ride
The Colorado Connection That Could Never Be
When Love Feels Like a DIY Project: The Fixer-Upper Dilemma
Why Men Marry Some Women and Not Others
Should You Settle?
Is There Hope For The Gender Gap?
Cheating is a Cop Out
The Dance of Second Chances
So what do you think about this one? Whenever you date someone new, do you find yourself comparing them to previous ex’s?
Me, I think it’s kind of inevitable and even, maybe, natural? It doesn’t have to be comparing the new girl to a specific ex, but perhaps specific traits of all your ex’s.
Maybe one of your ex’s used to always know the right thing to say when you’re down, and another used to love exploring just like you did, and a third used to surprise you with little thoughts & things when you least expected them. You know what I’m talking about. Those great little things that made those past relationships so much fun while you were in them.
But of course, they all ended for a reason. One of your ex’s always had something negative to say, another always seemed too busy or too aloof, and another was just too high maintenance.
All of these traits become benchmarks for your next relationship. Either consciously or unconsciously, they’ve molded your expectations and standards. They’ve become what you look for or what you avoid. In effect, they form your basis of comparison.
At least for me, that’s how it is. Seems to come kind of naturally and unconsciously too.
How about you? Do you find yourself comparing your dates to ex’s?
Début de l'événement
08.01.2023
Fin de l'événement
08.01.2023
Confident & Funny: The Proven Path to Attracting Women
Confident & Funny: The Proven Path to Attracting Women
Description
3 Common Relationship Mistakes Women Make
Love Awkwardness and Regret: The Day I Walked Away
Friend Zoned and Heartbroken: Lessons from an Imaginary Romance
What Every Woman Should Know About a Man’s Code of Honor
How to Handle Breakups Without Questioning
Attracting Women with Confidence and Humor
Keep Your Woman Secure Without Fighting
Men Play Dating Games Too
Armageddon was many things, terrible or not.
It was the loudest movie ever made.
It let Affleck stretch his acting chops and cry without Matt Damon by his side, leading to such great performances as his in “Paycheck”.
Bear pulled down tiger-striped bikini briefs and did a lil dance on top of a gurney, then cried like a baby during psychological testing. What is it with these big arse dudes being mildy (if not FLAMBOYANTLY) homo in movies?
That Russian Guy cracks me up in every movie he’s in, and it’s ALWAYS the same character… he’s the Devil, with a russian accent… He’s a Ex Dealer… with a russian accent. i love it.
Reply
V Renee {June 22nd, 2009 at 9:31 am}
@Shawnta`,
I loved Armageddon too. It was the song that made me love it - Don’t Want to Miss a Thing
Reply
Nicki Sunshine {June 22nd, 2009 at 10:29 am}
@V Renee, Me too!
Reply
Cheekie {June 22nd, 2009 at 11:37 am}
@V Renee,
I love Don’t Want to Miss a Thing.
Love Awkwardness and Regret: The Day I Walked Away
Friend Zoned and Heartbroken: Lessons from an Imaginary Romance
What Every Woman Should Know About a Man’s Code of Honor
How to Handle Breakups Without Questioning
Attracting Women with Confidence and Humor
Keep Your Woman Secure Without Fighting
Men Play Dating Games Too
Armageddon was many things, terrible or not.
It was the loudest movie ever made.
It let Affleck stretch his acting chops and cry without Matt Damon by his side, leading to such great performances as his in “Paycheck”.
Bear pulled down tiger-striped bikini briefs and did a lil dance on top of a gurney, then cried like a baby during psychological testing. What is it with these big arse dudes being mildy (if not FLAMBOYANTLY) homo in movies?
That Russian Guy cracks me up in every movie he’s in, and it’s ALWAYS the same character… he’s the Devil, with a russian accent… He’s a Ex Dealer… with a russian accent. i love it.
Reply
V Renee {June 22nd, 2009 at 9:31 am}
@Shawnta`,
I loved Armageddon too. It was the song that made me love it - Don’t Want to Miss a Thing
Reply
Nicki Sunshine {June 22nd, 2009 at 10:29 am}
@V Renee, Me too!
Reply
Cheekie {June 22nd, 2009 at 11:37 am}
@V Renee,
I love Don’t Want to Miss a Thing.
Début de l'événement
22.10.2022
Fin de l'événement
22.10.2022
Digital Love: Navigating the Modern World of Online Dating
Elinor Ostrom
Elinor Ostrom
Brève description de son expérience, de sa sa spécialité de ses possibilités d'appui du projet
Notre mère à toustes
Lien Internet vers le site de l'expérience ou de l'intervenant-e
https://fr.wikipedia.org/wiki/Elinor_Ostrom
Membre de l'équipe assurant le contact
Bernard
Nom de l'activité pressentie pour l'intervention
Gouvernance des communs
Semaine concernée par l'intervention
semaine 1
Ending It Gracefully: How to Handle a Breakup With Care
Ending It Gracefully: How to Handle a Breakup With Care
Description
Why Sharing Passwords With Your Partner
How To Tell If A Man Is Interested In You
Do’s and Don’ts for a Successful Break-Up
The Dating With EXpectation Factor
Dating Real Test Is in the Wallet
How To Know That Your Relationship Is In Trouble
When Potential Becomes a Relationship Killer
The Unspoken Truths About Blame in Relationships
How Technology is Killing the Romance
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melmoth July 24, 2014 at 18:10
Maaldweb
You make a great point. Liberals go with image, conservatives stick with logic. That’s why Hollywood etc is their domain. And for all the talk of liberals being the more literate party, then look at how much more sales are generated by conservative authors. A liberal will take his goatee and battered copy of ‘The Stranger’ to cafe after cafe. It’s all to capture an image and has nothing to do with actual reading. Look at the recent uproar over the Taliban girl holding a rifle and the Koran juxtaposed with the yankee holding her bible and a rifle. Liberals rejoiced. “Same! Same! Same!” The fact that the books held different beliefs and that the reason for being armed was diametric (murder of innocents vs. self-defense) did not matter at all. HOW IS IT THE SAME IF THEY ARE HOLDING A DIFFERENT BOOK? The image was the same and that is as deep as it goes for an image-based thinker. I strongly recommend Neal Postman’s “Amusing Ourselves to Death” about the cultural shift from logic(minds developed from text) to thinking in image (minds developed from TV).
Hot debate. What do you think? Thumb up 16 Thumb down 6
epoche* July 24, 2014 at 18:24
Men’s Rights Organization
CAFE Toronto has debate about why they werent allowed in gay pride
————————————————————————–
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3W3ww3a4IKQ&list=UUvlBoX4hBrM2yUglBQcYVHg
What they cannot wrap their minds around the problems of liberalism and its insane belief in rational harmony.
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The Other Jim July 24, 2014 at 18:36
Not to derail this topic, but after working in SE Asia I’m also of the opinion that Caning is far more humane than condemning people to spend their lives bouncing back and forth in between prison where they are brutalized, raped, and become more hardened criminals. Singapore’s justice system, IMO has quite a bit right.
How To Tell If A Man Is Interested In You
Do’s and Don’ts for a Successful Break-Up
The Dating With EXpectation Factor
Dating Real Test Is in the Wallet
How To Know That Your Relationship Is In Trouble
When Potential Becomes a Relationship Killer
The Unspoken Truths About Blame in Relationships
How Technology is Killing the Romance
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melmoth July 24, 2014 at 18:10
Maaldweb
You make a great point. Liberals go with image, conservatives stick with logic. That’s why Hollywood etc is their domain. And for all the talk of liberals being the more literate party, then look at how much more sales are generated by conservative authors. A liberal will take his goatee and battered copy of ‘The Stranger’ to cafe after cafe. It’s all to capture an image and has nothing to do with actual reading. Look at the recent uproar over the Taliban girl holding a rifle and the Koran juxtaposed with the yankee holding her bible and a rifle. Liberals rejoiced. “Same! Same! Same!” The fact that the books held different beliefs and that the reason for being armed was diametric (murder of innocents vs. self-defense) did not matter at all. HOW IS IT THE SAME IF THEY ARE HOLDING A DIFFERENT BOOK? The image was the same and that is as deep as it goes for an image-based thinker. I strongly recommend Neal Postman’s “Amusing Ourselves to Death” about the cultural shift from logic(minds developed from text) to thinking in image (minds developed from TV).
Hot debate. What do you think? Thumb up 16 Thumb down 6
epoche* July 24, 2014 at 18:24
Men’s Rights Organization
CAFE Toronto has debate about why they werent allowed in gay pride
————————————————————————–
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3W3ww3a4IKQ&list=UUvlBoX4hBrM2yUglBQcYVHg
What they cannot wrap their minds around the problems of liberalism and its insane belief in rational harmony.
Like or Dislike: Thumb up 1 Thumb down 4
The Other Jim July 24, 2014 at 18:36
Not to derail this topic, but after working in SE Asia I’m also of the opinion that Caning is far more humane than condemning people to spend their lives bouncing back and forth in between prison where they are brutalized, raped, and become more hardened criminals. Singapore’s justice system, IMO has quite a bit right.
Début de l'événement
08.11.2021
Fin de l'événement
08.11.2021
Entreprendre en communs
Etude de cas de politiques publiques faisant une place distinctive aux communs
Etude de cas de politiques publiques faisant une place distinctive aux communs
Type de mooc
C Mooc
Contenu et interactions proposées aux particpant-es
Sur la base d’exemples connus dans différents endroits mais aussi d’exemples amenés par les participant.e.s, discussion sur l’impact et l’appropriation de ces initiatives dans la société
Facebook is Amazing
Facebook is Amazing
Description
Do You Reveal Too Much About Your Relationship?
Be Yourself: The Truth About Authentic Dating
Why So Many Relationships End at 90 Days
There really are NO BAD DATES!
How The Law of Attraction Can Help You Find Love
A Dude Diner’s Doctrine
Soundtrax To Your Life: Pre-Date Tunes
Ms. Awesome’s Advice for Men
Bad Relationships Aren’t Investments
How To Get A One Nite Stand Out Of Your Apartment
Just a quick story, broken down in bullet points:
Halloween, I met a bunch of girls, got a bunch of phone numbers.
I pre-gamed with Four Lokos and continued to stop in bars for beers while out.
I didn’t remember what half of the chicks whose numbers I got looked like the next day.
I mass texted them a few weeks later and tried to add them on Facebook.
One of them, who responded the best to my text, turned out to be a very attractive black girl.
I never texted her or anything again.
I ran into her a few weeks ago when I was in town.
It was a Friday night, I wasn’t sure she’d recognize me.
She was walking past with a group of friends and I just got in her way and pointed at her.
Her eyes lit up and she smiled real big.
She hugged me.
Next thing you know, she was all over me.
I would’ve never recognized her if I had never looked at her Facebook pictures.
I don’t even remember actually meeting her – just having her phone number afterwards and knowing that I did meet her on Halloween.
After running into her again, I texted her the next day…. I’ll pick up here…
Me, Sat, 12:20 pm: Wasup [her name]? It was good running into last night… enjoy work while the rest of us party all day at [event]
Her, Sat, 12:44 pm: Who is this?
Me, 1:18 pm: [WW]
Her, 1:19 pm: Who?
Me, 1:20 pm: The cute ass white boy. What you know me as [WW] or [Wonka]?
Her, 1:21 pm: [Wonka]. Lol.
Me, 1:31 pm: I didn’t realize you were so short! I hope you weren’t wearing heels… but you were looking cute tho
Her, 1:33 pm: Yeah. I am 5’3. I’m tiny.lol. I didn’t wear heels. I was just in chill mode. Didn’t feel like dressing up
Me, 1:47 pm: I feel ya. What time you get off work?
Her, 1:47 pm: 6:30
Me, 1:51 pm: Ok. Text me when you get off then… I’ll be downtown somewhere, come grab a drink with me and chill for a bit
Her, 1:53 pm: Ok. I will do that. U know what
Me, 1:59 pm: What’s that?
Her, 1:59 pm: U remind me of robin thicke. Lol
She actually wound up flaking that night…which wasn’t too surprising – the calibration was off, and there was no real comfort or rapport, and logistically she didn’t know where I was and who I was with, just that I was downtown somewhere, at some party. But that’s not the point. The point is she’s hot as shit and she was all over me, and the only way we recognized each other is because we’re Facebook friends.
I’ve texted her and called her a couple of times since then… building the comfort now…
She’s pretty into me too, she’s on my romantic radar now.
Anyway, back to what Facebook is and can do:
It’s great at keeping girls in the loop, if you do it right.
I made some changes to my profile after Krauser and Jambone looked at it in London. The profile itself should basically be a little DHV’s and attraction triggers. No, you’re probably not going to create attraction in a girl just off of your Facebook profile, but if you create attraction when you meet her, and then have a good profile that piques her interest a bit, you’re much better off.
Then, it’s a great place to run game on chicks in chat, and even a bit in messages. Chat being the better of the two of course.. but some girls are never logged in, so you gotta keep em engaged back and forth a bit through messages first.
I think Facebook is particularly better than texting for sets where you didn’t really get a lot of time in with the girl when you meet her. Yeah, if you read Mystery Method or Bang, they make it sound like you need to be in set with a girl for like 2 hours the night you meet her, but that’s not always the case. Some sets can go really well and only last 5 minutes – especially in day game. So, you’re obviously going to need to build more with these girls.
It’s harder to do that on text, because you don’t have much to go on besides callback humor. In a Facebook chat, there’s more new things to tease her about – recent photos, recent statuses, the funny name of the school she went to, whatever. You can also easily pull in photos and videos off of Google images or Youtube to quickly create some humor and add a lot of interaction to the chat. A picture is worth a thousand words, right?
Anyway… this is my goal for Facebook now. To keep girls in the loop, to keep them on my romantic radar. Plus, when they look through my pictures and stuff, that also adds to the comfort and rapport and helps them to feel like they know me better – like the girl, who I’ll call Short Model, in the earlier story. She wouldn’t have been all over me like that had she not looked through my photos on Facebook before and got a sense that she knows me a little bit, eventhough we’ve never actually talked.
We talk now though. She calls me almost as much as Ghetto Club does….
I’ll slow game her a bit, but I’ll say more about that in tomorrow’s post.
Be Yourself: The Truth About Authentic Dating
Why So Many Relationships End at 90 Days
There really are NO BAD DATES!
How The Law of Attraction Can Help You Find Love
A Dude Diner’s Doctrine
Soundtrax To Your Life: Pre-Date Tunes
Ms. Awesome’s Advice for Men
Bad Relationships Aren’t Investments
How To Get A One Nite Stand Out Of Your Apartment
Just a quick story, broken down in bullet points:
Halloween, I met a bunch of girls, got a bunch of phone numbers.
I pre-gamed with Four Lokos and continued to stop in bars for beers while out.
I didn’t remember what half of the chicks whose numbers I got looked like the next day.
I mass texted them a few weeks later and tried to add them on Facebook.
One of them, who responded the best to my text, turned out to be a very attractive black girl.
I never texted her or anything again.
I ran into her a few weeks ago when I was in town.
It was a Friday night, I wasn’t sure she’d recognize me.
She was walking past with a group of friends and I just got in her way and pointed at her.
Her eyes lit up and she smiled real big.
She hugged me.
Next thing you know, she was all over me.
I would’ve never recognized her if I had never looked at her Facebook pictures.
I don’t even remember actually meeting her – just having her phone number afterwards and knowing that I did meet her on Halloween.
After running into her again, I texted her the next day…. I’ll pick up here…
Me, Sat, 12:20 pm: Wasup [her name]? It was good running into last night… enjoy work while the rest of us party all day at [event]
Her, Sat, 12:44 pm: Who is this?
Me, 1:18 pm: [WW]
Her, 1:19 pm: Who?
Me, 1:20 pm: The cute ass white boy. What you know me as [WW] or [Wonka]?
Her, 1:21 pm: [Wonka]. Lol.
Me, 1:31 pm: I didn’t realize you were so short! I hope you weren’t wearing heels… but you were looking cute tho
Her, 1:33 pm: Yeah. I am 5’3. I’m tiny.lol. I didn’t wear heels. I was just in chill mode. Didn’t feel like dressing up
Me, 1:47 pm: I feel ya. What time you get off work?
Her, 1:47 pm: 6:30
Me, 1:51 pm: Ok. Text me when you get off then… I’ll be downtown somewhere, come grab a drink with me and chill for a bit
Her, 1:53 pm: Ok. I will do that. U know what
Me, 1:59 pm: What’s that?
Her, 1:59 pm: U remind me of robin thicke. Lol
She actually wound up flaking that night…which wasn’t too surprising – the calibration was off, and there was no real comfort or rapport, and logistically she didn’t know where I was and who I was with, just that I was downtown somewhere, at some party. But that’s not the point. The point is she’s hot as shit and she was all over me, and the only way we recognized each other is because we’re Facebook friends.
I’ve texted her and called her a couple of times since then… building the comfort now…
She’s pretty into me too, she’s on my romantic radar now.
Anyway, back to what Facebook is and can do:
It’s great at keeping girls in the loop, if you do it right.
I made some changes to my profile after Krauser and Jambone looked at it in London. The profile itself should basically be a little DHV’s and attraction triggers. No, you’re probably not going to create attraction in a girl just off of your Facebook profile, but if you create attraction when you meet her, and then have a good profile that piques her interest a bit, you’re much better off.
Then, it’s a great place to run game on chicks in chat, and even a bit in messages. Chat being the better of the two of course.. but some girls are never logged in, so you gotta keep em engaged back and forth a bit through messages first.
I think Facebook is particularly better than texting for sets where you didn’t really get a lot of time in with the girl when you meet her. Yeah, if you read Mystery Method or Bang, they make it sound like you need to be in set with a girl for like 2 hours the night you meet her, but that’s not always the case. Some sets can go really well and only last 5 minutes – especially in day game. So, you’re obviously going to need to build more with these girls.
It’s harder to do that on text, because you don’t have much to go on besides callback humor. In a Facebook chat, there’s more new things to tease her about – recent photos, recent statuses, the funny name of the school she went to, whatever. You can also easily pull in photos and videos off of Google images or Youtube to quickly create some humor and add a lot of interaction to the chat. A picture is worth a thousand words, right?
Anyway… this is my goal for Facebook now. To keep girls in the loop, to keep them on my romantic radar. Plus, when they look through my pictures and stuff, that also adds to the comfort and rapport and helps them to feel like they know me better – like the girl, who I’ll call Short Model, in the earlier story. She wouldn’t have been all over me like that had she not looked through my photos on Facebook before and got a sense that she knows me a little bit, eventhough we’ve never actually talked.
We talk now though. She calls me almost as much as Ghetto Club does….
I’ll slow game her a bit, but I’ll say more about that in tomorrow’s post.
Début de l'événement
31.01.2022
Fin de l'événement
31.01.2022
Female Power: Four Reasons for World Rule and One PR Disaster
Female Power: Four Reasons for World Rule and One PR Disaster
Description
Breaking up with someone you still actually like
First Dates You Should Never Take a Black Woman On
Why Women Should Rule The World
Do’s And Dont’s Of Making a Sex Tape
Four Reasons Why women Shouldn’t Pursue Men
Taking The Lead
Can’t Trust It: 9 Women To Avoid At All Сosts
Five Surefire Ways To Scare Her Away
@Sister Toldja, that one scene was definitely a stretch. however, i don’t actually think they over did it too much on that end. in fact, i think that was the only scene were they specifically and overtly stated what htey were doing…and i’m guessing its bc TP had no clue how else to write it in.
The Best Man had a similar scene when all four of them were playing cards and Taye Diggs went out of his way to mention that Morris Chestnutt graduated Summa Cum Laude, etc. And talking about Merch’s lawyer possibilities, etc.
sometimes i think these folks just dont know how create dialogue that isn’t so in your face…but they’ll sacrfice one scene for it.
d’oh well.
Reply
Ro {June 22nd, 2009 at 12:51 am}
@thismayconcernyou, I’m not going to lie… Seeing grown up Rudy portray a prostitute…. not believeable to me. The attitude…all that made me giggle.
I’ll stick to the plays…at least there the over acting is accepted.
Reply
thismayconcernyou {June 22nd, 2009 at 12:59 am}
@Ro,
Google thismayconcernyou and Rudy Huxtable… this is my hope for Rudy. Not the crackwhorish prostitution. lol.
Reply
Panama Jackson {June 22nd, 2009 at 9:52 am}
@Ro, you know what made it unbelievable to me?
them hoez were SO dirty. in ATL, most of our hoez look way cleaner then that. I mean the wigs were terrible. back in the day, on Stewart Ave (or more recently Metropolitan) the tricks looked pretty well put together. I mean ATL is a pretty chick city, the competition is steep. you cant’ just show up looking like a dirty yamp. You got to be nice and clean lookin’.
plus, she looked dirty as hell but had the best set of pearly whites you ever did see.
First Dates You Should Never Take a Black Woman On
Why Women Should Rule The World
Do’s And Dont’s Of Making a Sex Tape
Four Reasons Why women Shouldn’t Pursue Men
Taking The Lead
Can’t Trust It: 9 Women To Avoid At All Сosts
Five Surefire Ways To Scare Her Away
@Sister Toldja, that one scene was definitely a stretch. however, i don’t actually think they over did it too much on that end. in fact, i think that was the only scene were they specifically and overtly stated what htey were doing…and i’m guessing its bc TP had no clue how else to write it in.
The Best Man had a similar scene when all four of them were playing cards and Taye Diggs went out of his way to mention that Morris Chestnutt graduated Summa Cum Laude, etc. And talking about Merch’s lawyer possibilities, etc.
sometimes i think these folks just dont know how create dialogue that isn’t so in your face…but they’ll sacrfice one scene for it.
d’oh well.
Reply
Ro {June 22nd, 2009 at 12:51 am}
@thismayconcernyou, I’m not going to lie… Seeing grown up Rudy portray a prostitute…. not believeable to me. The attitude…all that made me giggle.
I’ll stick to the plays…at least there the over acting is accepted.
Reply
thismayconcernyou {June 22nd, 2009 at 12:59 am}
@Ro,
Google thismayconcernyou and Rudy Huxtable… this is my hope for Rudy. Not the crackwhorish prostitution. lol.
Reply
Panama Jackson {June 22nd, 2009 at 9:52 am}
@Ro, you know what made it unbelievable to me?
them hoez were SO dirty. in ATL, most of our hoez look way cleaner then that. I mean the wigs were terrible. back in the day, on Stewart Ave (or more recently Metropolitan) the tricks looked pretty well put together. I mean ATL is a pretty chick city, the competition is steep. you cant’ just show up looking like a dirty yamp. You got to be nice and clean lookin’.
plus, she looked dirty as hell but had the best set of pearly whites you ever did see.
Début de l'événement
17.10.2022
Fin de l'événement
17.10.2022
Financial Stress and Divorce When Money Problems Become Marriage Problems
Financial Stress and Divorce When Money Problems Become Marriage Problems
Description
I Travel The World. Alone.
An Internal Monologue While Perusing Online Dating Matches
How To Hook Up In A Hostel есть 100 дубликат на frisky
How Do You Know When You’re Ready To Vacation Together?
How To Enjoy Travelling When You’re Not On Your Honeymoon
I Fantasize About Other Men
Why It’s Easier To Meet Men On Vacation есть 100 дубликат на frisky
If You’re 300,000 Miles Away, Don’t Call Your New Man
Will Our Marriage Survive Our First Road Trip Together?
When On Vacation ... Just Say Yes
Andthatswhyyouresingle Says:
January 17th, 2012 at 2:41 pm
Forget about 6-8 weeks. This woman issued the “sex for committment” ultimatum after only a week and he agreed. There’s nothing healthy about that. No self-respecting guy does that unless he’s desperate or has an ulterior motive. Color me pessimistic.
This guy is a Grade A fraudster who’s taking advantage of the fact that this woman is new in town, has no real support system and no real social life. Which means she has no friends warning her or looking out for her. He is the center of her world.
She’ll do whatever he wants because he fits the profile – rich, handsome, a “CEO” (a nice bullshit title that self-employed people like to give themselves so they can sound more impressive) and eager to commit.
Hot debate. What do you think? Thumb up 16 Thumb down 10
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DrivingMeNutes Says:
January 17th, 2012 at 3:32 pm
Agree about the CEO title, unless it’s given to you by a disinterested board of directors. And, you can take my word for it because, although I don’t have the credibility normally reserved for famed radio personalities in happy long term relationships, I am the Emperor of a nice Pile of Dirt.
Hot debate. What do you think? Thumb up 11 Thumb down 2
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Crotch Rocket Says:
January 18th, 2012 at 11:12 am
“No self-respecting guy does that unless he’s desperate or has an ulterior motive.” Or he could simply be lying. After all, they’d only known each other a week; she has no reasonable basis to conclude this “commitment” meant anything because there hadn’t been enough time for him (or her, for that matter) to establish a track record of honesty.
An Internal Monologue While Perusing Online Dating Matches
How To Hook Up In A Hostel есть 100 дубликат на frisky
How Do You Know When You’re Ready To Vacation Together?
How To Enjoy Travelling When You’re Not On Your Honeymoon
I Fantasize About Other Men
Why It’s Easier To Meet Men On Vacation есть 100 дубликат на frisky
If You’re 300,000 Miles Away, Don’t Call Your New Man
Will Our Marriage Survive Our First Road Trip Together?
When On Vacation ... Just Say Yes
Andthatswhyyouresingle Says:
January 17th, 2012 at 2:41 pm
Forget about 6-8 weeks. This woman issued the “sex for committment” ultimatum after only a week and he agreed. There’s nothing healthy about that. No self-respecting guy does that unless he’s desperate or has an ulterior motive. Color me pessimistic.
This guy is a Grade A fraudster who’s taking advantage of the fact that this woman is new in town, has no real support system and no real social life. Which means she has no friends warning her or looking out for her. He is the center of her world.
She’ll do whatever he wants because he fits the profile – rich, handsome, a “CEO” (a nice bullshit title that self-employed people like to give themselves so they can sound more impressive) and eager to commit.
Hot debate. What do you think? Thumb up 16 Thumb down 10
Reply
DrivingMeNutes Says:
January 17th, 2012 at 3:32 pm
Agree about the CEO title, unless it’s given to you by a disinterested board of directors. And, you can take my word for it because, although I don’t have the credibility normally reserved for famed radio personalities in happy long term relationships, I am the Emperor of a nice Pile of Dirt.
Hot debate. What do you think? Thumb up 11 Thumb down 2
Reply
Crotch Rocket Says:
January 18th, 2012 at 11:12 am
“No self-respecting guy does that unless he’s desperate or has an ulterior motive.” Or he could simply be lying. After all, they’d only known each other a week; she has no reasonable basis to conclude this “commitment” meant anything because there hadn’t been enough time for him (or her, for that matter) to establish a track record of honesty.
Début de l'événement
21.02.2022
Fin de l'événement
21.02.2022
Finding Love or Just Validation The Real Reason People Use Dating Apps
Finding Love or Just Validation The Real Reason People Use Dating Apps
Description
We’re All Slutty For The Right Guy
Dear Men: This Is Why Loyalty Is So Important To Women
How Do You Avoid Dating a Liberal/Conservative?
Are You Looking For Fast Love Too?
Should You Fake an Active Lifestyle for Love?
When a Relationship Feels Like a Secret Mission
Pushing Through It
Embracing The Unexpected Path Of Singlehood
Why Is It So Hard to Believe Someone Might Stay?
Am I Crazy Or Is He A Hot Mess?
Comments? Thoughts? This is based on science and careful study but I’m always open to postulation.
More often than not, men and women are ships passing in the night, never quite existing on the same level. This phenom is the subject of endless study and speculation, but never is it more the case than at the beginning of a courtship – such a delicate period of wide error margins and tricky variables.
Sounds like a job for math and statistics, and it is. I introduce to the world the Rothman graph (fig. A). Let me break it down. The Level of Interest is the amount of interest and enthusiasm (sexual or otherwise) each has for the other. The Level of Familiarity is how well they know each other, defined by time.
You will quickly notice the extreme distance between the man and woman on the level of interest in the beginning: the woman is on the lowest level while the man is that the very top. This is because men, generally stimulated and driven by visual stimuli, believes from the beginning that she is perfect for him – even though he knows nothing about her. She’s hot, she’s the one. Period.
Women, however, reserve interest in the beginning; their levels rise only with time and familiarity. Indeed, she needs to know “the real” him, and interest is yoked to time. So the disconnect here is obvious and, much of the time, irreconcilable; the results then are all too predictable.
They only come together, literally, upon conception; almost immediately after each takes their, sharp dramatic turn in opposite trajectories. Ironically, the end result is mutual – utter confusion. But we now understand there is nothing to be confused about, and can only hope that lightning strikes and the warring opposites get set on the same (or at least similar) course.
Comments? Thoughts? This is based on science and careful study but I’m always open to postulation.Good Things: stability; predictable haircut; calculating manner that can apply to other aspects of life in positive ways, for example sex; always on time; will never cheat on you.
Dear Men: This Is Why Loyalty Is So Important To Women
How Do You Avoid Dating a Liberal/Conservative?
Are You Looking For Fast Love Too?
Should You Fake an Active Lifestyle for Love?
When a Relationship Feels Like a Secret Mission
Pushing Through It
Embracing The Unexpected Path Of Singlehood
Why Is It So Hard to Believe Someone Might Stay?
Am I Crazy Or Is He A Hot Mess?
Comments? Thoughts? This is based on science and careful study but I’m always open to postulation.
More often than not, men and women are ships passing in the night, never quite existing on the same level. This phenom is the subject of endless study and speculation, but never is it more the case than at the beginning of a courtship – such a delicate period of wide error margins and tricky variables.
Sounds like a job for math and statistics, and it is. I introduce to the world the Rothman graph (fig. A). Let me break it down. The Level of Interest is the amount of interest and enthusiasm (sexual or otherwise) each has for the other. The Level of Familiarity is how well they know each other, defined by time.
You will quickly notice the extreme distance between the man and woman on the level of interest in the beginning: the woman is on the lowest level while the man is that the very top. This is because men, generally stimulated and driven by visual stimuli, believes from the beginning that she is perfect for him – even though he knows nothing about her. She’s hot, she’s the one. Period.
Women, however, reserve interest in the beginning; their levels rise only with time and familiarity. Indeed, she needs to know “the real” him, and interest is yoked to time. So the disconnect here is obvious and, much of the time, irreconcilable; the results then are all too predictable.
They only come together, literally, upon conception; almost immediately after each takes their, sharp dramatic turn in opposite trajectories. Ironically, the end result is mutual – utter confusion. But we now understand there is nothing to be confused about, and can only hope that lightning strikes and the warring opposites get set on the same (or at least similar) course.
Comments? Thoughts? This is based on science and careful study but I’m always open to postulation.Good Things: stability; predictable haircut; calculating manner that can apply to other aspects of life in positive ways, for example sex; always on time; will never cheat on you.
Début de l'événement
11.03.2022
Fin de l'événement
11.03.2022
Fixating on Strangers: When Fantasies Cloud Judgment
Fixating on Strangers: When Fantasies Cloud Judgment
Description
More On the Nuclear Family with Children Narrative
Loosening the Chains of the Nuclear Family
Kindness and Modern Dating
How to Navigate Uncertainty in Online Dating
A Dating Suggestion to the Deeply Frustrated
Rethinking Gender Norms in Modern Dating
Obsessing About Strangers
Two Dates in One
Texts Or Calls And Dating
Men Like a Challenge
Men Want to Feel Manly
Issues with the Language of Dating Angst
What made this feeling even weirder was that it wasn’t rooted in any racial hang-ups and/or neurosis. It — interracial dating — just didn’t compute as a possibility because I never saw any of my peers do it. I guess it’s kind of like the KFC Double Down in that way. I wouldn’t have fathomed that you could make a chicken/meat/chicken sandwich until I actually saw it done.
Ashley: I always joke that I didn’t “discover” race until I attended Howard University. Sure, I knew the different colors of the ‘racebow’, but I didn’t know what it meant for me or my peers. I grew up in a predominantly white suburb in Michigan (right outside of Detroit and not too far from 8 mile…). There were a ton of interracial relationships in my family. For the longest time I assumed my white aunts were just fair-skinned black women. Our family didn’t talk about race, but we were still “black” (if that makes sense). Meaning, you could catch anything from B.I.G to Bill Withers on the stereo on any given day. So the messages that I received were that it was, “all good.” I don’t recall any funny looks or whispered conversations about the interracial couples in our family. My uncles didn’t run to the family bbq expecting an award for bringing a woman of a different race around. It was something we were just all used to seeing.
Cheryl Lynn: The topic of interracial relationships wasn’t (and still isn’t) a topic that is discussed in my family. Still, I definitely got the impression that that there were interracial relationships that weren’t an issue and interracial relationships that were. Romantic relationships between blacks and Latinos were/are so common in my family and community that I often forget that they actually are interracial relationships. My family and friends have never frowned upon romantic relationships between blacks and whites…but it is a thing. It’s an elephant in the room. I remember the raised eyebrows when I went to the prom with a white guy. It was the only time I dated a white guy and the only time I ever got those raised eyebrows. Once I brought home an ethnically/racially ambiguous Asian guy. My mom was really sweet, but as soon as he left asked, “What is he?” I told her “He’s not white.” And that was all the answer she needed. But if you bring a white person home, there are little jokes, little looks. Nothing mean, but your relationship is marked as different. The one exception? If your significant other is gay. I guess there’s a minority requirement…but they don’t care what minority!
Andrea: My maternal family–especially my mom and aunts, who were the last two generations to see that “whites-only” sign racism in the US–let me know that it was not OK to get with the ofay. Other men of color were seen as “not quite” what the fam wanted to see me bring home to them. But my mom also said that, if she had her preference in seeing an interracial couple–like you, N’jaila, she thought of “interracial” as PoC and White pairings–she’d much rather see a Black woman with a White Man than a Black man with a White woman. In her mind, the Black woman is “getting hers.”
Loosening the Chains of the Nuclear Family
Kindness and Modern Dating
How to Navigate Uncertainty in Online Dating
A Dating Suggestion to the Deeply Frustrated
Rethinking Gender Norms in Modern Dating
Obsessing About Strangers
Two Dates in One
Texts Or Calls And Dating
Men Like a Challenge
Men Want to Feel Manly
Issues with the Language of Dating Angst
What made this feeling even weirder was that it wasn’t rooted in any racial hang-ups and/or neurosis. It — interracial dating — just didn’t compute as a possibility because I never saw any of my peers do it. I guess it’s kind of like the KFC Double Down in that way. I wouldn’t have fathomed that you could make a chicken/meat/chicken sandwich until I actually saw it done.
Ashley: I always joke that I didn’t “discover” race until I attended Howard University. Sure, I knew the different colors of the ‘racebow’, but I didn’t know what it meant for me or my peers. I grew up in a predominantly white suburb in Michigan (right outside of Detroit and not too far from 8 mile…). There were a ton of interracial relationships in my family. For the longest time I assumed my white aunts were just fair-skinned black women. Our family didn’t talk about race, but we were still “black” (if that makes sense). Meaning, you could catch anything from B.I.G to Bill Withers on the stereo on any given day. So the messages that I received were that it was, “all good.” I don’t recall any funny looks or whispered conversations about the interracial couples in our family. My uncles didn’t run to the family bbq expecting an award for bringing a woman of a different race around. It was something we were just all used to seeing.
Cheryl Lynn: The topic of interracial relationships wasn’t (and still isn’t) a topic that is discussed in my family. Still, I definitely got the impression that that there were interracial relationships that weren’t an issue and interracial relationships that were. Romantic relationships between blacks and Latinos were/are so common in my family and community that I often forget that they actually are interracial relationships. My family and friends have never frowned upon romantic relationships between blacks and whites…but it is a thing. It’s an elephant in the room. I remember the raised eyebrows when I went to the prom with a white guy. It was the only time I dated a white guy and the only time I ever got those raised eyebrows. Once I brought home an ethnically/racially ambiguous Asian guy. My mom was really sweet, but as soon as he left asked, “What is he?” I told her “He’s not white.” And that was all the answer she needed. But if you bring a white person home, there are little jokes, little looks. Nothing mean, but your relationship is marked as different. The one exception? If your significant other is gay. I guess there’s a minority requirement…but they don’t care what minority!
Andrea: My maternal family–especially my mom and aunts, who were the last two generations to see that “whites-only” sign racism in the US–let me know that it was not OK to get with the ofay. Other men of color were seen as “not quite” what the fam wanted to see me bring home to them. But my mom also said that, if she had her preference in seeing an interracial couple–like you, N’jaila, she thought of “interracial” as PoC and White pairings–she’d much rather see a Black woman with a White Man than a Black man with a White woman. In her mind, the Black woman is “getting hers.”
Début de l'événement
02.01.2023
Fin de l'événement
02.01.2023
Forbidden Romance: Should Friends Date Your Sibling?
Forbidden Romance: Should Friends Date Your Sibling?
Description
Five Subtle Signs That He Ain't Bad
Do You Expect Your Partner To Cheat?
10 Reasons Why You Will Not Get A Call Back
Why I Never Will Date A White Woman
Tiger Woods Elin Nordegren And Golfgate
The Five Worst Times To Approach A Black Woman
Why Won’T You Let Me Be Great?
What men usually hear when women are talking to us
Bedroom Tactics Gone Bad: 5 Things You Really Should Ask About.
I completely feel for you and the situation you are going through. I understand your frustration about the guy friend and your feeling that your girlfriend is not helping enough around the house. From the information you gave me, you work about 55ish hours? She works about 54ish hours? Is that correct? I think that is the first big issue. You both work too many hours. There are 168 hours in a week. If you minus sleeping time, (about 8 hours a night) that leaves you with 112 hours. Lets minus work time= 57 hours. Let’s account for an hour commute a day- to work, groceries, errands etc (time in the car)= 50 hours. Let’s deduct 3 hours a day to eat and prepare food (3 meals)=21 hours left. That leaves you about 3 hours a day give or take with free time… and that’s probably going to be eaten up easily with chores, spending time with your daughter, bills, tv or internet time etc…
The big thing is that you both don’t have margin in your life. Without that time for your relationship, time specifically set aside each day to be together, communicate, enjoy each other’s company, even just do nothing together, what do you really have but a life that’s all work and no play? With three hours left each day (give or take), is it no wonder that she wants to spend that time not cleaning house?
I know this is a crazy idea, but if there is any way you can downsize your life, lessen your monthly bills and rent/mortgage, pay down any debt you may have… so that you guys can free up time in your life to dedicate to your relationship, you will both be happier. I’m a big believer in the one income household, with the wife only having the option to work. Then she can be the queen of your home, raise your daughter, manage the affairs of your household. If you both love your jobs and cannot conceive of this kind of world, is there any way to reduce the amount of time you spend at work to devote to your family? How would she feel about these possibilities?
All I am saying is that the answer to your situation is not going to be easy. It’s going to take a drastic lifestyle change. why? Because you cannot create more time in a day. You cannot conjur up more energy than what your body has. You are both depleting your energies by allowing work to dominate your time.
In regards to the “guy friend:” I don’t believe it is wise for women in committed relationships to have these guy best friend types. There is always a flirtatious element in male and female friendships especially if both find the other attractive. There is nothing you can do about this. Nonetheless, as the man in the relationship who is affected by this close friendship, forcing her to stop texting this man or stop hanging out with this man will take away her freedom, and the natural response to having your liberties taken away is for you to number 1: rebel or number 2: desire more that which has been labeled as prohibited.
Do You Expect Your Partner To Cheat?
10 Reasons Why You Will Not Get A Call Back
Why I Never Will Date A White Woman
Tiger Woods Elin Nordegren And Golfgate
The Five Worst Times To Approach A Black Woman
Why Won’T You Let Me Be Great?
What men usually hear when women are talking to us
Bedroom Tactics Gone Bad: 5 Things You Really Should Ask About.
I completely feel for you and the situation you are going through. I understand your frustration about the guy friend and your feeling that your girlfriend is not helping enough around the house. From the information you gave me, you work about 55ish hours? She works about 54ish hours? Is that correct? I think that is the first big issue. You both work too many hours. There are 168 hours in a week. If you minus sleeping time, (about 8 hours a night) that leaves you with 112 hours. Lets minus work time= 57 hours. Let’s account for an hour commute a day- to work, groceries, errands etc (time in the car)= 50 hours. Let’s deduct 3 hours a day to eat and prepare food (3 meals)=21 hours left. That leaves you about 3 hours a day give or take with free time… and that’s probably going to be eaten up easily with chores, spending time with your daughter, bills, tv or internet time etc…
The big thing is that you both don’t have margin in your life. Without that time for your relationship, time specifically set aside each day to be together, communicate, enjoy each other’s company, even just do nothing together, what do you really have but a life that’s all work and no play? With three hours left each day (give or take), is it no wonder that she wants to spend that time not cleaning house?
I know this is a crazy idea, but if there is any way you can downsize your life, lessen your monthly bills and rent/mortgage, pay down any debt you may have… so that you guys can free up time in your life to dedicate to your relationship, you will both be happier. I’m a big believer in the one income household, with the wife only having the option to work. Then she can be the queen of your home, raise your daughter, manage the affairs of your household. If you both love your jobs and cannot conceive of this kind of world, is there any way to reduce the amount of time you spend at work to devote to your family? How would she feel about these possibilities?
All I am saying is that the answer to your situation is not going to be easy. It’s going to take a drastic lifestyle change. why? Because you cannot create more time in a day. You cannot conjur up more energy than what your body has. You are both depleting your energies by allowing work to dominate your time.
In regards to the “guy friend:” I don’t believe it is wise for women in committed relationships to have these guy best friend types. There is always a flirtatious element in male and female friendships especially if both find the other attractive. There is nothing you can do about this. Nonetheless, as the man in the relationship who is affected by this close friendship, forcing her to stop texting this man or stop hanging out with this man will take away her freedom, and the natural response to having your liberties taken away is for you to number 1: rebel or number 2: desire more that which has been labeled as prohibited.
Début de l'événement
15.10.2022
Fin de l'événement
15.10.2022
Friend Zone Myths and Realities: What You Need to Know
Friend Zone Myths and Realities: What You Need to Know
Description
Three Great Things To Do If Dateless On Valentines Day
10 Things I’ve Learned Since Becoming A Daddy
How To Snag A Last Minute Valentine’s Date
5 Fun Ways to Argue Without Breaking Up
6 Signs You’ve Fallen Into The “Friend Zone”
6 Signs That A Woman Has Been Friend-Zoned
A Guide To Avoiding Relationship Fumbles
A Guide to Making New Friends
Amerie: Has anybody ever told you that could actually sing before? No dis, but you generally sound like when it sings it hurts. In fact, when you sing, I’m often reminded of when I had pneumonia. That’s it, you sing you like your lungs hurt. And maybe that sounds good in Alaska…oh there I go judging again.
Gov. Mark Sanford: Did you ACTUALLY think that you were going to get away with skirting to the Argentinian countryside with a woman and telling everybody else that you went hiking or some such other sh*t? What were you really thinking? You can tell me, I’m just curious as to the general f*ckery that was going on in your mind.
Ciara: How is that you manage to look like both a little boy and a woman at the exact same time? Do you do it on purpose? I’ve always wondered about this, except when you shot the video for “Oh” because you looked great in that video.
Marion Barry: Do you have a personal scandal stopwatch or something? When it counts down to zero you know its time for you to do some other retarded sh*t? Oh, and how can I get in on this “never pay taxes but never go to jail” hustle you have going on?
Fruit -of-the-Loom Grapes: Do you ever wish you were the apple?
The Rest of the Jackson 5 (and Randy): Did you all ever honestly assess the fact that if not for Michael, you probably never would have made it out of Gary?
Blackademics: Which death would have been better career wise: Jay-Z after The Blueprint or Nas after Illmatic? Jay had more albums at that time but its the point where everybody knew him, but Nas is STILL viable because of Illmatic. Just wondering.
Mr. Big Stuff: Just who do you think you are?
Those are a just a few of the questions that I’d ask celebrities if I were to get the opportunity. What questions would you ask of celebrities of you could ask them anything under the sun and they were guaranteed to answer?
Inquiring minds would like to know.
-VSB P aka THE ARSONIST aka TANGLE JIG P aka GIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIRL, HE A 3
PS – Don’t forget to vote for us for the Black Weblog Awards (or nominate us…or whatever). I do believe this is the last week you can vote or nominate or whatever. We appreciate you taking the time out of your day to do so for the people. In fact, the people appreciate you. We, the people. On some Eagley Eye sh*t.
10 Things I’ve Learned Since Becoming A Daddy
How To Snag A Last Minute Valentine’s Date
5 Fun Ways to Argue Without Breaking Up
6 Signs You’ve Fallen Into The “Friend Zone”
6 Signs That A Woman Has Been Friend-Zoned
A Guide To Avoiding Relationship Fumbles
A Guide to Making New Friends
Amerie: Has anybody ever told you that could actually sing before? No dis, but you generally sound like when it sings it hurts. In fact, when you sing, I’m often reminded of when I had pneumonia. That’s it, you sing you like your lungs hurt. And maybe that sounds good in Alaska…oh there I go judging again.
Gov. Mark Sanford: Did you ACTUALLY think that you were going to get away with skirting to the Argentinian countryside with a woman and telling everybody else that you went hiking or some such other sh*t? What were you really thinking? You can tell me, I’m just curious as to the general f*ckery that was going on in your mind.
Ciara: How is that you manage to look like both a little boy and a woman at the exact same time? Do you do it on purpose? I’ve always wondered about this, except when you shot the video for “Oh” because you looked great in that video.
Marion Barry: Do you have a personal scandal stopwatch or something? When it counts down to zero you know its time for you to do some other retarded sh*t? Oh, and how can I get in on this “never pay taxes but never go to jail” hustle you have going on?
Fruit -of-the-Loom Grapes: Do you ever wish you were the apple?
The Rest of the Jackson 5 (and Randy): Did you all ever honestly assess the fact that if not for Michael, you probably never would have made it out of Gary?
Blackademics: Which death would have been better career wise: Jay-Z after The Blueprint or Nas after Illmatic? Jay had more albums at that time but its the point where everybody knew him, but Nas is STILL viable because of Illmatic. Just wondering.
Mr. Big Stuff: Just who do you think you are?
Those are a just a few of the questions that I’d ask celebrities if I were to get the opportunity. What questions would you ask of celebrities of you could ask them anything under the sun and they were guaranteed to answer?
Inquiring minds would like to know.
-VSB P aka THE ARSONIST aka TANGLE JIG P aka GIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIRL, HE A 3
PS – Don’t forget to vote for us for the Black Weblog Awards (or nominate us…or whatever). I do believe this is the last week you can vote or nominate or whatever. We appreciate you taking the time out of your day to do so for the people. In fact, the people appreciate you. We, the people. On some Eagley Eye sh*t.
Début de l'événement
29.10.2021
Fin de l'événement
29.10.2021
From Creepers to Romeos: How to Keep Unwanted Guys at Bay
From Creepers to Romeos: How to Keep Unwanted Guys at Bay
Description
Things Every Grown Black Man Needs In His Life
The Black Dating Game
How To Stop “That” Dude From Trying To Talk To You
10 Most Common Lies People Tell in A Relationship
I’ll Be Your Pappy: The Silence of the Daddy Issues
Three Underrated Relationship Benchmarks
Why Successful Men Don’t Want To Put A Ring On it
Annoying Things Women Only Do If They’re Into You
How Every Single Young Woman Can Improve Her Luck
This is very discouraging when you find out weeks, months, our years later. So, when you get what seems like such an obvious message from someone you find attractive, you would be incredibly stupid not to follow up. Also, it stimulates the rewards centers of the brain. You have managed to do something that caused a random woman to express her approval and likely attraction.
And everyone knows that reward center stimulating actions are actions that get repeated. Unlike snorting coke, there isn’t always an easy link between what you did and why she gave the reward. After all, you wear those shoes or clothes or cologne regularly. That’s why you women sometimes end up with weird responses from guys. They have incorrectly isolated the behavior that they think leads to the reward.
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413WIP July 18, 2011 at 2:30 pm
“That’s why you women sometimes end up with weird responses from guys. They have incorrectly isolated the behavior that they think leads to the reward.”
LOL, so dude has been spending money on expensive jackets and and has to totally reevaluate his game when he’s complimented on his gorgeous eyebrows.
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414Sweet Sass July 18, 2011 at 1:56 pm
I compliment men for giggles sometimes. I do agree most of them don’t know what to do. That can take the fun out of it.
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415Around the Way Girl July 18, 2011 at 2:35 pm
I’m a little late, but hopefully people are still commenting. I have a question for the ladies…
When you compliment another woman, do you expect her to compliment you back? And if she doesn’t, do you find her rude/b!tchy? I ask because I get lots of compliments from women, and while I do give genuine compliments when there is something especially compliment-worthy about a person, I think it’s disengenuous to compliment someone just because they complimented you. So, in the moment, I usually just smile and say thank you. But sometimes I get the feeling the complimenter might be a little miffed that I didn’t say something nice back. Feedback?
Reply
The Black Dating Game
How To Stop “That” Dude From Trying To Talk To You
10 Most Common Lies People Tell in A Relationship
I’ll Be Your Pappy: The Silence of the Daddy Issues
Three Underrated Relationship Benchmarks
Why Successful Men Don’t Want To Put A Ring On it
Annoying Things Women Only Do If They’re Into You
How Every Single Young Woman Can Improve Her Luck
This is very discouraging when you find out weeks, months, our years later. So, when you get what seems like such an obvious message from someone you find attractive, you would be incredibly stupid not to follow up. Also, it stimulates the rewards centers of the brain. You have managed to do something that caused a random woman to express her approval and likely attraction.
And everyone knows that reward center stimulating actions are actions that get repeated. Unlike snorting coke, there isn’t always an easy link between what you did and why she gave the reward. After all, you wear those shoes or clothes or cologne regularly. That’s why you women sometimes end up with weird responses from guys. They have incorrectly isolated the behavior that they think leads to the reward.
Reply
413WIP July 18, 2011 at 2:30 pm
“That’s why you women sometimes end up with weird responses from guys. They have incorrectly isolated the behavior that they think leads to the reward.”
LOL, so dude has been spending money on expensive jackets and and has to totally reevaluate his game when he’s complimented on his gorgeous eyebrows.
Reply
414Sweet Sass July 18, 2011 at 1:56 pm
I compliment men for giggles sometimes. I do agree most of them don’t know what to do. That can take the fun out of it.
Reply
415Around the Way Girl July 18, 2011 at 2:35 pm
I’m a little late, but hopefully people are still commenting. I have a question for the ladies…
When you compliment another woman, do you expect her to compliment you back? And if she doesn’t, do you find her rude/b!tchy? I ask because I get lots of compliments from women, and while I do give genuine compliments when there is something especially compliment-worthy about a person, I think it’s disengenuous to compliment someone just because they complimented you. So, in the moment, I usually just smile and say thank you. But sometimes I get the feeling the complimenter might be a little miffed that I didn’t say something nice back. Feedback?
Reply
Début de l'événement
09.10.2022
Fin de l'événement
09.10.2022
From Online Match to First Date: Transitioning Smoothly
From Online Match to First Date: Transitioning Smoothly
Description
A Simpler Guide to Single Men
Top 10 Signs He Is Cheating On You
Check Out Girls Without Getting Caught
10 Steps to Get Over Your Ex
How To: Forget Your Dating Check List
A Female Player's Strategy: The Preemptive Strike
It's Okay To Be Needy
Why Klutzy Women Are Attractive
How Being A Bitch Can Save Your Love Life
Men Play Dating Games Too
Given the time-frame suggested, I don’t completely disagree with the post. I think my overall criticism would be that the situational examples start to resemble a rule book, and they imply that by conducting one’s outward behavior in the right way, you can become or at least resemble an alpha. This may be true for very good actors, but I think it misses the point: alphaness is an internal quality. An alpha can look into his girlfriend’s eyes and say the sappiest shit and he’s still alpha. And the opposite is also true: a beta can recite the correct answer with the perfect delivery and he’s still a beta in her eyes.
These posts place too much emphasis on the verbal, which is probably because blogs are verbal mediums, and this obscures the fact that alphaness is primarily non-verbal and status-based. Who you are, how you look, how you hold yourself and how you talk go much further in the girl’s evaluation of you than what you say. I don’t envy the editor’s difficult job of trying to explain non-verbal alphaness using a verbal medium. My only suggestion would be that instead of emphasizing verbal word-play with the gal, more guys would be better served by working out, eating right, intellectually challenging themselves…basically by improving themselves for its own-sake. And in fairness to the editor, he has suggested these things in prior posts.
on June 1, 2010 at 4:27 pmxsplat
Sidewinder, I can see you are trying to be balanced, and I understand your aversion to the rule book mentality.
However the fact that certain rules irk is the friction required to get you to think about the inner attitudes required.
Yes, it’s a major attitude shift for us men to proclaim that our cock has mysterious ways that the woman does not and will never control.
I know you personally would hate to have to hold even that attitude. You want to give up the mystery, in favor of communion.
Sorry, but I think that attitude is not strategic, and it doesn’t take into account as much reality as do other attitudes. Stupid, in other words.
on June 1, 2010 at 4:29 pmPhillyBoy81
You should write a post on SATC2.
on June 1, 2010 at 4:30 pmj r
that is an interesting articlle that roosh posted a link to. it seems that some pressure group or special interest is always making the case for this or that looming specter that threatens to do away with us all. and the powers that be are always receptive to using that message as a means of excercising more and more control over the populace.
Top 10 Signs He Is Cheating On You
Check Out Girls Without Getting Caught
10 Steps to Get Over Your Ex
How To: Forget Your Dating Check List
A Female Player's Strategy: The Preemptive Strike
It's Okay To Be Needy
Why Klutzy Women Are Attractive
How Being A Bitch Can Save Your Love Life
Men Play Dating Games Too
Given the time-frame suggested, I don’t completely disagree with the post. I think my overall criticism would be that the situational examples start to resemble a rule book, and they imply that by conducting one’s outward behavior in the right way, you can become or at least resemble an alpha. This may be true for very good actors, but I think it misses the point: alphaness is an internal quality. An alpha can look into his girlfriend’s eyes and say the sappiest shit and he’s still alpha. And the opposite is also true: a beta can recite the correct answer with the perfect delivery and he’s still a beta in her eyes.
These posts place too much emphasis on the verbal, which is probably because blogs are verbal mediums, and this obscures the fact that alphaness is primarily non-verbal and status-based. Who you are, how you look, how you hold yourself and how you talk go much further in the girl’s evaluation of you than what you say. I don’t envy the editor’s difficult job of trying to explain non-verbal alphaness using a verbal medium. My only suggestion would be that instead of emphasizing verbal word-play with the gal, more guys would be better served by working out, eating right, intellectually challenging themselves…basically by improving themselves for its own-sake. And in fairness to the editor, he has suggested these things in prior posts.
on June 1, 2010 at 4:27 pmxsplat
Sidewinder, I can see you are trying to be balanced, and I understand your aversion to the rule book mentality.
However the fact that certain rules irk is the friction required to get you to think about the inner attitudes required.
Yes, it’s a major attitude shift for us men to proclaim that our cock has mysterious ways that the woman does not and will never control.
I know you personally would hate to have to hold even that attitude. You want to give up the mystery, in favor of communion.
Sorry, but I think that attitude is not strategic, and it doesn’t take into account as much reality as do other attitudes. Stupid, in other words.
on June 1, 2010 at 4:29 pmPhillyBoy81
You should write a post on SATC2.
on June 1, 2010 at 4:30 pmj r
that is an interesting articlle that roosh posted a link to. it seems that some pressure group or special interest is always making the case for this or that looming specter that threatens to do away with us all. and the powers that be are always receptive to using that message as a means of excercising more and more control over the populace.
Début de l'événement
11.10.2022
Fin de l'événement
11.10.2022
Great Last Minute Valentine’s Ideas To Show You (Don’t) Care
Great Last Minute Valentine’s Ideas To Show You (Don’t) Care
Description
5 Ways To Prove You’re Really In Love!
Why Dating A Geek/Nerd Is Good Strategy
Break-Up Do’s And Don’ts
The “Straight” Dope On Traditional Marriage
Things I Wish Mom Told Me About Dating
The Struggle of Modern Love
The Perils of Dating a Married Man
A Woman’s Guide Of Back Hair Acceptance
10 Things Every Single Man Needs
Epic Meet-Cute Scenarios for Online Daters
10 Things Every Single Woman Needs
My friends, Valentine’s Day is almost here! If you’re a truly vapid person, this is an excellent opportunity to put that on display. Here are some great Valentines date ideas:
1. Attend a 7 PM showing of the latest Nicholas Sparks movie “Safe Haven” (get tickets in advance since it’s opening night!), followed by dinner at The Olive Garden (don’t forget to make reservations!)
2. Go see “Blue Man Group” or any other long-running and way-overpriced theatrical spectacle. Take pictures with the Blue Men after the show!
3. Stay in and rent “The Notebook.” Wear heart boxers (him) and pink silk pajama pants (her). Kick roommates out of the living room and sprinkle rose petals on the wall-to-wall carpet.
4. Have dinner at the Cheesecake Factory. Show her how little you care.
5. Hand deliver edible arrangements to your crush and then feed them to each other in front of their co-workers. Their colleagues will think it’s SO sweet!
6. The week before Valentine’s Day, get matching tattoos of each other’s face; on Valentine’s Day, reveal them to all your friends. Ignore those idiots when they tell you it won’t last – after all, THEY have no idea how magical the last two weeks have been.
7. Both learn the lyrics to the song “Hey There Delilah” and then sing along to it at karaoke. People find this endearing and a true expression of authentic love.
8. Propose, ideally by hiding a ring in a disgustingly massive slice of Oreo cheesecake from the “restaurant”, the Cheesecake Factory.
9. Skype with your “boyfriend” in Germany and brag to your friends that you’re no catfish. (Never tell them how much money you send him every month.)
10. Marry your high school sweetheart before graduation. Just know in your heart that it’s right.
Bonus for Terrible Long Distance Couples: Guys, send your girl a Jane Seymour-designed “Open Heart” necklace that comes in a heart-shaped box. In case it doesn’t arrive in time, also send a personalized singing e-card. Maybe include a video proposal! Why not??
Why Dating A Geek/Nerd Is Good Strategy
Break-Up Do’s And Don’ts
The “Straight” Dope On Traditional Marriage
Things I Wish Mom Told Me About Dating
The Struggle of Modern Love
The Perils of Dating a Married Man
A Woman’s Guide Of Back Hair Acceptance
10 Things Every Single Man Needs
Epic Meet-Cute Scenarios for Online Daters
10 Things Every Single Woman Needs
My friends, Valentine’s Day is almost here! If you’re a truly vapid person, this is an excellent opportunity to put that on display. Here are some great Valentines date ideas:
1. Attend a 7 PM showing of the latest Nicholas Sparks movie “Safe Haven” (get tickets in advance since it’s opening night!), followed by dinner at The Olive Garden (don’t forget to make reservations!)
2. Go see “Blue Man Group” or any other long-running and way-overpriced theatrical spectacle. Take pictures with the Blue Men after the show!
3. Stay in and rent “The Notebook.” Wear heart boxers (him) and pink silk pajama pants (her). Kick roommates out of the living room and sprinkle rose petals on the wall-to-wall carpet.
4. Have dinner at the Cheesecake Factory. Show her how little you care.
5. Hand deliver edible arrangements to your crush and then feed them to each other in front of their co-workers. Their colleagues will think it’s SO sweet!
6. The week before Valentine’s Day, get matching tattoos of each other’s face; on Valentine’s Day, reveal them to all your friends. Ignore those idiots when they tell you it won’t last – after all, THEY have no idea how magical the last two weeks have been.
7. Both learn the lyrics to the song “Hey There Delilah” and then sing along to it at karaoke. People find this endearing and a true expression of authentic love.
8. Propose, ideally by hiding a ring in a disgustingly massive slice of Oreo cheesecake from the “restaurant”, the Cheesecake Factory.
9. Skype with your “boyfriend” in Germany and brag to your friends that you’re no catfish. (Never tell them how much money you send him every month.)
10. Marry your high school sweetheart before graduation. Just know in your heart that it’s right.
Bonus for Terrible Long Distance Couples: Guys, send your girl a Jane Seymour-designed “Open Heart” necklace that comes in a heart-shaped box. In case it doesn’t arrive in time, also send a personalized singing e-card. Maybe include a video proposal! Why not??
Début de l'événement
18.11.2022
Fin de l'événement
18.11.2022
Hearts Are Free, Data Isn’t: Online Love in Financially Strapped Times
Hearts Are Free, Data Isn’t: Online Love in Financially Strapped Times
Description
Signs Men Look For Before Approaching
It’s Okay Not To Fight For Your Girl
I Have No White Friends
When Romance Gets Real
How Fashion Trends Test Masculinity and Memory
Getting Ready for ‘I Do’
Why Is It Hard For Men To Write About Sex?
Why Love Means Tolerating Each Other's Quirks
When Love Escapes Us.
Basically, it’s an exercise in a particular brand of butthurtness that’s even worse than the typical butthurtness: A hypocritical butthurtness. It operates from the premise that these bitches and hoes are “winning.” And, since these bitches and hoes are winning, we need someone to stand up for men to put those bitches and hoes in their places.
This premise conveniently ignores the fact that the last two decades of rap music has been filled with song after song after song after song after song after song of lyrics and concepts insulting and disrespecting women. These are not veiled or implied disses, either. The consistency of these types of lyrics is only rivaled by how bold and unambiguous they tend to be. Songs like “No Scrubs” and “Lookin Ass Niggas” are singular raindrops in an ocean full of “Big Pimpin”s and “Tip Drill”s and “Pop That”s and “Bitches Ain’t Shit”s.
While talking to Panama a couple weeks ago about the reaction to the post about Pharrell’s GIRL cover and Black male privilege, the conversation somehow segued to us discussing how different our backgrounds are, especially when it comes to the ambiguous and amorphous concept of Blackness.. He’s biracial, lived in the Blackest state on Earth (Alabama), the Blackest city on Earth (Detroit), and Germany. (Yes. That Germany.) He also went to an all-boys HBCU, and currently lives in the Bougie Black Person’s Mecca (Washington, D.C.).
I grew up and still live in Pittsburgh, PA –– the Whitest major metropolitan area in the country. I also lived on one of the most dangerous streets in the city, but I was somewhat insulated from that because my parents sent me to private school in the suburbs and, from the time I was maybe 12 years old, I was a star basketball player. (By my junior year in high school, we moved to that suburb.) This awkward simultaneous connection to and distance from Blackness continued in college. I went to a predominately White university, and I immediately immersed myself with the BlackBlack people on campus. As a junior I was an officer in the Afro-American Society, and my senior year I was an editor of the Black newspaper, The Nia News. But I was also a scholarship basketball player. Which meant I was immune to many of the issues Black students faced.
The conversation then shifted to how the uniqueness of each of our backgrounds, upbringings, and character traits (both learned and innate) controls each of our thoughts and actions today. None of our beliefs, opinions, personalities, and biases happened by accident. All earned their way to be with us.
It’s Okay Not To Fight For Your Girl
I Have No White Friends
When Romance Gets Real
How Fashion Trends Test Masculinity and Memory
Getting Ready for ‘I Do’
Why Is It Hard For Men To Write About Sex?
Why Love Means Tolerating Each Other's Quirks
When Love Escapes Us.
Basically, it’s an exercise in a particular brand of butthurtness that’s even worse than the typical butthurtness: A hypocritical butthurtness. It operates from the premise that these bitches and hoes are “winning.” And, since these bitches and hoes are winning, we need someone to stand up for men to put those bitches and hoes in their places.
This premise conveniently ignores the fact that the last two decades of rap music has been filled with song after song after song after song after song after song of lyrics and concepts insulting and disrespecting women. These are not veiled or implied disses, either. The consistency of these types of lyrics is only rivaled by how bold and unambiguous they tend to be. Songs like “No Scrubs” and “Lookin Ass Niggas” are singular raindrops in an ocean full of “Big Pimpin”s and “Tip Drill”s and “Pop That”s and “Bitches Ain’t Shit”s.
While talking to Panama a couple weeks ago about the reaction to the post about Pharrell’s GIRL cover and Black male privilege, the conversation somehow segued to us discussing how different our backgrounds are, especially when it comes to the ambiguous and amorphous concept of Blackness.. He’s biracial, lived in the Blackest state on Earth (Alabama), the Blackest city on Earth (Detroit), and Germany. (Yes. That Germany.) He also went to an all-boys HBCU, and currently lives in the Bougie Black Person’s Mecca (Washington, D.C.).
I grew up and still live in Pittsburgh, PA –– the Whitest major metropolitan area in the country. I also lived on one of the most dangerous streets in the city, but I was somewhat insulated from that because my parents sent me to private school in the suburbs and, from the time I was maybe 12 years old, I was a star basketball player. (By my junior year in high school, we moved to that suburb.) This awkward simultaneous connection to and distance from Blackness continued in college. I went to a predominately White university, and I immediately immersed myself with the BlackBlack people on campus. As a junior I was an officer in the Afro-American Society, and my senior year I was an editor of the Black newspaper, The Nia News. But I was also a scholarship basketball player. Which meant I was immune to many of the issues Black students faced.
The conversation then shifted to how the uniqueness of each of our backgrounds, upbringings, and character traits (both learned and innate) controls each of our thoughts and actions today. None of our beliefs, opinions, personalities, and biases happened by accident. All earned their way to be with us.
Début de l'événement
12.11.2021
Fin de l'événement
12.11.2021
How Not to Attract a Partner: Lessons from Awkward Encounters
How Not to Attract a Partner: Lessons from Awkward Encounters
Description
The Wingwoman
Change You Can Believe In: Yourself
Quick to Pass Judgment
Why Some People Hate Valentine’s Day
I’m Single on Valentine’s Day
My Secret Social Identity
What Exactly Is Dating? It’s Ambiguous.
Why Love Is Not a First Sight Thing
Chivalry Makes Women Feel Good
Relationship Experts: Hate The Player Or The Game?
The Double Standard of Men and Women
The Double Standard of Men and Women
The Double Standard of Men and Women
8 Ways to Make a Guy Not Want to Sleep with You
8 Ways to Make a Woman NOT Want to Sleep with You
Of course, these are just a couple of the reasons why I decided to move. I’m not even going to touch upon Dr. Mary Jane’s marijuana-fueled harmonica jam sessions or her utter disregard for privacy, quietness and bras.
Despite an afternoon thunderstorm, the day I moved was hot and the air was thick with a suffocating humidity. My white tee was soaked with rain and sweat and the front of it was browned with a dusting of dirt. Salty beads of sweat rolled down my baldhead and I looked- and smelled- like I had just sprinted through a marathon. After I packed the last box into the rental van, I returned to the apartment to give her my keys. Surprisingly, she handed me a stack of crisp hundred dollar bills. “Here is your security deposit, sir,” she said, matter-of-factly.
I folded the bills and shoved them into the front pocket of my cargo shorts. “I would give you a hug goodbye,” she said, stepping back and balancing her joint on the side of an ash tray, “but you’re all sweaty and dirty.”
“Nonsense!” I exclaimed. “Give me a hug!” Before she could react, I lunged forward and wrapped my big hairy, sweaty arms around her short, chubby body and squeezed her into me, making sure to smash her face into my wet, dirty bosom.
“Thanks for…everything,” I said. It might have sounded flippant, but in reality, deep down, I am grateful for Dr. Mary Jane. Yes, we didn’t always get along and she was a bully and she was loud and she forbade me to bring bacon in the house, but my two years in her apartment was a huge learning experience for me. I learned resourcefulness and tolerance. I learned to choose my battles and I learned the importance of standing up for myself. I wouldn’t want to necessarily do it again, but I also wouldn’t trade the experience for anything. Well, except maybe for a date with Usher.
I thought I would feel sentimental in some way, leaving that apartment for the last time, but I didn’t even give my empty room one last dramatic look. I just turned heel and took off, eager to get to my new apartment where I could play loud music, let boys spend the night and fill the fridge with pork products.
Change You Can Believe In: Yourself
Quick to Pass Judgment
Why Some People Hate Valentine’s Day
I’m Single on Valentine’s Day
My Secret Social Identity
What Exactly Is Dating? It’s Ambiguous.
Why Love Is Not a First Sight Thing
Chivalry Makes Women Feel Good
Relationship Experts: Hate The Player Or The Game?
The Double Standard of Men and Women
The Double Standard of Men and Women
The Double Standard of Men and Women
8 Ways to Make a Guy Not Want to Sleep with You
8 Ways to Make a Woman NOT Want to Sleep with You
Of course, these are just a couple of the reasons why I decided to move. I’m not even going to touch upon Dr. Mary Jane’s marijuana-fueled harmonica jam sessions or her utter disregard for privacy, quietness and bras.
Despite an afternoon thunderstorm, the day I moved was hot and the air was thick with a suffocating humidity. My white tee was soaked with rain and sweat and the front of it was browned with a dusting of dirt. Salty beads of sweat rolled down my baldhead and I looked- and smelled- like I had just sprinted through a marathon. After I packed the last box into the rental van, I returned to the apartment to give her my keys. Surprisingly, she handed me a stack of crisp hundred dollar bills. “Here is your security deposit, sir,” she said, matter-of-factly.
I folded the bills and shoved them into the front pocket of my cargo shorts. “I would give you a hug goodbye,” she said, stepping back and balancing her joint on the side of an ash tray, “but you’re all sweaty and dirty.”
“Nonsense!” I exclaimed. “Give me a hug!” Before she could react, I lunged forward and wrapped my big hairy, sweaty arms around her short, chubby body and squeezed her into me, making sure to smash her face into my wet, dirty bosom.
“Thanks for…everything,” I said. It might have sounded flippant, but in reality, deep down, I am grateful for Dr. Mary Jane. Yes, we didn’t always get along and she was a bully and she was loud and she forbade me to bring bacon in the house, but my two years in her apartment was a huge learning experience for me. I learned resourcefulness and tolerance. I learned to choose my battles and I learned the importance of standing up for myself. I wouldn’t want to necessarily do it again, but I also wouldn’t trade the experience for anything. Well, except maybe for a date with Usher.
I thought I would feel sentimental in some way, leaving that apartment for the last time, but I didn’t even give my empty room one last dramatic look. I just turned heel and took off, eager to get to my new apartment where I could play loud music, let boys spend the night and fill the fridge with pork products.
Début de l'événement
19.12.2022
Fin de l'événement
19.12.2022
How to Handle Anxiety in Online Dating: Confidence-Building Strategies
How to Handle Anxiety in Online Dating: Confidence-Building Strategies
Description
What Do Women REALLY Want?
The Top 10 Natural PUA Film Characters
Relax Dude I Am Not Swinging From Your Nuts
How To Survive Dating a ‘Walking Smoker’
Setting Yourself Apart From the Herd
The Best Reasons to Withhold Your Cakes
He Finally Has Me And Now He’s Bored?
12 Things Dull People Do That Make Them Boring
The Independent Single Woman: Self-Satisfaction
October 29, 2009 11:30:00 PM EST
Anonymous said...
Damn your like the only black guru that's doing something for us brothas, and that is not retired from the game like others.. You know what your talking about, whether your dropping knowledge about game or how to act, you definitely know your shit... And thats from your methods alone.. To add, I check this blog everyday just to read about something you did, because I know its either funny or plain brilliance.. You inspire me to really become successful with women, and I hope that you can keep this blog online. There's more game advice in this blog, then what Pua's gurus even sell... thanks for the knowledge you've contributed
October 29, 2009 11:31:00 PM EST
Anonymous said...
I'll be sorry to see this go. It's the only blog of it's kind that makes sense in the real world. Not the fantasy bullshit that the majority of people write. There is a lot of truth in this stuff;some it uncomfortable but it's changed my life and the way I look at things. For the better.
October 30, 2009 8:18:00 PM EST
Lee Coles said...
Yeah, that time does come, and everyone knows when it arrives. I've always appreciated the insight, and sort of regarded you as my little (albeit tall) brother. You were and are The Man.
October 31, 2009 1:54:00 PM EST
Anonymous said...
Do what you gotta do. But dude, don't close this site down; this place has tangibly altered people's lives - including mine.
I don't think I could ever fully articulate the appreciation that I and many others share for the stuff you've done - so I'll just say thanks for all the great posts.
October 31, 2009 6:00:00 PM EST
Anonymous said...
NO, freaking way !!! I hope this is just an early retirement, like Jay-Z and Michael Jordan.
Please re-consider
November 1, 2009 8:53:00 AM EST
Anonymous said...
Assanova,
You are the man. We all appreciate what you've done. You are a pioneer in your own way and style, and you call other's out on their bullshit and don't deal with the hipocrisy that has become known as the pickup community. You recognize those that have real ability/talent and those that don't. You have great writing talent and you are charismatic in your works. My recommendation: Keep the site up because you don't want to lose out on years of your own archives/memories...and do a post quarterly/bi yearly/ or at least yearly to keep in touch with those of us that have truly benefitted from you.
The Top 10 Natural PUA Film Characters
Relax Dude I Am Not Swinging From Your Nuts
How To Survive Dating a ‘Walking Smoker’
Setting Yourself Apart From the Herd
The Best Reasons to Withhold Your Cakes
He Finally Has Me And Now He’s Bored?
12 Things Dull People Do That Make Them Boring
The Independent Single Woman: Self-Satisfaction
October 29, 2009 11:30:00 PM EST
Anonymous said...
Damn your like the only black guru that's doing something for us brothas, and that is not retired from the game like others.. You know what your talking about, whether your dropping knowledge about game or how to act, you definitely know your shit... And thats from your methods alone.. To add, I check this blog everyday just to read about something you did, because I know its either funny or plain brilliance.. You inspire me to really become successful with women, and I hope that you can keep this blog online. There's more game advice in this blog, then what Pua's gurus even sell... thanks for the knowledge you've contributed
October 29, 2009 11:31:00 PM EST
Anonymous said...
I'll be sorry to see this go. It's the only blog of it's kind that makes sense in the real world. Not the fantasy bullshit that the majority of people write. There is a lot of truth in this stuff;some it uncomfortable but it's changed my life and the way I look at things. For the better.
October 30, 2009 8:18:00 PM EST
Lee Coles said...
Yeah, that time does come, and everyone knows when it arrives. I've always appreciated the insight, and sort of regarded you as my little (albeit tall) brother. You were and are The Man.
October 31, 2009 1:54:00 PM EST
Anonymous said...
Do what you gotta do. But dude, don't close this site down; this place has tangibly altered people's lives - including mine.
I don't think I could ever fully articulate the appreciation that I and many others share for the stuff you've done - so I'll just say thanks for all the great posts.
October 31, 2009 6:00:00 PM EST
Anonymous said...
NO, freaking way !!! I hope this is just an early retirement, like Jay-Z and Michael Jordan.
Please re-consider
November 1, 2009 8:53:00 AM EST
Anonymous said...
Assanova,
You are the man. We all appreciate what you've done. You are a pioneer in your own way and style, and you call other's out on their bullshit and don't deal with the hipocrisy that has become known as the pickup community. You recognize those that have real ability/talent and those that don't. You have great writing talent and you are charismatic in your works. My recommendation: Keep the site up because you don't want to lose out on years of your own archives/memories...and do a post quarterly/bi yearly/ or at least yearly to keep in touch with those of us that have truly benefitted from you.
Début de l'événement
11.10.2022
Fin de l'événement
11.10.2022
I recently found out my husband was on this site
I recently found out my husband was on this site
Description
The Top 10 White Lies People Tell In Online Dating Profiles
Things I Wish I Knew About Dating When I Was 22
8 Reasons You’re Single
Let’s Talk About Negging
What Are Your Pre-Date Nerves?
10 Things You Should Never Say To A Man In Bed
8 Things Men Want Women To Do In Bed
9 Things I Dread About Dating
I Wasn’t Jewish Enough
But it is what it is. New pussy was the single most exciting thing that has happened to me since the last time I had new pussy so many years ago. It was great just because it was different. I needed it like you need a massage or a vacation every so often. Being balls deep in another woman just for the sake of it was the thrill of a lifetime. I’ll definitely do it again sometime if I have the chance. No regrets but not down on family life either. In fact, I’m totally rejuvenated and looking forward to those never-ending travel team baseball games.
Billy had a mistress down on “A” and 12th
She was that little somethin’ that he did for himself
His own little secret didn’t hurt nobody…
Dr. Rosenpenis5 years agoReply
I recently found out my husband was on this site, hes either a liar or these women are just as foul if hes on here hooking up! well obviously a liar, but its disgusting to me that people would do this, how do you explain yourself to the “hook up” wouldnt a person feel like a giant pile of crap doing this and lying about it to themselves, their family and the new found friend, and if honest, these women need to realize that “not finding any decent men” is maybe more their fault than they think!
ED4 years agoReply
You are a judgmental bitch.
Have you been in a long marriage where you love your spouse, but they are always tired, distant, cold, unfeeling? Have you ever watched your relationship deteriorate into polite hellos and good nights….? Have you ever sacrificed your own happiness to save your children the hardship of a divorce. Have you ever waited through years of sadness just to keep your family together, because you love them too much to leave…no matter what you are treated like? Have you? If you haven’t then get off your high horse. Yes, maybe Tinder isn’t the best idea for a married man, but sometimes it takes getting caught to start the ending that his marriage obviously needed. Instead of making him feel bad and telling him he was creepy and that you and your friends were laughing at him, why not simply ignore him?
Things I Wish I Knew About Dating When I Was 22
8 Reasons You’re Single
Let’s Talk About Negging
What Are Your Pre-Date Nerves?
10 Things You Should Never Say To A Man In Bed
8 Things Men Want Women To Do In Bed
9 Things I Dread About Dating
I Wasn’t Jewish Enough
But it is what it is. New pussy was the single most exciting thing that has happened to me since the last time I had new pussy so many years ago. It was great just because it was different. I needed it like you need a massage or a vacation every so often. Being balls deep in another woman just for the sake of it was the thrill of a lifetime. I’ll definitely do it again sometime if I have the chance. No regrets but not down on family life either. In fact, I’m totally rejuvenated and looking forward to those never-ending travel team baseball games.
Billy had a mistress down on “A” and 12th
She was that little somethin’ that he did for himself
His own little secret didn’t hurt nobody…
Dr. Rosenpenis5 years agoReply
I recently found out my husband was on this site, hes either a liar or these women are just as foul if hes on here hooking up! well obviously a liar, but its disgusting to me that people would do this, how do you explain yourself to the “hook up” wouldnt a person feel like a giant pile of crap doing this and lying about it to themselves, their family and the new found friend, and if honest, these women need to realize that “not finding any decent men” is maybe more their fault than they think!
ED4 years agoReply
You are a judgmental bitch.
Have you been in a long marriage where you love your spouse, but they are always tired, distant, cold, unfeeling? Have you ever watched your relationship deteriorate into polite hellos and good nights….? Have you ever sacrificed your own happiness to save your children the hardship of a divorce. Have you ever waited through years of sadness just to keep your family together, because you love them too much to leave…no matter what you are treated like? Have you? If you haven’t then get off your high horse. Yes, maybe Tinder isn’t the best idea for a married man, but sometimes it takes getting caught to start the ending that his marriage obviously needed. Instead of making him feel bad and telling him he was creepy and that you and your friends were laughing at him, why not simply ignore him?
Début de l'événement
25.02.2025
Fin de l'événement
25.02.2025
Jean-Yves JEANNAS
Jean-Yves JEANNAS
Nom
JEANNAS
Prénom
Jean-Yves
Mes compétences pour le projet de MOOC
Apprentissages, évaluation, pédagogie, numérique, hybridation, LMS
Ma disponibilité pour le projet de MOOC
Pilotage et conception
Killing Prince Charming
Killing Prince Charming
Description
A Relationship Evolved (and Happy Birthday To My Ex)
The Unforgettable First Kiss
Jealousy Versus Envy
Love Addict: The Pregnancy Dilemma
How Do You Help Someone Who Doesn’t Want Help?
Most Radical Relationship Books On the Market
We Hold Ourselves Back
What Happens When You Actually In Relationship??
Is a Same-Sex Encounter Important in Living Holistically?
You’re a Selfish Bitch and That’s Why You’re Not Married
Learning How to Love Yourself
Love Addict: Writing the Personal
How Do You Learn to Let Go?
I always used to hear people tell stories about how they met their spouse. It was always the story that, after all the romantic nonsense went away, they found their partner in the most god awful, non-romantic way imaginable. While I still held onto the belief that soul mates and fairy tale romantic stories still existed, I rebuffed these people and their horrible stories. It was always sad to me that they were so jaded and bitter and hurt that they lost faith in the fairy tale. I promised myself back then that I would never lose my fairy tale. prince charming on horse funny
Then over the years, life happened. I got older, hurt, jaded and bitter. And then one day I realized I lost the fairy tale. The hope that my Prince Charming would ride in on his white horse and rescue me from my life disappeared. I no longer wanted a Prince Charming because now I knew that Prince Charming was just looking for the next girl to bang, and would eventually leave me with heartbreak. On the day that it all changed, I finally knew that it was time to let go because I couldn’t take any more devastating heartbreaks.
It’s going to take a lot of alcohol to get sucked in by him again.
That day, my fairy tale turned into another lame story, one of the stories I promised never to be. Instead of Prince Charming, I wanted the “safe” guy. I was suddenly open to the guy who liked me, the one who was knocking down my door instead of the other way around. Even though I didn’t like him, he would eventually wear me down and I would start to date him, just like in all those other couples’ stories I heard before. And dating would turn into marriage, and I would learn to love him, and depend on him and rely on him. And I would be “happy” and never look back. I would never long for a fairy tale story again because I was married and happy to someone who treated me like I deserved to be treated.
And even though I know a little piece of me dies as I write this, I also know my fragile self cannot take one more heartbreak. In an act of self preservation, I have chosen to kill the fairy tale before the fairy tale kills me.
The Unforgettable First Kiss
Jealousy Versus Envy
Love Addict: The Pregnancy Dilemma
How Do You Help Someone Who Doesn’t Want Help?
Most Radical Relationship Books On the Market
We Hold Ourselves Back
What Happens When You Actually In Relationship??
Is a Same-Sex Encounter Important in Living Holistically?
You’re a Selfish Bitch and That’s Why You’re Not Married
Learning How to Love Yourself
Love Addict: Writing the Personal
How Do You Learn to Let Go?
I always used to hear people tell stories about how they met their spouse. It was always the story that, after all the romantic nonsense went away, they found their partner in the most god awful, non-romantic way imaginable. While I still held onto the belief that soul mates and fairy tale romantic stories still existed, I rebuffed these people and their horrible stories. It was always sad to me that they were so jaded and bitter and hurt that they lost faith in the fairy tale. I promised myself back then that I would never lose my fairy tale. prince charming on horse funny
Then over the years, life happened. I got older, hurt, jaded and bitter. And then one day I realized I lost the fairy tale. The hope that my Prince Charming would ride in on his white horse and rescue me from my life disappeared. I no longer wanted a Prince Charming because now I knew that Prince Charming was just looking for the next girl to bang, and would eventually leave me with heartbreak. On the day that it all changed, I finally knew that it was time to let go because I couldn’t take any more devastating heartbreaks.
It’s going to take a lot of alcohol to get sucked in by him again.
That day, my fairy tale turned into another lame story, one of the stories I promised never to be. Instead of Prince Charming, I wanted the “safe” guy. I was suddenly open to the guy who liked me, the one who was knocking down my door instead of the other way around. Even though I didn’t like him, he would eventually wear me down and I would start to date him, just like in all those other couples’ stories I heard before. And dating would turn into marriage, and I would learn to love him, and depend on him and rely on him. And I would be “happy” and never look back. I would never long for a fairy tale story again because I was married and happy to someone who treated me like I deserved to be treated.
And even though I know a little piece of me dies as I write this, I also know my fragile self cannot take one more heartbreak. In an act of self preservation, I have chosen to kill the fairy tale before the fairy tale kills me.
Début de l'événement
16.01.2021
Fin de l'événement
16.01.2021
Le Commoning sur le terrain
Le Commoning sur le terrain
Semaine
semaine 5
Type de mooc
C Mooc
Contenu et interactions proposées aux particpant-es
Une activité de discussion/constrctio n en intelligence collective travaillant sur des exemples concrets de commoning
Love and Laughter: How to Enjoy Online Dating
Love and Laughter: How to Enjoy Online Dating
Description
5 Dumb Reasons People Use to Avoid Dating
The Six Part Guide To Keeping A Woman Happy
Many Faces of Man
The Real Key to a Lasting Marriage
The Dumbest Arguments Couples Have
Recognizing a Toxic Partner Before It’s Too Late
Debunking Of Six Commonly Held Relationship Fallacies
Two Surefire Ways To Ensure Your Happiness
Dating Mistake That Educated Women Make
Living Together Before Marriage Is A Good Idea?
The Secret to Male Happiness
I know…and it was still entertaining
Reply
55pinksghetti { 06.23.09 at 10:00 am }
Some movies I like but the critics disagree are: “Undercover Brother” that movie was so funny. I like Eddie Griffith he is really funny in an old fashion Sammy Davis Jr mixed with modern comedy. I don’t know who the other person is, lol, it is kind of social commentary and comedy. Another one I liked is “Malibu’s Most Wanted” that movie was also funny and I like the whole plot within a plot (where Taye Diggs and Anthony Anderson were actors pretending to be gangstas, it reminded me of that old Sprite commercials with the two Shakesperean dudes who pretended to be “street”). Another movie which gets no love is “B.A.P.S” I know it’s politely incorrect and all but that movie was funny and Halle Berry really showed her acting range with broad comedy.
First off, Happy (Day After) Father’s Day to all the father’s of VSB. Good job.
This past weekend, I finally saw Tyler Perry’s Madea Goes To Jail. Now slap me silly and call me Susan, but it seems to me like his movies are getting better. Granted, Madea Goes To Jail seemed like two movies that they tried to make into one (there were actually times that I forgot I was watching a Madea-focused movie) but I wasn’t appalled at myself after it went off. And I’ve been mad at myself for watching Tyler Perry movies before.
Now that isn’t to say that it was a great movie or anything, but I found it entertaining enough. I know that sounds like blasphemy but I’m going to run blasphemy into the ground today so strap up, Sally Ride.
Tyler Perry movies serve as a perfect segue into thinking about some movies that actually are much better than they’re given credit for because, well, most of his movies completely suck. Then again, maybe we’re looking at them wrong, and his movies aren’t the only ones. You see there are two movies that are way better than they get credit for and today, they’re going to get their due.
And what movies are those?
Baby Boy and You Got Served
The Six Part Guide To Keeping A Woman Happy
Many Faces of Man
The Real Key to a Lasting Marriage
The Dumbest Arguments Couples Have
Recognizing a Toxic Partner Before It’s Too Late
Debunking Of Six Commonly Held Relationship Fallacies
Two Surefire Ways To Ensure Your Happiness
Dating Mistake That Educated Women Make
Living Together Before Marriage Is A Good Idea?
The Secret to Male Happiness
I know…and it was still entertaining
Reply
55pinksghetti { 06.23.09 at 10:00 am }
Some movies I like but the critics disagree are: “Undercover Brother” that movie was so funny. I like Eddie Griffith he is really funny in an old fashion Sammy Davis Jr mixed with modern comedy. I don’t know who the other person is, lol, it is kind of social commentary and comedy. Another one I liked is “Malibu’s Most Wanted” that movie was also funny and I like the whole plot within a plot (where Taye Diggs and Anthony Anderson were actors pretending to be gangstas, it reminded me of that old Sprite commercials with the two Shakesperean dudes who pretended to be “street”). Another movie which gets no love is “B.A.P.S” I know it’s politely incorrect and all but that movie was funny and Halle Berry really showed her acting range with broad comedy.
First off, Happy (Day After) Father’s Day to all the father’s of VSB. Good job.
This past weekend, I finally saw Tyler Perry’s Madea Goes To Jail. Now slap me silly and call me Susan, but it seems to me like his movies are getting better. Granted, Madea Goes To Jail seemed like two movies that they tried to make into one (there were actually times that I forgot I was watching a Madea-focused movie) but I wasn’t appalled at myself after it went off. And I’ve been mad at myself for watching Tyler Perry movies before.
Now that isn’t to say that it was a great movie or anything, but I found it entertaining enough. I know that sounds like blasphemy but I’m going to run blasphemy into the ground today so strap up, Sally Ride.
Tyler Perry movies serve as a perfect segue into thinking about some movies that actually are much better than they’re given credit for because, well, most of his movies completely suck. Then again, maybe we’re looking at them wrong, and his movies aren’t the only ones. You see there are two movies that are way better than they get credit for and today, they’re going to get their due.
And what movies are those?
Baby Boy and You Got Served
Début de l'événement
25.10.2021
Fin de l'événement
25.10.2021
Love on Vacation
Love on Vacation
Description
How Pocket-Dialing Can C*ckblock You
Attack of The Killer Ex
How To Deal With A Psycho Ex During The Holidays
Attention Mongers Crybabies and Dramaheads
25 Signals You're Not Ready For a Online Dating
5 Skills Every Man And Woman Should Master
Can Sex Be A Laughing Matter?
The Sh*t Women Say That Piss Off Men
Dating a Jersey Shore Fan
Dealing With Exes on Valentine’s Day
A Decent Girl For a Nice Guy
So, you went on several bad dates you found through online personals. You got some free xxx, you had a little fun, you gave up, you started again, and you finally found someone promising. Someone who makes you want to be the person you pretend you are.
So, what next? Why not go on a mini-vacation together? Vacations can be dangerous for a new romance, but they are also truth tellers. They can tell you if you’re truly crazy about a person, or if you never want to see them ever again. Here are three suggestions for mini-vacays that won’t fail.
1. Wine Country
Plan a trip to the nearest winery. Do a wine tour. Get drunk in the sun. Stay in an inn. Eat croissants.
2. Quebec City
Canada! (Is Awesome.) And Quebec is a mix of romance and spite. The French people hate everyone, and you will be united with your lover in feeling hated. The food kicks ass. The scenery is stunning. Bed & Breakfasts are cheap and gorgeous. Avoid winter, unless you’s a rugged type.
3. Arizona
Climb the red mountains. Swim in a cheap motel pool. Feel super fit and beautiful next to the rather obese population of this odd state.
Attack of The Killer Ex
How To Deal With A Psycho Ex During The Holidays
Attention Mongers Crybabies and Dramaheads
25 Signals You're Not Ready For a Online Dating
5 Skills Every Man And Woman Should Master
Can Sex Be A Laughing Matter?
The Sh*t Women Say That Piss Off Men
Dating a Jersey Shore Fan
Dealing With Exes on Valentine’s Day
A Decent Girl For a Nice Guy
So, you went on several bad dates you found through online personals. You got some free xxx, you had a little fun, you gave up, you started again, and you finally found someone promising. Someone who makes you want to be the person you pretend you are.
So, what next? Why not go on a mini-vacation together? Vacations can be dangerous for a new romance, but they are also truth tellers. They can tell you if you’re truly crazy about a person, or if you never want to see them ever again. Here are three suggestions for mini-vacays that won’t fail.
1. Wine Country
Plan a trip to the nearest winery. Do a wine tour. Get drunk in the sun. Stay in an inn. Eat croissants.
2. Quebec City
Canada! (Is Awesome.) And Quebec is a mix of romance and spite. The French people hate everyone, and you will be united with your lover in feeling hated. The food kicks ass. The scenery is stunning. Bed & Breakfasts are cheap and gorgeous. Avoid winter, unless you’s a rugged type.
3. Arizona
Climb the red mountains. Swim in a cheap motel pool. Feel super fit and beautiful next to the rather obese population of this odd state.
Début de l'événement
13.12.2023
Fin de l'événement
13.12.2023
Men and Relationship Abuse: Why the Silence is Deafening
Men and Relationship Abuse: Why the Silence is Deafening
Description
5 Signs That You Just Might Have To Marry Her Ass
Things You Should Never Say To a Black Woman.
Male Solutions To Common Women Problems
Things I Just Don’t Get About Women
Valentine’s Day Date Options That Won’t Cost You A Fortune
Things That You Just Shouldn’t Do While Dating
Valentine’s Day Alternatives for Those Without Plans Or People To Plan Stuff With
Why Your “Number” Matters So Much Yo Us
They Are Cheating On You With A Friend Of Yours
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257Imani July 18, 2011 at 3:07 am
This really got me thinking. So i’ve only given like 2 or 3 comments to any guy i have ever dated but weirdly enough i find it totally easy to give compliments to random strangers. I just approached this guy in the bus like 2 days ago & told him how totally hot i thought he was & walked off. That’s all i wanted to say but he follows me & asks for my number which i decline to give, sometimes a compliment is just that…a compliment. Say thanks & keep it moving, i don’t necessarily want to get in your pants.
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258YouHadMeAtHello July 18, 2011 at 5:13 am
This happens to me ALL the time!
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259YouHadMeAtHello July 18, 2011 at 5:14 am
This happens to me ALL the time…some people just don’t get it! SMH
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260YouHadMeAtHello July 18, 2011 at 5:17 am
This happens to me ALL the time…some people just don’t get it! SMH
P.S: I just read the profile (Jenesis Magazine)…I’m just so proud of you guys! Turning this to a show would be AWESOME!!! Can’t wait!
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261YouHadMeAtHello July 18, 2011 at 11:48 am
^”Uuh, did I do that?” (Frank spencer’s voice)
My bad! Blame it on bad network
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262DanceHallKing July 18, 2011 at 9:24 am
More proof that women like to torture men.
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263keisha brown July 18, 2011 at 12:52 pm
Things You Should Never Say To a Black Woman.
Male Solutions To Common Women Problems
Things I Just Don’t Get About Women
Valentine’s Day Date Options That Won’t Cost You A Fortune
Things That You Just Shouldn’t Do While Dating
Valentine’s Day Alternatives for Those Without Plans Or People To Plan Stuff With
Why Your “Number” Matters So Much Yo Us
They Are Cheating On You With A Friend Of Yours
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257Imani July 18, 2011 at 3:07 am
This really got me thinking. So i’ve only given like 2 or 3 comments to any guy i have ever dated but weirdly enough i find it totally easy to give compliments to random strangers. I just approached this guy in the bus like 2 days ago & told him how totally hot i thought he was & walked off. That’s all i wanted to say but he follows me & asks for my number which i decline to give, sometimes a compliment is just that…a compliment. Say thanks & keep it moving, i don’t necessarily want to get in your pants.
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258YouHadMeAtHello July 18, 2011 at 5:13 am
This happens to me ALL the time!
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259YouHadMeAtHello July 18, 2011 at 5:14 am
This happens to me ALL the time…some people just don’t get it! SMH
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260YouHadMeAtHello July 18, 2011 at 5:17 am
This happens to me ALL the time…some people just don’t get it! SMH
P.S: I just read the profile (Jenesis Magazine)…I’m just so proud of you guys! Turning this to a show would be AWESOME!!! Can’t wait!
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261YouHadMeAtHello July 18, 2011 at 11:48 am
^”Uuh, did I do that?” (Frank spencer’s voice)
My bad! Blame it on bad network
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262DanceHallKing July 18, 2011 at 9:24 am
More proof that women like to torture men.
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263keisha brown July 18, 2011 at 12:52 pm
Début de l'événement
08.10.2022
Fin de l'événement
08.10.2022
Navigating the Dating World Without Falling for Pitfalls
Navigating Your First Time: Turning an Unfulfilling Experience into a Learning Opportunity
Night Out Etiquette: Dating in the Nightlife Scene
Night Out Etiquette: Dating in the Nightlife Scene
Description
Things You Should Never Tell Your Dating Partner
Why Romantic Comedies Might Ruin Your Love Life
The Pitfalls of Long-Distance Dating
A Humorous Take on Culture, Fun, and Dating Standards
Whats In A Name?
The Loveawake Guide to One-Night Stand Etiquette
Advice to My Younger Self
3 Signs That You Might Be A Bitter Man
Let’s Be Friends.
Roses
Men Temptation and Commitment
Night Out Etiquette: Nightlife Etiquette Loveawake Style
Monogamy for Dummies
Oh No (S)He Didn’t!
The Dangers of Rating Your Girlfriend
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Nothing new here.
Feminism has always been a wallflower’s movement.
Attractive women don’t consider themselves feminists (but they are) because they have no need for feminism.
What woman wants feminism when men treat her like royalty without it?
Wallflowers, by contrast, are for feminism because they think that the way we treat pretty girls is something that ALL women are entitled to (it is, in truth, the female equivalent of the male sex entitlement mentality that they complain about).
The important thing to note is how these young women’s attitudes shift when they start losing their looks.
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Jim July 21, 2014 at 22:54
“Even if women are in fact rejecting feminism”
They’re not really. They have achieved through white knight and mangina politicians and courts SUPERIORITY. That’s why they’re “rejecting” it. Give them REAL equality (am impossibility anyway) and they’ll make a mad dash back to feminism. That’s if they’ve actually really left it in the first place.
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greyghost July 21, 2014 at 23:25
These are young women. Just as old blue pill men say “respect” women young men (teenagers) are like fuck them bitches and mean it. My job has me in contact with young men and when you talk to them they see things red pill style. Young women are going to pay the price for their mothers and grand mothers. And they know it. The wicked selfishness of women is there and always has been. A “good” woman is the same nasty bitch filing for the frivorce for the house and kids. It is just a better deal to be nice to the guy. just the way it is and always has been. No woman is virtuous only some behave with virtue so you will think of them as virtuous. Good enough she gets the dick and I’ll fix her car and she can fix dinner and put the clothes in the washing machine.
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chinesefootsoldier July 22, 2014 at 00:53
Why Romantic Comedies Might Ruin Your Love Life
The Pitfalls of Long-Distance Dating
A Humorous Take on Culture, Fun, and Dating Standards
Whats In A Name?
The Loveawake Guide to One-Night Stand Etiquette
Advice to My Younger Self
3 Signs That You Might Be A Bitter Man
Let’s Be Friends.
Roses
Men Temptation and Commitment
Night Out Etiquette: Nightlife Etiquette Loveawake Style
Monogamy for Dummies
Oh No (S)He Didn’t!
The Dangers of Rating Your Girlfriend
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Nothing new here.
Feminism has always been a wallflower’s movement.
Attractive women don’t consider themselves feminists (but they are) because they have no need for feminism.
What woman wants feminism when men treat her like royalty without it?
Wallflowers, by contrast, are for feminism because they think that the way we treat pretty girls is something that ALL women are entitled to (it is, in truth, the female equivalent of the male sex entitlement mentality that they complain about).
The important thing to note is how these young women’s attitudes shift when they start losing their looks.
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Jim July 21, 2014 at 22:54
“Even if women are in fact rejecting feminism”
They’re not really. They have achieved through white knight and mangina politicians and courts SUPERIORITY. That’s why they’re “rejecting” it. Give them REAL equality (am impossibility anyway) and they’ll make a mad dash back to feminism. That’s if they’ve actually really left it in the first place.
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greyghost July 21, 2014 at 23:25
These are young women. Just as old blue pill men say “respect” women young men (teenagers) are like fuck them bitches and mean it. My job has me in contact with young men and when you talk to them they see things red pill style. Young women are going to pay the price for their mothers and grand mothers. And they know it. The wicked selfishness of women is there and always has been. A “good” woman is the same nasty bitch filing for the frivorce for the house and kids. It is just a better deal to be nice to the guy. just the way it is and always has been. No woman is virtuous only some behave with virtue so you will think of them as virtuous. Good enough she gets the dick and I’ll fix her car and she can fix dinner and put the clothes in the washing machine.
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chinesefootsoldier July 22, 2014 at 00:53
Début de l'événement
06.11.2021
Fin de l'événement
06.11.2021
Odile Bénassy
Cases à cocher
- Apport théorique / pédagogique
Odile Bénassy
Adresse mail
contact@a-lec.org
Brève description de son expérience, de sa sa spécialité de ses possibilités d'appui du projet
Communs numériques - association libre en Communs
Lien Internet vers le site de l'expérience ou de l'intervenant-e
https://www.linkedin.com/in/odileb/
Membre de l'équipe assurant le contact
Caroline Pruvost
Outiller les communs : découverte d'outils numériques porteurs des valeurs des communs
Outiller les communs : découverte d'outils numériques porteurs des valeurs des communs
Players vs. Game: Rethinking Relationship Advice
Players vs. Game: Rethinking Relationship Advice
Description
The Road Map to Love
Patriarchy Stole My Power and Now I'm Gonna Take it Back!
Digging Up Negative Dating Patterns
The Mama's Boy Myth
The Majority of "Dating Crimes" Are In Our Heads
The Dating Chase
The Physics of Relationships
Dating While "Fat"
Men Are Hardwired to Cheat And Other Silly Stories
The Conservative Backlash Towards Attempts to Liberate Relationships
Seeking to Change Your Partner
Sluts Studs And Straightjaket Sexuality
Except for the fact that I live in the US, I could have written your comment. I love that GWS strip.
Pretty good 101 post, most of the assumptions about what me being bi means (indecisive, greedy, really gay) have come from the gay community so i think someone laying on the line that these are not OK is really important.
most of the assumptions about what me being bi means (indecisive, greedy, really gay) have come from the gay community
Straight people do not make these assumptions about you as well?
That’s a very common thing that folks seeking to be ugly to other folks (even subtly, politely ugly) do…..reduce a human being in all of that person’s complexity to the worst possible assumption of that person. For bi people, it’s sexual appetite. (Compare to, say, gay men, where it’s pedophilia.)
I’m not speaking for Jemima, but the “really gay” has come exclusively from gay people for me. The rest is pretty evenly distributed between gay and straight people.
Same here. I was once flirting with this black woman in a bar and the convo basically went:
Me: Blah blah i’m mixed-
Her: You look like a black woman so that’s what you are…
Me:…
Her: blah blah lesbians, amiright?
Me: I’m bi
Her: ohhh such a cute little baby! When you come out as lesbian you’ll understand-now about your misguided career choice…
Patriarchy Stole My Power and Now I'm Gonna Take it Back!
Digging Up Negative Dating Patterns
The Mama's Boy Myth
The Majority of "Dating Crimes" Are In Our Heads
The Dating Chase
The Physics of Relationships
Dating While "Fat"
Men Are Hardwired to Cheat And Other Silly Stories
The Conservative Backlash Towards Attempts to Liberate Relationships
Seeking to Change Your Partner
Sluts Studs And Straightjaket Sexuality
Except for the fact that I live in the US, I could have written your comment. I love that GWS strip.
Pretty good 101 post, most of the assumptions about what me being bi means (indecisive, greedy, really gay) have come from the gay community so i think someone laying on the line that these are not OK is really important.
most of the assumptions about what me being bi means (indecisive, greedy, really gay) have come from the gay community
Straight people do not make these assumptions about you as well?
That’s a very common thing that folks seeking to be ugly to other folks (even subtly, politely ugly) do…..reduce a human being in all of that person’s complexity to the worst possible assumption of that person. For bi people, it’s sexual appetite. (Compare to, say, gay men, where it’s pedophilia.)
I’m not speaking for Jemima, but the “really gay” has come exclusively from gay people for me. The rest is pretty evenly distributed between gay and straight people.
Same here. I was once flirting with this black woman in a bar and the convo basically went:
Me: Blah blah i’m mixed-
Her: You look like a black woman so that’s what you are…
Me:…
Her: blah blah lesbians, amiright?
Me: I’m bi
Her: ohhh such a cute little baby! When you come out as lesbian you’ll understand-now about your misguided career choice…
Début de l'événement
25.12.2023
Fin de l'événement
25.12.2023
Politique des communs
Politique des communs
Semaine
semaine 5
Type de mooc
X Mooc
Contenu et interactions proposées aux particpant-es
Quelle politique pour les communs : comment la politique intègre-t-elle la dimension des communs ?
Proposition : voir collectif pour une société des communs, les livrets ?
Proposition : voir collectif pour une société des communs, les livrets ?
Quelles sont les conditions d’une économie contributive viable.
Quelles sont les conditions d’une économie contributive viable.
Semaine
semaine 3
Type de mooc
C Mooc
Contenu et interactions proposées aux particpant-es
Une activité de discussion/constrctio n en intelligence collective travaillant sur un exemple de d’expérimentation d’économie contributive avec un témoin de la structure la pratiquant.
Réu du groupe de W
Réu du groupe de W
Description
Réunion à distance du groupe de travail pour l'élaboration du projet
Début de l'événement
20.06.2023 - 16:00
Fin de l'événement
20.06.2023 - 17:30
Adresse url
https://ca.meet.coop/col-mjz-ueh-wdw
Réu groupe de travail
Réu groupe de travail
Début de l'événement
12.09.2023 - 18:30
Fin de l'événement
12.09.2023 - 20:00
Safety First: How to Spot and Avoid Romance Scams
Safety First: How to Spot and Avoid Romance Scams
Description
Rediscovering Love on My Own Terms
Single Men Who Want More Women
Open Letter To Men Who Want More
For Men Who Love Poly Dating
Progressive Love Applauds Too $hort
Is Love the Most Feared Emotion?
Love Kills Self Love & Self Esteem
Are Nagging & Cheating Equally Damaging?
Why Do We Fall In Love? Is It Healthy?
Why Master Monogamy
What should really be mentioned at this point is that if your date (be they male or female) has issues like this, it is perfectly acceptable to take a reasonable look at the situation and conclude that it’s not something you can handle. I was lucky…my FwB had previous experience with teens/young adults who’d been abused, and a past girlfriend had been raped by a relative. He understood the difficulties in helping someone relearn that touch I= humiliation or pain. Personally, it took over 9 months of us being “together” before we could have sex. Now we’ve been FwB for over 8 years, so obviously it worked out for us.
BUT! If he hadn’t known how to do any of that and we simply remained normal friends, that would’ve been okay. It is nobody’s responsibility to fix anyone else, and no man or woman should be guilted into dating someone who needs to work on emotional issues, especially if these issues would drastically affect the potential relationship. It is fine to understand your own boundaries and abilities, and it is responsible to recognize that you may not be mentally or emotionally equipped to deal with such things.
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cecilhenry on January 10, 2015 at 7:41 PM said:
Don;t like to be touched is some kind of problem???
Not at all—except maybe for the one denied.
Being touched, like any physical intimacy is voluntary and based on a wish to have contact with someone else. It is discriminatory and selective—otherwise it can neither be moral or intimate.
One is only touched by something or someone they want contact with—that such a simple fact is missed says more about the one upset by this fact. Why are you afraid of boundaries???
Your wish to touch may be a means to hide other motivations by forcing emotional reactions.
Nothing to do with abuse (although that could be another cause, but ofter abused people lack boundaries).
I like to touch some people-depends now doesn;t it??? It would have to!!!!
The short-sightness and insularity of this article astounds. Stop and think this over again.
Single Men Who Want More Women
Open Letter To Men Who Want More
For Men Who Love Poly Dating
Progressive Love Applauds Too $hort
Is Love the Most Feared Emotion?
Love Kills Self Love & Self Esteem
Are Nagging & Cheating Equally Damaging?
Why Do We Fall In Love? Is It Healthy?
Why Master Monogamy
What should really be mentioned at this point is that if your date (be they male or female) has issues like this, it is perfectly acceptable to take a reasonable look at the situation and conclude that it’s not something you can handle. I was lucky…my FwB had previous experience with teens/young adults who’d been abused, and a past girlfriend had been raped by a relative. He understood the difficulties in helping someone relearn that touch I= humiliation or pain. Personally, it took over 9 months of us being “together” before we could have sex. Now we’ve been FwB for over 8 years, so obviously it worked out for us.
BUT! If he hadn’t known how to do any of that and we simply remained normal friends, that would’ve been okay. It is nobody’s responsibility to fix anyone else, and no man or woman should be guilted into dating someone who needs to work on emotional issues, especially if these issues would drastically affect the potential relationship. It is fine to understand your own boundaries and abilities, and it is responsible to recognize that you may not be mentally or emotionally equipped to deal with such things.
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cecilhenry on January 10, 2015 at 7:41 PM said:
Don;t like to be touched is some kind of problem???
Not at all—except maybe for the one denied.
Being touched, like any physical intimacy is voluntary and based on a wish to have contact with someone else. It is discriminatory and selective—otherwise it can neither be moral or intimate.
One is only touched by something or someone they want contact with—that such a simple fact is missed says more about the one upset by this fact. Why are you afraid of boundaries???
Your wish to touch may be a means to hide other motivations by forcing emotional reactions.
Nothing to do with abuse (although that could be another cause, but ofter abused people lack boundaries).
I like to touch some people-depends now doesn;t it??? It would have to!!!!
The short-sightness and insularity of this article astounds. Stop and think this over again.
Début de l'événement
10.12.2023
Fin de l'événement
10.12.2023
Searching for Love in a Digital World: Are We Losing the Personal Touch?
Searching for Love in a Digital World: Are We Losing the Personal Touch?
Description
8 Things Commonly Assumed To Be Black That Ain’t Really
The Truth About Men
Black Culture Decoded
Signs That You Might Not Be Compatible
Relationship Rules
Jobs Most Likely To Lead to Hanky Panky On The Job
Movies That Will End Your Half-Assed Relationship
Reasons Why He’s With a White Woman
148Panama Jackson July 18, 2011 at 11:23 am
real talk…a running joke amongst my boys is that if a chick says she loves our eyes, she’s trying to hit. lol.
cuz i be in the mirror and i see them sh*ts…THEY’S JUST EYES SON!!!!! you just want my doggystyle!!!! you ain’t gotsta lie.
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149keisha brown July 18, 2011 at 12:22 pm
quits PJ for life.
(or until tomorrow.)
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150DG July 18, 2011 at 1:26 am
I’ve read that the best thing you can say to a man is “I’m proud of you.”
That’s something I’d expect to hear from my parents/elders than a woman I’m dating….just sounds a bit too matronly for me. As far as compliments go, I don’t necessarily take them too well….but one of the most flattering compliments I received came from a woman who came up to me while I was eating and asked me how old I was (late 20′s at the time)….after I told her, she looked kinda disappointed as she mumbled “so young” under her breath….then simply said “such a good looking guy”, and then walked away. The directness of it all caught me off guard, but I told her thank you…if it wasn’t for this dark skin and the presence of testicles, I’m sure I would’ve blushed a lil’.
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151nillalatte July 18, 2011 at 1:54 am
LOL… that’s cute. Yeah, I kind of thought the same when I read it, but I was like, “really?” I’d much rather say to a man that I was happy or excited for him for whatever reason to share in his joy.
Reply
152keisha brown July 18, 2011 at 12:27 pm
if it wasn’t for this dark skin and the presence of testicles, I’m sure I would’ve blushed a lil’.
CTFU!!!
Stop it!
Reply
The Truth About Men
Black Culture Decoded
Signs That You Might Not Be Compatible
Relationship Rules
Jobs Most Likely To Lead to Hanky Panky On The Job
Movies That Will End Your Half-Assed Relationship
Reasons Why He’s With a White Woman
148Panama Jackson July 18, 2011 at 11:23 am
real talk…a running joke amongst my boys is that if a chick says she loves our eyes, she’s trying to hit. lol.
cuz i be in the mirror and i see them sh*ts…THEY’S JUST EYES SON!!!!! you just want my doggystyle!!!! you ain’t gotsta lie.
Reply
149keisha brown July 18, 2011 at 12:22 pm
quits PJ for life.
(or until tomorrow.)
Reply
150DG July 18, 2011 at 1:26 am
I’ve read that the best thing you can say to a man is “I’m proud of you.”
That’s something I’d expect to hear from my parents/elders than a woman I’m dating….just sounds a bit too matronly for me. As far as compliments go, I don’t necessarily take them too well….but one of the most flattering compliments I received came from a woman who came up to me while I was eating and asked me how old I was (late 20′s at the time)….after I told her, she looked kinda disappointed as she mumbled “so young” under her breath….then simply said “such a good looking guy”, and then walked away. The directness of it all caught me off guard, but I told her thank you…if it wasn’t for this dark skin and the presence of testicles, I’m sure I would’ve blushed a lil’.
Reply
151nillalatte July 18, 2011 at 1:54 am
LOL… that’s cute. Yeah, I kind of thought the same when I read it, but I was like, “really?” I’d much rather say to a man that I was happy or excited for him for whatever reason to share in his joy.
Reply
152keisha brown July 18, 2011 at 12:27 pm
if it wasn’t for this dark skin and the presence of testicles, I’m sure I would’ve blushed a lil’.
CTFU!!!
Stop it!
Reply
Début de l'événement
07.10.2022
Fin de l'événement
07.10.2022
Social Media Isn’t Your Soulmate: The Illusion of Online Intimacy
Social Media Isn’t Your Soulmate: The Illusion of Online Intimacy
Description
Things Men Talk About When Women Aren’t Looking
Black Men Desirability: Unpacking Cultural Biases
Women' Things Men Struggle To Understand
Going Nowhere Fast, We’ve Reached Our Climax
Are Women Too Loyal for Their Own Good
Things Black People Say?
What Really Works For Us Chicks
Words I Hope My Daughter Never Says
Why Women Get a Pass on Things Men Can’t
5 Signs That You Might Be Dating a Zombie Who Might Zombie Apocalapyse Your A**
And in case you don’t think the Quran’s rulings are applicable in the present day, here’s the late(died 1979) but very popular(& oft cited) Pakistani Jurist Abul A’la Maududi talking about his ideal state (you might not have heard of him, his Jaamati followers in the UK Islamic Mission are the largest component of the Muslim Council of Britain):
“Many misunderstandings seem to persist about the right to have sexual relations with one’s slave-girls. It is pertinent to call attention to the following regulations of Islam:
“Islam does not permit soldiers of the Islamic army to have sexual relations with women they capture in war. Islamic Law requires that such women should first be handed over to the government, which then has the right to decide what should be done with them. It may either set them free unconditionally, release them on payment of ransom, exchange them for Muslim prisoners of war held by the enemy or distribute them among the soldiers. A soldier may have sexual relations only with that woman who has been entrusted to him by the government.
It is not necessary for female captives of war to be People of the Book in order that sexual relations with them be permitted. The man to whom such a woman is entrusted has the right to have sexual relations with her regardless of her religious affiliations.
Although the Law has fixed the maximum number of wives at four, it has set no limit with regard to slave-girls. The Law does not lay down a limit in order to encourage people to accumulate huge armies of slave-girls, and thereby turn their homes into dens of sexual enjoyment. Rather the Law does not define the limit because the effects of war and the total number of female captives that would have to be disposed of after a certain war are unpredictable.”
Link: http://www.tafheem.net
That’s not a future I want for anyone. I don’t want to make this post any longer, but rape, kidnapping, and forced conversion to Islam by Muslims towards Christians, Hindu’s, and Sikh’s in Pakistan is still very common. I’ll also add that the US has seen similar sex trafficking rings here in the US, only with Somali Muslims(who have the same contempt of all non-Muslims as their Pakistani brethren). Link: http://www.foxnews.com/us/2012/05/04/verdict-expected-in-somali-sex-trafficking-case/
Black Men Desirability: Unpacking Cultural Biases
Women' Things Men Struggle To Understand
Going Nowhere Fast, We’ve Reached Our Climax
Are Women Too Loyal for Their Own Good
Things Black People Say?
What Really Works For Us Chicks
Words I Hope My Daughter Never Says
Why Women Get a Pass on Things Men Can’t
5 Signs That You Might Be Dating a Zombie Who Might Zombie Apocalapyse Your A**
And in case you don’t think the Quran’s rulings are applicable in the present day, here’s the late(died 1979) but very popular(& oft cited) Pakistani Jurist Abul A’la Maududi talking about his ideal state (you might not have heard of him, his Jaamati followers in the UK Islamic Mission are the largest component of the Muslim Council of Britain):
“Many misunderstandings seem to persist about the right to have sexual relations with one’s slave-girls. It is pertinent to call attention to the following regulations of Islam:
“Islam does not permit soldiers of the Islamic army to have sexual relations with women they capture in war. Islamic Law requires that such women should first be handed over to the government, which then has the right to decide what should be done with them. It may either set them free unconditionally, release them on payment of ransom, exchange them for Muslim prisoners of war held by the enemy or distribute them among the soldiers. A soldier may have sexual relations only with that woman who has been entrusted to him by the government.
It is not necessary for female captives of war to be People of the Book in order that sexual relations with them be permitted. The man to whom such a woman is entrusted has the right to have sexual relations with her regardless of her religious affiliations.
Although the Law has fixed the maximum number of wives at four, it has set no limit with regard to slave-girls. The Law does not lay down a limit in order to encourage people to accumulate huge armies of slave-girls, and thereby turn their homes into dens of sexual enjoyment. Rather the Law does not define the limit because the effects of war and the total number of female captives that would have to be disposed of after a certain war are unpredictable.”
Link: http://www.tafheem.net
That’s not a future I want for anyone. I don’t want to make this post any longer, but rape, kidnapping, and forced conversion to Islam by Muslims towards Christians, Hindu’s, and Sikh’s in Pakistan is still very common. I’ll also add that the US has seen similar sex trafficking rings here in the US, only with Somali Muslims(who have the same contempt of all non-Muslims as their Pakistani brethren). Link: http://www.foxnews.com/us/2012/05/04/verdict-expected-in-somali-sex-trafficking-case/
Début de l'événement
03.12.2021
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03.12.2021
Stanford law professor argues black women should marry outside their race
Stanford law professor argues black women should marry outside their race
Description
Why Is Self-Esteem Important For Dating?
Top Free and Paid Online Dating Websites
Seizing New Dating Opportunities
The Perfect Movie Date at Home
Single Men Don’t Have Body Image Issues
What Makes a Good Man or a Good Woman?
Equating ‘Sexuality’ with Male Sexuality
Why in the World Would I Ever Get Married?
How Jealousy Can Work For Us
The Catalano Generation is Revolutionizing Dating
Mexico City's Short-Term Marriage Proposal
Even in Relationship You’re All Alone
I Lack the Commitment Gene
Stop Crying and Be a Man
A controversial new book has hit the market from Stanford law professor Ralph Richard Banks. In it, he argues that black women should look outside of their race when it comes to marriage, as more black women are getting advanced degrees, working at high positions in corporations, and taking on key roles in government than black men.
Here’s what the Mercury News article about the book suggests:
High rates of incarceration and job-market discrimination against black men have created a gender imbalance. Then women confront the venerable economic model of supply and demand — scarcity creates excess demand for black grooms, tilting the terms of courtship to men’s favor. Many simply sidestep commitment.
“Don’t marry down. Marry out,” says Banks, an African-American man married to a black woman.
Needless to say, this topic will get a rise out of a lot of people, one way or the other. The article references a couple of Bay Area women who agree, saying they’ve found they have more in common, both in terms of education and values, outside of their race.
On the other hand, experts from Howard University and the Robert C. Maynard Institute for Journalism Education say Banks research is skewed to show things in a certain light; that there are many black women who are happily married to black men with whom they are raising children.
Plus, there’s the argument that this take doesn’t address the real problem – institutionalized racism that continues to plague black men, greatly diminishing their prospects of being successful.
“Black women are the most loyal of all,” Banks says. “But they pay a very high price.”
What do you think about Banks’ argument? Is it valid or misrepresented?
Top Free and Paid Online Dating Websites
Seizing New Dating Opportunities
The Perfect Movie Date at Home
Single Men Don’t Have Body Image Issues
What Makes a Good Man or a Good Woman?
Equating ‘Sexuality’ with Male Sexuality
Why in the World Would I Ever Get Married?
How Jealousy Can Work For Us
The Catalano Generation is Revolutionizing Dating
Mexico City's Short-Term Marriage Proposal
Even in Relationship You’re All Alone
I Lack the Commitment Gene
Stop Crying and Be a Man
A controversial new book has hit the market from Stanford law professor Ralph Richard Banks. In it, he argues that black women should look outside of their race when it comes to marriage, as more black women are getting advanced degrees, working at high positions in corporations, and taking on key roles in government than black men.
Here’s what the Mercury News article about the book suggests:
High rates of incarceration and job-market discrimination against black men have created a gender imbalance. Then women confront the venerable economic model of supply and demand — scarcity creates excess demand for black grooms, tilting the terms of courtship to men’s favor. Many simply sidestep commitment.
“Don’t marry down. Marry out,” says Banks, an African-American man married to a black woman.
Needless to say, this topic will get a rise out of a lot of people, one way or the other. The article references a couple of Bay Area women who agree, saying they’ve found they have more in common, both in terms of education and values, outside of their race.
On the other hand, experts from Howard University and the Robert C. Maynard Institute for Journalism Education say Banks research is skewed to show things in a certain light; that there are many black women who are happily married to black men with whom they are raising children.
Plus, there’s the argument that this take doesn’t address the real problem – institutionalized racism that continues to plague black men, greatly diminishing their prospects of being successful.
“Black women are the most loyal of all,” Banks says. “But they pay a very high price.”
What do you think about Banks’ argument? Is it valid or misrepresented?
Début de l'événement
10.01.2022
Fin de l'événement
10.01.2022
The Great Debate: Should Women Make the First Move in Dating?
The Great Debate: Should Women Make the First Move in Dating?
Description
Moments in Dating We'd Wipe Away if We Had the Chance
Lies Damn Lies and Wonderbras.
Pole Position
The Goggles
Kinky Dating
The Art Of The Breakup: 10 No-Nos For The Dumper
The Dumpee Survival Guide
Chick Logic (Or the Lack Thereof)
Why Women Shouldn't Make the First Move in Dating
http://www.zerohedge.com/news/2014-07-29/deadbeat-nation-shocking-77-million-americans-face-debt-collectors
This represents 35.1 percent of the population. In Nevada the percentage is 46.9 percent. So the reason debt collectors keep calling the wrong person is because it’s rather difficult for any industry to keep track of more than one-third of households (and almost half the households in Nevada).
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MRA August 20, 2014 at 13:12
This debt bought me a messy drawer of wedding makeup that I never wear, some shoes that proved too uncomfortable, necklaces I incorrectly deemed myself bold enough to wear, and three pairs of eyeglasses that pretty much look exactly the same.
Right there you can see why companies and federal gov love feminism, the point of men managing money was that men are more careful with it the the spending was limited, when you have women with money and a system extracting money from men to give it to women.
Men produce money, system extract money from men give it to women, women spend money on product they never needed.
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Uncle Elmer August 20, 2014 at 13:44
Here is some more material for you Bill, courtesy of my son Hermann :
http://knowyourmeme.com/memes/events/quinnspiracy
Quinnspiracy refers to the online controversy surrounding indie game developer Zoe Quinn’s alleged affair with a number of video game journalists, including a staff writer at the Gawker-affiliated video game news site Kotaku, supposedly in exchange for publicity for her and her 2014 text-based indie game Depression Quest. In August 2014, the scandal came into public’s light when Eron Gjoni, her now-former boyfriend, chronicled the details of her affairs in an expose blog post, which prompted online discussions regarding the validity of Gjoni’s claim and ethics in video game journalism at large. Due to the scandal’s online amplification in reaction to perceived media suppression, the event has been cited as an example of the “Streisand Effect”.
Lies Damn Lies and Wonderbras.
Pole Position
The Goggles
Kinky Dating
The Art Of The Breakup: 10 No-Nos For The Dumper
The Dumpee Survival Guide
Chick Logic (Or the Lack Thereof)
Why Women Shouldn't Make the First Move in Dating
http://www.zerohedge.com/news/2014-07-29/deadbeat-nation-shocking-77-million-americans-face-debt-collectors
This represents 35.1 percent of the population. In Nevada the percentage is 46.9 percent. So the reason debt collectors keep calling the wrong person is because it’s rather difficult for any industry to keep track of more than one-third of households (and almost half the households in Nevada).
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MRA August 20, 2014 at 13:12
This debt bought me a messy drawer of wedding makeup that I never wear, some shoes that proved too uncomfortable, necklaces I incorrectly deemed myself bold enough to wear, and three pairs of eyeglasses that pretty much look exactly the same.
Right there you can see why companies and federal gov love feminism, the point of men managing money was that men are more careful with it the the spending was limited, when you have women with money and a system extracting money from men to give it to women.
Men produce money, system extract money from men give it to women, women spend money on product they never needed.
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Uncle Elmer August 20, 2014 at 13:44
Here is some more material for you Bill, courtesy of my son Hermann :
http://knowyourmeme.com/memes/events/quinnspiracy
Quinnspiracy refers to the online controversy surrounding indie game developer Zoe Quinn’s alleged affair with a number of video game journalists, including a staff writer at the Gawker-affiliated video game news site Kotaku, supposedly in exchange for publicity for her and her 2014 text-based indie game Depression Quest. In August 2014, the scandal came into public’s light when Eron Gjoni, her now-former boyfriend, chronicled the details of her affairs in an expose blog post, which prompted online discussions regarding the validity of Gjoni’s claim and ethics in video game journalism at large. Due to the scandal’s online amplification in reaction to perceived media suppression, the event has been cited as an example of the “Streisand Effect”.
Début de l'événement
07.11.2021
Fin de l'événement
07.11.2021
The Importance of Individual Growth Within a Marriage.
The Importance of Individual Growth Within a Marriage.
Description
He Had an Affair Because I Stopped Initiating Sex
He Makes Me Feel Bad About Being Fat
He Lost Interest in Our Marriage
Saving A Marriage: He Lost His Job
He Lets His Mother Rule Our Lives and I'm Sick of It
Commitment Jitters
Love and Lust: When Chemistry Outruns Endurance
Bi Bi Love
Dealing With Your Partner’s Bedroom Confessions
Can His Squalor Be Squelched?
Asunder Down Under
Conquering Long Distance Dating
Coveting a Coworker
Hot debate. What do you think? Thumb up 8 Thumb down 5
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Andthatswhyyouresingle says:
February 13, 2012 at 4:10 pm
Was with first boyfriend 5 years and husband 5 years so that would give me 10 years of long term relationship experience with some fun online and non online dating experiences in between. Is that enough experience for you?
I asked:
What adult, mature, healthy relationship experience have you even had?
I’m still waiting for the adult, mature healthy examples. Not some relationship you had as a teenager. You don’t have to answer my question. I’m just trying to point out that you are hardly a poster child for marriage or mature relationships, so you really need to stop trotting out Mr. Buns of Steel who makes great coffee as evidence you do.
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Saj says:
February 13, 2012 at 5:15 pm
Rofl sorry I’m not as old as you would like me to be. I can’t really do anything about that. But for being 30 years old I think I’ve had quite a lot of long term relationship and dating experience and feel I have a right to my opinion just as much as the anti relationship guys, or the never been in a long term relationship at 40 girls or the girls dating men who still live with their parents. We all have very varied experiences that makes our advice and comments complex.
He Makes Me Feel Bad About Being Fat
He Lost Interest in Our Marriage
Saving A Marriage: He Lost His Job
He Lets His Mother Rule Our Lives and I'm Sick of It
Commitment Jitters
Love and Lust: When Chemistry Outruns Endurance
Bi Bi Love
Dealing With Your Partner’s Bedroom Confessions
Can His Squalor Be Squelched?
Asunder Down Under
Conquering Long Distance Dating
Coveting a Coworker
Hot debate. What do you think? Thumb up 8 Thumb down 5
Reply
Andthatswhyyouresingle says:
February 13, 2012 at 4:10 pm
Was with first boyfriend 5 years and husband 5 years so that would give me 10 years of long term relationship experience with some fun online and non online dating experiences in between. Is that enough experience for you?
I asked:
What adult, mature, healthy relationship experience have you even had?
I’m still waiting for the adult, mature healthy examples. Not some relationship you had as a teenager. You don’t have to answer my question. I’m just trying to point out that you are hardly a poster child for marriage or mature relationships, so you really need to stop trotting out Mr. Buns of Steel who makes great coffee as evidence you do.
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Saj says:
February 13, 2012 at 5:15 pm
Rofl sorry I’m not as old as you would like me to be. I can’t really do anything about that. But for being 30 years old I think I’ve had quite a lot of long term relationship and dating experience and feel I have a right to my opinion just as much as the anti relationship guys, or the never been in a long term relationship at 40 girls or the girls dating men who still live with their parents. We all have very varied experiences that makes our advice and comments complex.
Début de l'événement
18.03.2023
Fin de l'événement
18.03.2023
The Influence of Upbringing on Romantic Choices
The Influence of Upbringing on Romantic Choices
Description
A Few Thoughts on Conflict in Dating
Why Trying to "Be More Feminine or Masculine" is a Trap
"Not Good Enough"
Chasing After Instant Chemistry is Foolish
Does Longevity in the Past = Mature Dater Today?
Are You Really Prepared for a Relationship?
Guys Don’t Want to Date “One of The Guys”
Things I Have Learned About Dating
Fear in Dating and Relationships
Does the Person You're Dating Make You Smile
Marrige and Happiness
Is Your Resolution to Find Love in the New Year?
Disappearing Dates
Jen
Jen
May 16, 2013 at 4:37 pm | Permalink
Excellent article.
Re. September 23rd, there is more information about Bi Visibility Day on the september23.bi.org website and its associated twitter / facebook pages.
Tracey
Tracey
May 17, 2013 at 9:46 am | Permalink
My partner and I write books for women who are coming out as lesbian, bisexual or questioning. We also have an online support group, and since 2003 our group has supported over 5,000 women worldwide. I just wanted to write that this is an excellent article, and I am going to send a link to it to our support group members and also post it on our social networks. We have over 1,000 members in our group right now and around the same in our social network : )
May 28, 2013 at 10:07 am | Permalink
This is interesting. I’ve always thought of bi being part of the terms gay, homophobia, etc. So, when I’ve used them, I never intended to be exclusionary.
Words are a tricky thing. Even the most well intentioned people who think they are well informed can still say the wrong thing.
This specifically makes me think of a situation recently where my boyfriend asked someone he’d been talking to for a long time if they’d prefer to be referred to as ‘he’ or ‘she’ since my boyfriend was sincerely not sure and wanted to say the right thing. In this case, the person in question said that whenever possible the best thing would just be to actually use their name and avoid those words, but otherwise, either was fine. They were also just really happy they were asked rather than some assumption be made.
I find it interesting that the question asked was an “A or B” question, and the answer was something like “C and either A or B is also okay”. We think we’re well informed people, and then we realize we actually don’t even know enough to ask the completely correct question. There are so many different variations on identity. The important part is caring enough to ask, keeping an open mind, and trying not to make too many assumptions (and letting them go when you find out you did).
Why Trying to "Be More Feminine or Masculine" is a Trap
"Not Good Enough"
Chasing After Instant Chemistry is Foolish
Does Longevity in the Past = Mature Dater Today?
Are You Really Prepared for a Relationship?
Guys Don’t Want to Date “One of The Guys”
Things I Have Learned About Dating
Fear in Dating and Relationships
Does the Person You're Dating Make You Smile
Marrige and Happiness
Is Your Resolution to Find Love in the New Year?
Disappearing Dates
Jen
Jen
May 16, 2013 at 4:37 pm | Permalink
Excellent article.
Re. September 23rd, there is more information about Bi Visibility Day on the september23.bi.org website and its associated twitter / facebook pages.
Tracey
Tracey
May 17, 2013 at 9:46 am | Permalink
My partner and I write books for women who are coming out as lesbian, bisexual or questioning. We also have an online support group, and since 2003 our group has supported over 5,000 women worldwide. I just wanted to write that this is an excellent article, and I am going to send a link to it to our support group members and also post it on our social networks. We have over 1,000 members in our group right now and around the same in our social network : )
May 28, 2013 at 10:07 am | Permalink
This is interesting. I’ve always thought of bi being part of the terms gay, homophobia, etc. So, when I’ve used them, I never intended to be exclusionary.
Words are a tricky thing. Even the most well intentioned people who think they are well informed can still say the wrong thing.
This specifically makes me think of a situation recently where my boyfriend asked someone he’d been talking to for a long time if they’d prefer to be referred to as ‘he’ or ‘she’ since my boyfriend was sincerely not sure and wanted to say the right thing. In this case, the person in question said that whenever possible the best thing would just be to actually use their name and avoid those words, but otherwise, either was fine. They were also just really happy they were asked rather than some assumption be made.
I find it interesting that the question asked was an “A or B” question, and the answer was something like “C and either A or B is also okay”. We think we’re well informed people, and then we realize we actually don’t even know enough to ask the completely correct question. There are so many different variations on identity. The important part is caring enough to ask, keeping an open mind, and trying not to make too many assumptions (and letting them go when you find out you did).
Début de l'événement
26.12.2022
Fin de l'événement
26.12.2022
The Truth About Relationship Junkies
The Truth About Relationship Junkies
Description
The Surprisingly Solid Dating Advice From Kanye West
How To Please Your Mate
Rearranging The Deck Chairs On The Titanic of Love
Ridiculous Dating Advice That’s Totally True
Things Men Do That Women Probably Hate
Things I Think I’d Hate About Women If I Were a Man
What Single People Get Wrong About Marriage
Chicken Livers and Relationship Drama
Why Splitting Costs Isn't Splitting Love
The Instant Turn-Offs That Will Get You Cut Off
We all know at least one relationship junkie. If it isn’t us, it may be one of our closest friends. You know the type-their primary focus always seems to be getting, finding and staying in a relationship. The serial monogamists who just can’t stand the brief periods of time in which they find themselves single. Like addicts looking for their next fix, life just ain’t right unless there is someone around for them to call “mine.” They breathe, eat, and sleep their relationships. And the stories they tell in the beginning of each new love affair? They are dramatic accounts of deeply intense emotions unlike anything they have ever experienced before. Not ever. They have finally found the one that they’ve been looking for. Now, they are complete.
We can always choose to be complicit in the delusion by nodding in agreement and watching them as they ride that relationship high. That is until they crash, of course. We can say that we are being supportive, but somehow, that just seems a little disingenuous and just flat out wrong. When we choose ignore the behavior, we fail to remind them of the truth: that things have gone slightly, if not totally awry for us when our happiness and feelings of self-worth are contingent upon our relationship status. That wanting a partner is quite different than needing one; and when that want becomes a need, it might be time to stop looking for a partner and ask ourselves what it is that we are really missing.
I believe in love. Truly, I do. And new love is always exciting. It serves as a reminder that we live in a world that provides endless opportunities to make a fresh start. It is a sign of our resilience, faith, and belief in possibilities. But what doesn’t work for any of us is when we believe that another person is, or ever could be, the only source of our happiness. In these moments, we might want to consider that maybe it isn’t really a new love that we are looking for. We may just be trying to find a way to love ourselves.
How To Please Your Mate
Rearranging The Deck Chairs On The Titanic of Love
Ridiculous Dating Advice That’s Totally True
Things Men Do That Women Probably Hate
Things I Think I’d Hate About Women If I Were a Man
What Single People Get Wrong About Marriage
Chicken Livers and Relationship Drama
Why Splitting Costs Isn't Splitting Love
The Instant Turn-Offs That Will Get You Cut Off
We all know at least one relationship junkie. If it isn’t us, it may be one of our closest friends. You know the type-their primary focus always seems to be getting, finding and staying in a relationship. The serial monogamists who just can’t stand the brief periods of time in which they find themselves single. Like addicts looking for their next fix, life just ain’t right unless there is someone around for them to call “mine.” They breathe, eat, and sleep their relationships. And the stories they tell in the beginning of each new love affair? They are dramatic accounts of deeply intense emotions unlike anything they have ever experienced before. Not ever. They have finally found the one that they’ve been looking for. Now, they are complete.
We can always choose to be complicit in the delusion by nodding in agreement and watching them as they ride that relationship high. That is until they crash, of course. We can say that we are being supportive, but somehow, that just seems a little disingenuous and just flat out wrong. When we choose ignore the behavior, we fail to remind them of the truth: that things have gone slightly, if not totally awry for us when our happiness and feelings of self-worth are contingent upon our relationship status. That wanting a partner is quite different than needing one; and when that want becomes a need, it might be time to stop looking for a partner and ask ourselves what it is that we are really missing.
I believe in love. Truly, I do. And new love is always exciting. It serves as a reminder that we live in a world that provides endless opportunities to make a fresh start. It is a sign of our resilience, faith, and belief in possibilities. But what doesn’t work for any of us is when we believe that another person is, or ever could be, the only source of our happiness. In these moments, we might want to consider that maybe it isn’t really a new love that we are looking for. We may just be trying to find a way to love ourselves.
Début de l'événement
21.11.2021
Fin de l'événement
21.11.2021
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Trust Issues: The Temptation and Consequences of Snooping
Trust Issues: The Temptation and Consequences of Snooping
Description
Questioning Dating Perferences
Jaded About Dating
Endless Evidence Gathering
Snooping on a Partner
Interracial Dating And Relationships
Why Do You Want to Be in a Relationship?
Being Really Smart Can Work Against A Woman
Flexibility in Modern Relationships
"Till Death Do Us Part"
Assembly Line of Hot
The Art of Selective Truths in Dating
Warning Signs on the First Date
Dani: In my experience, age and geography have been bigger factors than class, though I guess it’s all related. Through college and most of my 20s, all my serious boyfriends were black. As I’ve gotten older – in the last five years or so – that’s changed. In my late 20s and early 30s, I’ve moved a lot for work and have been part of several cities’ transient class, in which I’ve tended to spend time with people who are also not native to those cities and who do work similar to mine. In these circles, it’s been less likely that I meet black men, at least black men who aren’t colleagues. I also realize that a large part of not dating black men in recent years is related to having ended up on the West Coast, where interracial dating – especially among people who aren’t from here – is apparently required. During a phone conversation years ago, a black man who I had dated and who had moved to the Bay Area from the East Coast boasted about how much access he had to non-black women now that he was out west, and how much he was enjoying that. I remember asking who black women were with if black men were scrambling to be with white and Asian women and Latinas. He kind of snorted and said, “I don’t know. Each other, I guess.” He was going out of his way to be an asshole and I get that, but now that I live here, I see what he meant. Black men and women to seem to have a kind of aversion to each other out here. I still haven’t figured it out.
Kadian: I can’t ever remember my family discussing interracial relationships or even voicing an opinion. Perhaps because no one in my family ever dated outside their “race”? My family is Jamaican, and they pretty much have an issue with dating outside the culture. So even Black Americans are seen as culturally very different. However, the message that I received from the wider society/culture is that “interracial” pretty much means the romantic mixing of Blacks & Whites with no other real attention to other “racial” pairings. I do remember finding such pairings in film and television exciting, but somehow doomed to fail.
Over at Baggage Reclaim, Natalie has a fine post on overthinking and it's impact on relationships. This particular paragraph, early on in the piece, was really striking:
I have a friend who spent over a decade (yes you read that correctly) ruminating on her relationship. Every time we caught up about what was going on, she was trying to “work things out” or “figuring things out” or “deciding what the best thing to do is” and even “trying to avoid making a mistake”.
Having done some of this myself, I totally know how you can fall down that rabbit hole. Part of me knew six months into my first long term relationship that we were a poor match, but I didn't have the experience and insight yet to overcome the fear of ending it and being alone. We stayed together over three years.
Jaded About Dating
Endless Evidence Gathering
Snooping on a Partner
Interracial Dating And Relationships
Why Do You Want to Be in a Relationship?
Being Really Smart Can Work Against A Woman
Flexibility in Modern Relationships
"Till Death Do Us Part"
Assembly Line of Hot
The Art of Selective Truths in Dating
Warning Signs on the First Date
Dani: In my experience, age and geography have been bigger factors than class, though I guess it’s all related. Through college and most of my 20s, all my serious boyfriends were black. As I’ve gotten older – in the last five years or so – that’s changed. In my late 20s and early 30s, I’ve moved a lot for work and have been part of several cities’ transient class, in which I’ve tended to spend time with people who are also not native to those cities and who do work similar to mine. In these circles, it’s been less likely that I meet black men, at least black men who aren’t colleagues. I also realize that a large part of not dating black men in recent years is related to having ended up on the West Coast, where interracial dating – especially among people who aren’t from here – is apparently required. During a phone conversation years ago, a black man who I had dated and who had moved to the Bay Area from the East Coast boasted about how much access he had to non-black women now that he was out west, and how much he was enjoying that. I remember asking who black women were with if black men were scrambling to be with white and Asian women and Latinas. He kind of snorted and said, “I don’t know. Each other, I guess.” He was going out of his way to be an asshole and I get that, but now that I live here, I see what he meant. Black men and women to seem to have a kind of aversion to each other out here. I still haven’t figured it out.
Kadian: I can’t ever remember my family discussing interracial relationships or even voicing an opinion. Perhaps because no one in my family ever dated outside their “race”? My family is Jamaican, and they pretty much have an issue with dating outside the culture. So even Black Americans are seen as culturally very different. However, the message that I received from the wider society/culture is that “interracial” pretty much means the romantic mixing of Blacks & Whites with no other real attention to other “racial” pairings. I do remember finding such pairings in film and television exciting, but somehow doomed to fail.
Over at Baggage Reclaim, Natalie has a fine post on overthinking and it's impact on relationships. This particular paragraph, early on in the piece, was really striking:
I have a friend who spent over a decade (yes you read that correctly) ruminating on her relationship. Every time we caught up about what was going on, she was trying to “work things out” or “figuring things out” or “deciding what the best thing to do is” and even “trying to avoid making a mistake”.
Having done some of this myself, I totally know how you can fall down that rabbit hole. Part of me knew six months into my first long term relationship that we were a poor match, but I didn't have the experience and insight yet to overcome the fear of ending it and being alone. We stayed together over three years.
Début de l'événement
02.01.2023
Fin de l'événement
02.01.2023
What to Do When You Feel Unappreciated in Your Marriage
What to Do When You Feel Unappreciated in Your Marriage
Description
He Cheats on Me During Business Trips
He Cheated with a Woman from the Gym
He Dotes On His Son and Ignores Me
He Didn't Know How to Listen to Her
He Flirts Too Much
Marriage Advice: 13 Lessons
Separate Vacations Don’t Have to Mean Divorce
Are Soul Mates Fact or Fiction?
Love vs. Parenthood: When the Perfect Partner Doesn’t Want Kids
Caring for Dad Is Destroying My Marriage
First Date: Who Pays and What It Really Means
Dating a Dad: When You Like Him But Not His Kid
Cali Bradshaw
October 11, 2011 at 6:17 pm #
With all due respect, this statement is moronic. You left out a key aspect of prostitution…. the exchange of sex. But in any case, for the one millionth time, I am not saying a guy has to pay. I simply wrote this post to explain why woman want to be paid for, in the hopes of helping guys who sometimes feel like they just don’t understand us. You can call me/us anything you want, but it doesn’t change the fact that a lot of woman feel this way.
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Mark
March 27, 2012 at 12:51 pm #
“You can call me/us anything you want, but it doesn’t change the fact that a lot of woman feel this way.”
Fair enough. And a lot of men want women to be submissive houswives who cook, clean and provide sex when it’s requested.
You can call me/us anything you want, but it doesn’t change the fact that a lot of men feel this way.
I suppose that disclaimer trumps the sexism in both our expectations of the opposite sex?
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Zerbu
October 16, 2011 at 11:36 pm #
He Cheated with a Woman from the Gym
He Dotes On His Son and Ignores Me
He Didn't Know How to Listen to Her
He Flirts Too Much
Marriage Advice: 13 Lessons
Separate Vacations Don’t Have to Mean Divorce
Are Soul Mates Fact or Fiction?
Love vs. Parenthood: When the Perfect Partner Doesn’t Want Kids
Caring for Dad Is Destroying My Marriage
First Date: Who Pays and What It Really Means
Dating a Dad: When You Like Him But Not His Kid
Cali Bradshaw
October 11, 2011 at 6:17 pm #
With all due respect, this statement is moronic. You left out a key aspect of prostitution…. the exchange of sex. But in any case, for the one millionth time, I am not saying a guy has to pay. I simply wrote this post to explain why woman want to be paid for, in the hopes of helping guys who sometimes feel like they just don’t understand us. You can call me/us anything you want, but it doesn’t change the fact that a lot of woman feel this way.
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Mark
March 27, 2012 at 12:51 pm #
“You can call me/us anything you want, but it doesn’t change the fact that a lot of woman feel this way.”
Fair enough. And a lot of men want women to be submissive houswives who cook, clean and provide sex when it’s requested.
You can call me/us anything you want, but it doesn’t change the fact that a lot of men feel this way.
I suppose that disclaimer trumps the sexism in both our expectations of the opposite sex?
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Zerbu
October 16, 2011 at 11:36 pm #
Début de l'événement
17.03.2022
Fin de l'événement
17.03.2022
What Women Say vs. What Men Hear
What Women Say vs. What Men Hear
Description
Ladies We Need Answers
The Difference Between Girls and Women
On Dating: Experienced or Just Plain Damaged?
A Chosen Season: On Being Single in My Late 20s
The Painful Friends With Benefits Cycle
10 Reasons Why You Might Still Be Single
The Things Women Say That Piss Off Men
Challenges Of A Male Relationship Blogger
Why Relationships Commitment Scares Me
The Dumbest Arguments Couples Have
Don’t Tell Me Where To Be Romantic!
Tickle Me Cheater
LILGRL PERMALINK*
October 21, 2009 5:24 pm
Note 3 : A woman asking such questions after tests and qualification is an IOI, even as limited as a webforum is for such expression.
An IOI!
Sorry, Tood, but it was really just an indicator of…my wanting to know your GMAT score. Mainly because I’ve worked with things concerning the GMAT and so, whenever someone says they’ve taken the GMAT, I want to know their score.
I also like getting you to divulge non-girl/relationship-related tidbits, because it further proves that your “not divulging girl/relationship-related anecdotes for fear of being found out” is a weak excuse.
LILGRL PERMALINK*
October 21, 2009 5:26 pm
And I wanted to know if you were the same as/worse than my boyfriend.
LILGRL PERMALINK*
October 21, 2009 5:32 pm
A note on your notes:
1: It was not a shit-test, it wasn’t even a test — it was a ridiculous statement designed so that you might understand how absolutely ridiculous it is that you’re not sharing anecdotes because you’re afraid you might be discovered. You were not supposed to think of it as a test — you were supposed to READ FOR COMPREHENSION and be like, “Well, that’s just absurd — OH, I get what she means.”
2: It’s not qualifying, it’s making the aforementioned “ridiculous statement” even more “ridiculous”. I wasn’t trying to brag about hooking up with anyone — I was trying to say that EVEN IF the story was about me and a pop star, it would still be ABSURD to think that you could discover even the name of the pop star from my anecdotal evidence.
The Difference Between Girls and Women
On Dating: Experienced or Just Plain Damaged?
A Chosen Season: On Being Single in My Late 20s
The Painful Friends With Benefits Cycle
10 Reasons Why You Might Still Be Single
The Things Women Say That Piss Off Men
Challenges Of A Male Relationship Blogger
Why Relationships Commitment Scares Me
The Dumbest Arguments Couples Have
Don’t Tell Me Where To Be Romantic!
Tickle Me Cheater
LILGRL PERMALINK*
October 21, 2009 5:24 pm
Note 3 : A woman asking such questions after tests and qualification is an IOI, even as limited as a webforum is for such expression.
An IOI!
Sorry, Tood, but it was really just an indicator of…my wanting to know your GMAT score. Mainly because I’ve worked with things concerning the GMAT and so, whenever someone says they’ve taken the GMAT, I want to know their score.
I also like getting you to divulge non-girl/relationship-related tidbits, because it further proves that your “not divulging girl/relationship-related anecdotes for fear of being found out” is a weak excuse.
LILGRL PERMALINK*
October 21, 2009 5:26 pm
And I wanted to know if you were the same as/worse than my boyfriend.
LILGRL PERMALINK*
October 21, 2009 5:32 pm
A note on your notes:
1: It was not a shit-test, it wasn’t even a test — it was a ridiculous statement designed so that you might understand how absolutely ridiculous it is that you’re not sharing anecdotes because you’re afraid you might be discovered. You were not supposed to think of it as a test — you were supposed to READ FOR COMPREHENSION and be like, “Well, that’s just absurd — OH, I get what she means.”
2: It’s not qualifying, it’s making the aforementioned “ridiculous statement” even more “ridiculous”. I wasn’t trying to brag about hooking up with anyone — I was trying to say that EVEN IF the story was about me and a pop star, it would still be ABSURD to think that you could discover even the name of the pop star from my anecdotal evidence.
Début de l'événement
12.12.2021
Fin de l'événement
12.12.2021
You are definitely dead on.
You are definitely dead on.
Description
Why Sex Talk On a First Date Is a Bad Idea
Is He Interested or Just An Attention Whore?
Never Give a Man More Credit Then He’s Earned
Stop Accepting Bad Behavior From Men
When Do You Ask A Guy If Things Are Serious?
Is She Doomed To End Up Alone?
Why The “Hot” People In This Article Aren’t Worth Dating
When You Get Dumped Sometimes You’re To Blame, Too
Never Double Down On A Guy Who Can’t Guarantee He’ll Stick Around
How To Deal With The Push Pull Guy
Who Has More Luck Online – Men or Women?
The Tell Tale Tatt
Exactly! Everything is perfect upfront. Then when she’s hooked, the bad behavior comes out. That’s why both parties rush in to this. The other person in the relationship is usually really insecure and fears their “bad” behavior will come to light too, so they jump at the chance for commitment. This guy has all the things women say they want. An insecure woman or a woman who is anxious to lock a guy down is going to fall for this hook, line and sinker.
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wishing u well Says:
January 16th, 2012 at 10:28 am
You are definitely dead on. What I should have included as well (hope the OP reads this too) is that at the time that I went through this, I was having a moment of insecurity based on other things that were happening in my life. I had reached a point in which I started to doubt myself on some levels. Even though I was in the process of working on solutions to the problems I was facing, I felt I needed a “bright spot” in my life. It seems as if the wrong kind of men can almost smell the vulnerability at times. What helped is the fact that I’m a person who does what she says and expect others to do the same if they want to be in my life as a potential partner. So when actions changed and the mirage cleared, I left. But my insecurity at the time is what caused me to overlook the red flags – choosing instead to act on the “hope” that “maybe this will be real” and made the poor decision to give him a chance. Not my smartest moment, but hey, you live and you learn.
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Andthatswhyyouresingle Says:
January 16th, 2012 at 10:31 am
While I agree that the men can pick up on a woman’s vulnerability, I think initially the woman meets a man who she believes is out of her league (so she thinks) and pursues him because of that. That’s all tied to the insecurity and vulnerability. Having that man in her life validates her and helps her deal with her insecurity.
Is He Interested or Just An Attention Whore?
Never Give a Man More Credit Then He’s Earned
Stop Accepting Bad Behavior From Men
When Do You Ask A Guy If Things Are Serious?
Is She Doomed To End Up Alone?
Why The “Hot” People In This Article Aren’t Worth Dating
When You Get Dumped Sometimes You’re To Blame, Too
Never Double Down On A Guy Who Can’t Guarantee He’ll Stick Around
How To Deal With The Push Pull Guy
Who Has More Luck Online – Men or Women?
The Tell Tale Tatt
Exactly! Everything is perfect upfront. Then when she’s hooked, the bad behavior comes out. That’s why both parties rush in to this. The other person in the relationship is usually really insecure and fears their “bad” behavior will come to light too, so they jump at the chance for commitment. This guy has all the things women say they want. An insecure woman or a woman who is anxious to lock a guy down is going to fall for this hook, line and sinker.
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wishing u well Says:
January 16th, 2012 at 10:28 am
You are definitely dead on. What I should have included as well (hope the OP reads this too) is that at the time that I went through this, I was having a moment of insecurity based on other things that were happening in my life. I had reached a point in which I started to doubt myself on some levels. Even though I was in the process of working on solutions to the problems I was facing, I felt I needed a “bright spot” in my life. It seems as if the wrong kind of men can almost smell the vulnerability at times. What helped is the fact that I’m a person who does what she says and expect others to do the same if they want to be in my life as a potential partner. So when actions changed and the mirage cleared, I left. But my insecurity at the time is what caused me to overlook the red flags – choosing instead to act on the “hope” that “maybe this will be real” and made the poor decision to give him a chance. Not my smartest moment, but hey, you live and you learn.
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Andthatswhyyouresingle Says:
January 16th, 2012 at 10:31 am
While I agree that the men can pick up on a woman’s vulnerability, I think initially the woman meets a man who she believes is out of her league (so she thinks) and pursues him because of that. That’s all tied to the insecurity and vulnerability. Having that man in her life validates her and helps her deal with her insecurity.
Début de l'événement
19.02.2022
Fin de l'événement
19.02.2022
You Have to Love Your Own Life First
You Have to Love Your Own Life First
Description
Should Single Guys Use Emoticons
Leaving the Ghosts of an Ex Behind
Bitchiness as a Defense Mechanism: Lessons from Blogging About My Ex
Can You be Friends With an Ex?
The Men We Know We Have No Future With…
Men Who Ghost Before the First Date
No Strings Attached is Bullshit.
Do Women Really Want Equality In Relationships?
Your Best Friend the Hag
Why Being Single Doesn’t Suck
Rules For Hanging Out With Your Ex
How to Approach Guys in a Bar
How NOT to Approach A Guy In A Bar
8 Facts about Cheating
Lots of times people ask me “What do I need to do to find Mr/Ms Right.”
They get this look on their face…somewhere between ardent curiosity and abject desperation. I tell them to relax. First, you have to relax.
Then, stop and take a good look around. How is the rest of your life going?
What’s going well? What do you need to improve? What story are you telling yourself about your life, and your ability to find your perfect mate?
Here are some areas to look at:
1) Your Financial Situation. Are you stable? Do you have a plan? Are you handling your money the way you’d want Mr or Ms Right to handle theirs? If the answer is NO, then begin to take steps to handle your own money in a way that you respect. Like attracts like…so be LIKE that person you wish to attract.
2) Your Fun Factor Where are you in terms of actually enjoying your life? Do you have a circle of friends? Hobbies, Interests and Passions? Can you carry on a conversation about something you actually care about? are you Laughing? Doing things that push you out of your comfort zone and into a growth mode?
3). Your Career Are you happy with your work? Energized? If the answer is yes, then you’re way ahead of 80% of the American population. If the answer is no, explore what you can do to feel better about your work. Or at least find some reasons to be grateful for the job you do have. It’s a big turnoff to a prospective mate to meet someone who is miserable from 8 to 5 every day.
4) Your Physical and Spiritual Health Are you happy with your health habits? Could you be taking better care of yourself? If you were to share your physical and spiritual health routines with a prospective mate, would you feel proud?
5) Your Home And this is a big one. Whether you want to study Feng Shui and learn about why clutter holds you back, or the more modern version of clutter busting strategies…that’s up to you. The idea is this: Does you home accurately reflect you and how you want to present yourself? When you meet Mr or Ms Right, will there, literally, be SPACE for them?
Start to take a look at all of the areas of your life, and make an honest assessment of where you are. Like attracts Like. Be The Mate You Wish To See, and you’ll be in a much better position to meet someone that’s just perfect for you.
Leaving the Ghosts of an Ex Behind
Bitchiness as a Defense Mechanism: Lessons from Blogging About My Ex
Can You be Friends With an Ex?
The Men We Know We Have No Future With…
Men Who Ghost Before the First Date
No Strings Attached is Bullshit.
Do Women Really Want Equality In Relationships?
Your Best Friend the Hag
Why Being Single Doesn’t Suck
Rules For Hanging Out With Your Ex
How to Approach Guys in a Bar
How NOT to Approach A Guy In A Bar
8 Facts about Cheating
Lots of times people ask me “What do I need to do to find Mr/Ms Right.”
They get this look on their face…somewhere between ardent curiosity and abject desperation. I tell them to relax. First, you have to relax.
Then, stop and take a good look around. How is the rest of your life going?
What’s going well? What do you need to improve? What story are you telling yourself about your life, and your ability to find your perfect mate?
Here are some areas to look at:
1) Your Financial Situation. Are you stable? Do you have a plan? Are you handling your money the way you’d want Mr or Ms Right to handle theirs? If the answer is NO, then begin to take steps to handle your own money in a way that you respect. Like attracts like…so be LIKE that person you wish to attract.
2) Your Fun Factor Where are you in terms of actually enjoying your life? Do you have a circle of friends? Hobbies, Interests and Passions? Can you carry on a conversation about something you actually care about? are you Laughing? Doing things that push you out of your comfort zone and into a growth mode?
3). Your Career Are you happy with your work? Energized? If the answer is yes, then you’re way ahead of 80% of the American population. If the answer is no, explore what you can do to feel better about your work. Or at least find some reasons to be grateful for the job you do have. It’s a big turnoff to a prospective mate to meet someone who is miserable from 8 to 5 every day.
4) Your Physical and Spiritual Health Are you happy with your health habits? Could you be taking better care of yourself? If you were to share your physical and spiritual health routines with a prospective mate, would you feel proud?
5) Your Home And this is a big one. Whether you want to study Feng Shui and learn about why clutter holds you back, or the more modern version of clutter busting strategies…that’s up to you. The idea is this: Does you home accurately reflect you and how you want to present yourself? When you meet Mr or Ms Right, will there, literally, be SPACE for them?
Start to take a look at all of the areas of your life, and make an honest assessment of where you are. Like attracts Like. Be The Mate You Wish To See, and you’ll be in a much better position to meet someone that’s just perfect for you.
Début de l'événement
30.01.2022
Fin de l'événement
30.01.2022
[1.1] Des communs ? Témoignages !
[1.1] Des communs ? Témoignages !
Titre affiché (optionnel)
Des communs aujourd'hui : trois témoignages
Durée estimée de l'activité en minutes
30
Groupe de cases à cocher
- Capsule vidéo produite pour le Mooc
Semaine
semaine 1
Objectifs d'apprentissage
Permettre à la personne inscrite de mettre des visages et des activités sur un « communs ». Constituer une première liste de questions soulevées par les témoignages via le forum, pour capitalisation et orientation d'autres sessions de formation mutuelle.
Type de mooc
X Mooc
Contenu et interactions proposées aux particpant-es
Exemples de structures organisées en communs (formes de commoning)
Optionnelles : forum, questions-réponses avec les personnes qui témoignent avec animation/modération par le responsable de l'activité.
Optionnelles : forum, questions-réponses avec les personnes qui témoignent avec animation/modération par le responsable de l'activité.
Contraintes techniques et coûts estimé de fabrication
Il s'agit de 1) choisir trois communs sur des objets différents (par exemple : Culture, Agriculture, Low-Techs,...) 2) Interviewer et filmer des témoins dans leur environnement 3) Réaliser le montage pour une capsule qui ne dépasse pas 10 minutes par témoignage 4) Rassembler l'accès à des ressources ouvertes par ces témoins pour "aller plus loin" pour celles et ceux qui s'y intéressent. Il faut disposer d'un outil de forum avec une animation/modération dont l'objectif sera double : permettre la discussion directe avec les témoins et les responsables de l'activité + constituer une source d'inspiration pour la conception d'autres sessions du Mooc. Le coût de la fabrication des capsules -> 18 heures de prise de vue/enregistrement + 12 heures de montage capsules (30*50 euros)+ 6 forfaits de de déplacement (6*250 euros) -> 3000 euros. Location de matériel : 500
[1.2]Des communs ? Études interactives des exemples !
[1.2]Des communs ? Études interactives des exemples !
Titre affiché (optionnel)
Quoi de "commun" à ces communs ?
Durée estimée de l'activité en minutes
45
Groupe de cases à cocher
- Réunion participative en visio
- Travail asynchrone sur le Wiki
Semaine
semaine 1
Objectifs d'apprentissage
L'objectif du groupe de travail est de réfléchir avec les témoins mobilisés sur ce qui fait "communs" dans les trois cas présentés en x-Mooc. Le résultat est un document partagé initié pendant une séance de travail interactive et complété en asynchrone par les participants.
Type de mooc
C Mooc
Contenu et interactions proposées aux particpant-es
Les animateurs de l'activité préparent une session d'intelligence collective consistant à ouvrir la discussion sur un certain nombre de points levés par les témoins (pendant le reportage) et les participants (sur le forum du x-Mooc). Par exemple : qu'est-ce qui explique la réussite ? les moments difficiles ? Quelles approches économiques ? Quelles approches de gouvernance ? en tentant de noter ce qui est similaire de ce qui est différent d'un témoignage à l'autre avec les éléments principaux d'explication de ces différences.
Contraintes techniques et coûts estimé de fabrication
Il s'agit d'une intelligence collective qui se déroule à distance, peut-être prévoir d'utiliser une plateforme adaptée ? Favoriser le rassemblement des personnes intéressées (chez l'une d'entre elles, dans un lieu tiers...). Assurer une prise de notes intéractive sur un document partagé -> avec modération par un des responsables de l'activité. Coût associé : préparation de l'activité d'intelligence collective : 6h, s'assurer de l'environnement technique fonctionnel 4h, assurer l'animation, la prise de notes, la synthèse de l'activité : 4h -> 14 * 50 euros -> 700 euros -> financement mixte fonds propres/bénévolat.
[1.3]Des communs ? Quels sont les biens communs gérés dans les exemples !
[1.3]Des communs ? Quels sont les biens communs gérés dans les exemples !
Titre affiché (optionnel)
Quels sont les biens communs gérés dans les communs témoins?
Durée estimée de l'activité en minutes
45
Groupe de cases à cocher
- Webinaire interactif
- Travail asynchrone sur le Wiki
Semaine
semaine 1
Objectifs d'apprentissage
L'objectif est de mettre en évidence quel est le "bien commun" gouverné en communs par chacune des structures témoins du Mooc. Les parties prenantes de l'activité chercheront à se mettre d'accord sur une description simple de ces biens communs en retenant quelques descripteurs principaux.
Contenu et interactions proposées aux particpant-es
Le format webinaire est une option permettant aux témoins d'expliciter leurs points de vue en tant que commoneurs. Les parties prenantes de l'activité seront invités à interroger les témoins pour clarifier les descriptions. Les parties prenantes seront rassemblées en trois groupes pour rédiger une description écrite (document partagé avec les témoins) de chaque bien commun considéré par les témoins. Le travail pourra continuer en différé pour établir une liste (courte)de descripteurs de tels biens communs.
Contraintes techniques et coûts estimé de fabrication
Plateforme de webinaire, un document partagé par groupe, trois temps -> webinaire témoins (20 minutes), travail en groupes (20 minutes), webinaire rapporteurs groupes (5 minutes). Coût : usage de la plateforme webinaire, accès à un cloud (documents partagés), capture son+video des parties webinaires. Rémunération des responsables de l'activité : 2h * 50 euros = 100 euros.
[10.1] Les communs de la nature
[10.1] Les communs de la nature
Licence
CCbySA
Groupe de cases à cocher
- Webinaire interactif
Semaine
semaine 10
Objectifs d'apprentissage
- De nombreux lieux ruraux, forestiers ou maritimes présentent encore aujourd’hui des caractéristiques, des règles, des savoirs partagés et des communautés d'usage qui en font des « communs », avérés ou potentiels. Trop souvent méconnus ou considérés comme obsolètes, dans un monde en crises, ils semblent au contraire très pertinents par leur ancienneté, leur longévité, leur diversité présente sur tous les continents, leur gestion sobre des ressources, les risques naturels dont ils protègent, les services vitaux qu'ils rendent à la Planète et aux êtres qui l'habitent, dont nous Humains. Ils pourraient ainsi constituer une puissante alternative citoyenne à la logique capitaliste de prédation et de destruction de ressources et milieux naturels indispensables à la vie sur Terre.
- L'objectif de cette activité est de faire découvrir ces communs aux participant-es et de les inciter à identifier un ou plusieurs de ces communs ruraux, forestiers ou maritimes de leur connaissance.
Type de mooc
C Mooc
Contenu et interactions proposées aux particpant-es
Webinaire interactif avec le groupe de travail du projet de cartographie des communs de la nature
[2.1] Comment définir les communs ?
[2.1] Comment définir les communs ?
Titre affiché (optionnel)
Histoire courte des communs
Durée estimée de l'activité en minutes
10
Licence
Attribution - Partage dans les Mêmes Conditions CC BY-SA
Groupe de cases à cocher
- Capsule vidéo produite pour le Mooc
Semaine
semaine 2
Objectifs d'apprentissage
Découvrir une histoire des communs, situer quelques communs historiques inspirants
Type de mooc
X Mooc
Contenu et interactions proposées aux particpant-es
La capsule vidéo est accompagnée d'une bibliographie en accès libre pour les inscrits aux Moocs (un groupe Zotero avec les références et PDF principaux)
Contraintes techniques et coûts estimé de fabrication
Invitation/interview de historie des communs. Filmage, montage, création d'un questionnaire d'auto-évaluation. Forum animé par un animateur du Mooc. Coût estimé : 6h de travail historien.ne ; 2) Déplacement videaste + interviewer 6h ; 3) Montage + Mise en production 6h ; 5) Animation activité par personne de l'équipe Mooc : 6h ; Constitution bibliographie et mise en ligne : 6h.
[2.2] Communs du réseau des communs
[2.2] Communs du réseau des communs
Titre affiché (optionnel)
Étude de cas avec les équipes des communs concernés
Durée estimée de l'activité en minutes
45
Licence
Attribution - Partage dans les Mêmes Conditions CC BY-SA
Groupe de cases à cocher
- Webinaire interactif
Semaine
semaine 2
Objectifs d'apprentissage
Objectif d'action : Il s'agit pour les témoins (3) des communs de présenter leur expérience et les principales leçons qu'ils en tirent. Pour les inscrits au Mooc, il s'agit de rédiger un document de synthèse collectif sur le contenu des témoignages et des leçons plus générales à en tirer.
Type de mooc
C Mooc
Contraintes techniques et coûts estimé de fabrication
La session est enregistrée. Les participants à l'activité sont chargés de prendre des notes collaboratives -> 1 équipe différente pour chaque témoin. Le fil des questions posées aux intervenants est géré par l'animateur de l'activité. Un document de synthèse est rédigé à partir des notes, du fil de questions-réponses et de la capture du webinaire : ce document est rédigé par des volontaires participants en tant que co-auteurs ; il sera versé aux ressources du Mooc disponibles en ligne. Ce document enrichit les ressources documentaires du Mooc. En terme de coût : identifier, contacter, préparer le webinaire avec les 3 témoins -> 3 jours (6 jours si on le fait avec des participants volontaires) ; préparation et soutien technique à l'activité : 2 jours ; suivi de la rédaction de synthèse et mise en ligne : 2 jours -> 2000 à 4000 euros en rémunération ou bénévolat selon la façon dont les interviews sont préparées (avec ou sans les participants)
[2.3] Études de formes de communs (Patterns of Commoning)
[2.3] Études de formes de communs (Patterns of Commoning)
Titre affiché (optionnel)
Étude de différentes formes de communs issus du réseau des communs
Licence
Creative Commons
Groupe de cases à cocher
- Réunion participative en visio
Semaine
semaine 2
Objectifs d'apprentissage
Il s'agit d'acquérir la capacité d'analyse de communs de terrains en mettant au point une grille d'étude et en faisant le récit de ce qui fait commun pour le terrain étudié.
Type de mooc
C Mooc
Contenu et interactions proposées aux particpant-es
Étude et exposé sur un « pattern » de communs par les apprenants. L’exposé est fait en synchrone.
Contraintes techniques et coûts estimé de fabrication
Les communs à étudier sont proposés dès le début du Mooc. Au maximum trois groupes seront organisés. Les participants intéressés disposeront d'un espace de travail collaboratif de type bloc note partagé. Des mises en relation avec les correspondants des Communs participant au Mooc sont organisées pour les participants ayant choisi de participer à ces études. L'accès à des ressources de description des Communs est prévu. Une interview d'un correspondant de Communs participant est possible. Le travail commence dans la semaine 2 mais la visio participative de présentation des études sera planifiée en fin de Mooc. L'activité commence en semaine 2, mais le rendu lors d'une réunion visio participative est planifiée à la fin du Mooc (semaine 10 ou 11). Estimation des coûts : préparation de l'activité (mises en contact, suivi des interactions avec les correspondants des communs) : 2j ;animation de l'activité 2j ; préparation et animation de la visio participative 2j. Total estimé (rémunération ou/et bénévolat) -> 2 100 euros.
[3.1] Économies des communs
[3.1] Économies des communs
Titre affiché (optionnel)
Quelle organisation économique pour les communs
Durée estimée de l'activité en minutes
30
Groupe de cases à cocher
- Capsule vidéo produite pour le Mooc
Semaine
semaine 3
Objectifs d'apprentissage
Il s'agit de comprendre l'économie des communs par rapport au modèle économique actuel,d'en montrer les spécificités et la manière de l'installer concrètement sur le terrain.
Type de mooc
X Mooc
Contenu et interactions proposées aux particpant-es
Les 3 capusules de 10 minutes sont présentées par des spécialistes de l'économie des communs et de leur mise en oeuvre sur le terrain concret.
Présentation des facettes économiques des communs : Réciprocité, Économie Contributive, comptabilité des communs, ...
Présentation des facettes économiques des communs : Réciprocité, Économie Contributive, comptabilité des communs, ...
Contraintes techniques et coûts estimé de fabrication
Il s'agit de 1) choisir trois experts 2) Interviewer et filmer ces experts ou récupérer une capsule traitant du sujet qui pourra être montée pour le Mooc 3) Réaliser le montage pour une capsule qui ne dépasse pas 10 minutes par témoignage 4) Rassembler l'accès à des ressources ouvertes par ces témoins pour "aller plus loin" pour celles et ceux qui s'y intéressent. Il faut disposer d'un outil de forum avec une animation/modération dont l'objectif sera double : permettre la discussion directe avec les témoins et les experts + constituer une source d'inspiration pour la conception d'autres sessions du Mooc. Les experts peuvent être filmés à distance dans des conditions contrôlées. Estimation du coût dans ces conditions : Prise de vue 9h de prise de vue à 50 euros de l'heure , 6h de montage , 3h animation et suivi : 18h en tout.
[3.2] Mettre en place un dispositif de réciprocité
[3.2] Mettre en place un dispositif de réciprocité
Titre affiché (optionnel)
Étude de cas du déploiement d'un dispositif de réciprocité dans le réseau des communs
Durée estimée de l'activité en minutes
45
Licence
Creative Commons
Groupe de cases à cocher
- Réunion participative en visio
Semaine
semaine 3
Objectifs d'apprentissage
Il s'agit de se poser les questions posées par un principe de réciprocité dans un environnement concurrentiel
Type de mooc
C Mooc
Contenu et interactions proposées aux particpant-es
Sur la base d'un terrain de commun cherchant à mettre en place un dispositif d'économie contributive, avec la présence d'un participant issu de ce terrain, les participants sont engagés à formaliser le problème posé spécifiquement et à choisir les modalités de réciprocités qui leur semblent les plus adaptées. Les ressources pour mener cette activité sont disponibles dès le début du Mooc et les participants ont été invité à choisir à l'avance cette activité. 2 participants sont invités à prendre les notes de l'activité. Les participants volontaires sont invités à produire un document de synthèse à la suite de cette activité. Elle sera mise à disposition sur le Mooc et ouverte aux commentaires.
Contraintes techniques et coûts estimé de fabrication
Préparation, animation et suivi : 12h -> 600 euros ; réciprocités :
[3.3] Mettre en place une comptabilité de type « communs »
[3.3] Mettre en place une comptabilité de type « communs »
Titre affiché (optionnel)
Comment installer une comptabilité adaptée au fonctionnement en communs
Licence
Creative Commons
Groupe de cases à cocher
- Réunion participative en visio
- Travail asynchrone sur le Wiki
Semaine
semaine 3
Objectifs d'apprentissage
Il s'agit de travaux pratiques coachés par un
Type de mooc
C Mooc
Contenu et interactions proposées aux particpant-es
Une activité de discussion/constrction en intelligence collective travaillant sur un exemple de comptabilité en « communs » avec la participation d'un terrain qui est se propose comme cas d'étude avec ses propres activités et échanges économiques et financiers. Un tableur préparé ou un dispositif de gestion comptable adapté permettra de simuler les propositions faites. Le travail sur le tableur/système comptable pourrait être continué par les participants volontaires avec le terrain volontaire également.
Contraintes techniques et coûts estimé de fabrication
Préparation tableur/système gestion comptable, constitution d'un scénario chiffré avec un terrain (sur la base de sa propre comptabilité simplifiée), animation, suivi de l'activité : 18h ; mobilisation d'un comptable professionnel suivant un commun 8h ; contributeurs participants à un document de synthèse de l'activité : 8h -> 1700 euros
[4.1] Inscrire les communs dans le droit ?
[4.1] Inscrire les communs dans le droit ?
Titre affiché (optionnel)
Comment les communs s'inscrivent -ils dans le droit : hier, aujourd'hui et demain
Durée estimée de l'activité en minutes
30
Licence
Creative Commons
Groupe de cases à cocher
- Capsule vidéo produite pour le Mooc
Semaine
semaine 4
Objectifs d'apprentissage
Pour les communeurs actuels et en devenir, comprendre comment un projet en communs s'inscrit dans le droit : les opportunités existantes et les freins persistants.
Type de mooc
X Mooc
Contenu et interactions proposées aux particpant-es
Trois capsules video sont fabriquées : Faisceau de droits, Droits des citoyens à la jouissance des biens communs (Italie), Du droit social aux communs. Le forum permettra de discuter d'autres questions de droits à la demande des participants. Un corpus de ressources bibliographiques et de personnes ou collectifs ressource sera associé à l'activité.
Contraintes techniques et coûts estimé de fabrication
Interview filmée de spécialistes de chaque question (6h par interview), montage (4h par interview), production : (1h par interview) -> 33 h de travail -> 1650 euros ; Contacts, préparation, animation, suivi : 20h -> 1000 euros. Total estimé pour l'activité : 2650 euros.
[4.2] Organiser une coopérative en communs : la SCIC ?
[4.2] Organiser une coopérative en communs : la SCIC ?
Titre affiché (optionnel)
Étude de cas d'une SCIC qui s'organise en communs
Durée estimée de l'activité en minutes
45
Licence
Creative Commons
Groupe de cases à cocher
- Webinaire interactif
Semaine
semaine 4
Objectifs d'apprentissage
Il s'agit de considérer la création d'une entreprise en cherchant à organiser la SCIC en communs : étude de cas d'une SCIC témoin de cette démarche pour estimer à quel point le droit permet ou non de développer un fonctionnement en communs mettant en oeuvre un faisceau de droits entre parties prenantes.
Type de mooc
C Mooc
Contenu et interactions proposées aux particpant-es
Le témoin présente rapidement l'organisation de son entreprise en communs. Les participants sont invités à analyser le faisceau de droits qui peut être distingué dans ce cas d'étude. L'analyse se fait selon une grille proposée par les animateurs. Le résultat de l'analyse est versé dans le corpus de ressources du Mooc.
Contraintes techniques et coûts estimé de fabrication
Préparation du webinaire avec l'intervenant : 4h + 4h; Animation du webinaire et documentation de son déroulé : 3h ; production du document d'analyse pour le Mooc : 6h -> 850 euros + frais de plateforme pour webinaire.
[4.3] Le CopyLeft à la place du CopyRight ?
[4.3] Le CopyLeft à la place du CopyRight ?
Titre affiché (optionnel)
Scénario de protection ouverte d'une invention avec un CopyLeft
Licence
Creative Commons
Groupe de cases à cocher
- Réunion participative en visio
Semaine
semaine 4
Objectifs d'apprentissage
Il s'agit de comprendre comment fonctionne un Copy_Left par rapport à un Copy_Right, en l'applicant à un objet de type invention (processus de fabrication). Un témoin du réseau des communs présentera le cas à étudier, la fabrication d'un dispositif low-tech. Un focus sera fait sur la valorisation du travail des inventeurs avec ce type de dispositif.
Type de mooc
C Mooc
Contenu et interactions proposées aux particpant-es
Un animateur proposera le cas d'étude en présence du témoin du réseau des communs. Les participants feront des propositions pour indiquer ce qu'il faut considérer comme l'objet à protéger par une licence et les dispositions à prendre dans l'organisation du commun et de la diffusion de l'objet protégé pour que la valeur du travail produit par les inventeurs leur permette une rétribution juste.
Contraintes techniques et coûts estimé de fabrication
Préparation de la réunion participative avec le témoin 24 h, mise en place des outils de co-opération pour la séance de travail : 8 h, animation et production d'un document de synthèse de la réunion participative : 8 h -> 2000 euros.
[7.1] Communs culturels, communs sociaux
[7.1] Communs culturels, communs sociaux
Titre affiché (optionnel)
Élmergence des communs culturels comme communs sociaux
Durée estimée de l'activité en minutes
30
Licence
Creative Commons
Groupe de cases à cocher
- Capsule vidéo produite pour le Mooc
Semaine
semaine 7
Objectifs d'apprentissage
Trois capsules vidéo sont proposées : deux à partir de travaux récents sur le sujet (2018 et 2020) et la troisième présentant un commun culturel et social représentatif. L'objectif est de participer à l'appropriation du potentiel des communs pour la culture comme projet social.
Type de mooc
X Mooc
Contenu et interactions proposées aux particpant-es
La première capsule pourrait être réalisée avec Marc Drouet, rapporteur de "Comment les acteurs culturels publics peuvent-ils garantir et accompagner la constitution de communs culturels ?". Le second pourrait être réalisé avec l'aide de "Calimac" (Lionel Maurel). Le troisième pourrait être focalisé sur un commun culturel actif comme par exemple La Friche Lamartine (à Lyon).
Contraintes techniques et coûts estimé de fabrication
Monter le projet d'activité avec les intervenants : 24h ; Tournage, montage, production des 3 capsules : 30 h ; Animation de l'activité : 6h -> 3000 euros
[7.2] Analyse détaillée d'un commun culturel
[7.2] Analyse détaillée d'un commun culturel
Titre affiché (optionnel)
Analyse et documentation du fonctionnement d'un commun culturel actif
Licence
Creative Commons
Groupe de cases à cocher
- Réunion participative en visio
- Travail asynchrone sur le Wiki
Semaine
semaine 7
Objectifs d'apprentissage
Pour les animateurs du commun culturel comme pour les participant.e.s intéressées, il s'agit de clarifier les processus en communs qui favorisent l'activité culturel et sociale comme bien commun co-construit avec toutes les parties prenantes.
Type de mooc
C Mooc
Contenu et interactions proposées aux particpant-es
Un terrain concret est proposé comme cas d'étude. La documentation, les productions, les statuts, une description de l'organisation en communs, ... sont rassemblés pour les participant.e.s intéressées. Un espace numérique partagé est mis à disposition du groupe ayant choisi l'activité. Selon le nombre de participant.e.s ayant choisi l'activité, plusieurs groupes seront constitués avec la possibilité d'un focus sur un aspect particulier du fonctionnement en communs. La réunion participative sera une mise en commun de ce travail collectif pour faire une synthèse des analyses faites et la co-rédaction d'une fiche à verser aux productions sur le domaine.
Contraintes techniques et coûts estimé de fabrication
La plateforme du Mooc doit offrir des accès aux outils de production, de visualisation, de travail coopératif, ... à chiffrer. La préparation et l'animation du travail du groupe : 20h, rétribution des contributions à la synthèse du travail réalisé : 20h -> 2000 euros
[7.3] Monter un commun culturel ?
[7.3] Monter un commun culturel ?
Titre affiché (optionnel)
Simuler le montage d'un commun culturel à partir des propositions des participant.e.s
Licence
Creative Commons
Groupe de cases à cocher
- Réunion participative en visio
- Travail asynchrone sur le Wiki
Semaine
semaine 7
Objectifs d'apprentissage
L'objectif est d'étudier comment monter un projet culturel en commun, puis le faire vivre en commun.
Type de mooc
C Mooc
Contenu et interactions proposées aux particpant-es
Cette activité est ouverte à l'initiative de projets issus des participant.e.s. 3 oul 4 rendez-vous sont proposés : 1) proposition d'activités culturelles, choix d'une activité cible, organisation des rôles pour le montage de l'activité comme entreprise en communs 2) et 3) travail sur le projet en décrivant le détail de la proposition, ses volets de gouvernance, économiques, juridiques, de relations au privé et au public. Une présentation est faite à l'issue de l'activité, proposée à l'ensemble du Mooc dans un mode pédagogique documenté.
Contraintes techniques et coûts estimé de fabrication
Préparation, animation, accompagnement rendu : 24h ; Rétribution des contributions spécifiques des participants : 24 h; Rétribution de la contribution des conseillers ponctuels : 12h -> 3000 euros
[8.1] La connaissance en communs
[8.1] La connaissance en communs
Titre affiché (optionnel)
Une présentation de la notion de communs de la connaissance etun sur les Creative Commons, et de courts témoignages du réseau des communs.
Licence
Creative Commons
Groupe de cases à cocher
- Capsule vidéo produite pour le Mooc
- Film vidéo existant
Semaine
semaine 8
Objectifs d'apprentissage
Les participants au Mooc identifie la notion de Connaisance en communs comme enjeu de société et découvre différentes facettes de sa mise en oeuvre sur des cas concrets. Ils acquièrent la possibilité de rejoindre et renforcer le mouvement.
Type de mooc
X Mooc
Contenu et interactions proposées aux particpant-es
Une première vidéo d'introduction (Hervé Le Crosnier?), une vidéo / creative commons, une vidéo de présentation d'initiatives du réseau des communs.
Contraintes techniques et coûts estimé de fabrication
Prises de vue et/ou montage de vidéos existantes : 18 h, Production et mise en ligne : 6h, préparation, animation et suivi : 18h -> 2100 euros
[8.2] Étude de cas : Wikipédia
[8.2] Étude de cas : Wikipédia
Titre affiché (optionnel)
Wikipédia, son fonctionnement en communs, analyse critique
Durée estimée de l'activité en minutes
45
Licence
Creative Commons
Groupe de cases à cocher
- Webinaire interactif
Semaine
semaine 8
Objectifs d'apprentissage
Sur un cas connu et pratiqué massivement, les participants sont invités à identifier la mise en communs réalisée par le projet Wikipédia
Type de mooc
C Mooc
Contenu et interactions proposées aux particpant-es
Wébinaire avec des personnes engagées dans wikipédia comme animateurs, modérateurs et producteurs de contenus. Les participants sont invités à faire une synthèse sur la forme de communs que met en oeuvre Wikipédia, quels sont les rôles des différentes parties prenantes et ce qui constitue le bien commun ainsi constitué par ce fonctionnement en communs.
Contraintes techniques et coûts estimé de fabrication
Prises de contact, préparation du wébinaire, mise en place du dispositif technique, mise à disposition des participants de ressources complémentaires sur l'histoire, le fonctionnement et la dynamique de Wikipédia : 20h ; réciprocités pour le travail de production des participant.e.s engagées dans la synthèse destinée à devenir une ressource du MoocC (Mooc en Communs): 18h : 1900 euros
[8.3] Construire des connaissances en commun ?
[8.3] Construire des connaissances en commun ?
Titre affiché (optionnel)
Quelles sont les conditions de réussite de la construction et de la vie de connaissances gérées en commun ?
Licence
Creative Commons
Groupe de cases à cocher
- Réunion participative en visio
- Travail asynchrone sur le Wiki
Semaine
semaine 8
Objectifs d'apprentissage
Les participant.e.s sont invités à co-construire un dispositif de production, partage et utilisation de connaissances en communs. En s'inspirant de dispositifs existant, les participant.e.s sont invités à co-concevoir un dispositif de communs pour la production, le partage et la réutilisation des connaissances dans le domaine des communs.
Type de mooc
C Mooc
Contenu et interactions proposées aux particpant-es
Les participant.e.s à l'activité se manifestent dès le début du MOOC pour disposer d'un espace de travail partagé et d'un premier index de ressources concernant les communs (par exemple le.s groupe.s zotero sur les communs, ou d'autres ressources déjà organisées sur le sujet). La question posée est de faire une analyse critique des dispositifs existants et de faire une proposition d'organisation en communs qui pourrait faciliter une dynamique encore plus importante autour des communs. Les animateurs du Mooc et les correspondants des dispositifs existants mettent à disposition leur expérience en la matière. Le travail du groupe de l'activité peut commencer dès le début du MOOC et se clore par une réunion participative où les participant.e.s actifs/actives présenteront leur production aux autres participants moins actifs dans la préparation. La production de synthèse sera disponible pour tous les participants du MOOC. Les correspondant.e.s des dispositifs existants sont invités à commenter et enrichir la discussion et la production.
Contraintes techniques et coûts estimé de fabrication
Mobilisation des correspondant.e.s des communs de la connaissance du réseau des communs, organisation de ressources sur le sujet, mise en ligne, suivi du groupe de travail, préparation de la réunion participative, suivi de la production : 30h , mise en oeuvre technique et animation de la réunion participative : 3h, production du document de synthèse : 7h : 2000 euros
[9.1] Les Low-Techs en communs
[9.1] Les Low-Techs en communs
Titre affiché (optionnel)
Les communs comme le mode de développement le plus adapté aux Low-Techs ?
Durée estimée de l'activité en minutes
30
Licence
Creative Commons
Groupe de cases à cocher
- Capsule vidéo produite pour le Mooc
- Film vidéo existant
Semaine
semaine 9
Objectifs d'apprentissage
Permettre aussi bien aux acteurs des Low-Techs qu'aux participant.e.s intéressées de réfléchir à l'adéquation du modèle des communs pour facilite l'émergence des productions et usages Low-Techs
Type de mooc
X Mooc
Contenu et interactions proposées aux particpant-es
Les capsules vidéo seront soit fabriquées soit montées à partir des nombreuses ressources vidéo en ligne existantes autour des Low-Tech. Une co-production de l'activité Low-Tech du Mooc est envisagée avec le Low-Tech Lab. Proposition provisoire pour les capsules vidéo : 1) le Low-Tech Lab présente le paysage des low-techs et comment il se situe par rapport aux communs. 2) Présentation d'un collectif représentatif d'une activité low-tech en communs : par exemple Le Zéphyr, 3) Présentation d'un collectif représentatif des low-techs / réparation : par exemple L'atelier Soudé.
Contraintes techniques et coûts estimé de fabrication
Collecte, production des vidéos, montage, mise en ligne : 24h ; Ressources en ligne à mettre à disposition : 6h ; Préparation, animation, suivi forum : 8h -> 1900 euros
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